nightrider
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Hi all,
this is the first time I post. I thought I'd get your advice on my particular dating difficulties (sorry for the long post). Even though, I've read a lot of material, my dates always seem to be exceptions rather than follow the rule.
I'd like to know how you would have acted on this one particular date:
I met a girl on the Internet a few weeks ago. We exchanged pictures (I consider my self a 7, and her a 8) and finally she invited me at her place on a saturday night. I refused the invitation, and said I was busy (even if it was not true), so we finally met on a sunday night. OK so I arrived at her place, and we started talking.. The conversation was light and funny at first. She actually sat quite close to me on her couch.. showing me her pictures albums and talking about her job.
Ok so here's the bad part... after 2 hours (the evening was getting late).. I felt it became kinda boring.. and she never touched me but stayed close. So I tried to apply the first kiss,.. by getting close.. but she told me "why are so nervous?"... There I spilled my guts and made an ass of myself, and told her that I was nervous not knowing whether she wanted to kiss me also or not... She told me in an arrogant way.. "well I never touch someone on the first date.. We don't even know each other.. and I prefer to become friends first" Of course, I decided to leave, since I could see how unconfortable We had become. Of course, she hasn't talked to me since and I've not tried to contact her also since I figured that I'm already dead in the water.
So what do you think... do you think I would have had a chance by being more withdrawn.. or she was only not interested from the start.. Any advice is welcome.
this is the first time I post. I thought I'd get your advice on my particular dating difficulties (sorry for the long post). Even though, I've read a lot of material, my dates always seem to be exceptions rather than follow the rule.
I'd like to know how you would have acted on this one particular date:
I met a girl on the Internet a few weeks ago. We exchanged pictures (I consider my self a 7, and her a 8) and finally she invited me at her place on a saturday night. I refused the invitation, and said I was busy (even if it was not true), so we finally met on a sunday night. OK so I arrived at her place, and we started talking.. The conversation was light and funny at first. She actually sat quite close to me on her couch.. showing me her pictures albums and talking about her job.
Ok so here's the bad part... after 2 hours (the evening was getting late).. I felt it became kinda boring.. and she never touched me but stayed close. So I tried to apply the first kiss,.. by getting close.. but she told me "why are so nervous?"... There I spilled my guts and made an ass of myself, and told her that I was nervous not knowing whether she wanted to kiss me also or not... She told me in an arrogant way.. "well I never touch someone on the first date.. We don't even know each other.. and I prefer to become friends first" Of course, I decided to leave, since I could see how unconfortable We had become. Of course, she hasn't talked to me since and I've not tried to contact her also since I figured that I'm already dead in the water.
So what do you think... do you think I would have had a chance by being more withdrawn.. or she was only not interested from the start.. Any advice is welcome.