Your analogy and logic is off. Does the teacher care if you've studied 18 hours or 1 hour? No. All they care about is if you get the question right. Does the employer care if you've spent 18 hours or 1 hour doing the report? No. All he cares about is if you get the report right. Does the woman care if you've "studied" all your life to get a girlfriend? No. Does the woman care you've never had girlfriend? No. Does the woman care that having a girlfriend has constantly eluded you? No.
1+1 will always be 2. Whether it's a simple question like that or advanced calculus, the answer will be the same. If I don't know the answer, I can study more, or get outside help. But regardless of the amount or type of effort I put in, the answer I arrive at will always be the same. If I don't want to go through the effort at all, I can cheat or google it or whatever, but the answer will still be the same.
All the woman cares about is if you can turn her on right.
And I don't know how the hell I do that. All I know is what hasn't worked, and the list of what might work is growing shorter and shorter. Adding to the confusion is what has never worked for me, does work for other guys, sometimes even with the same girl. See the dilemma? Unlike 1+1, there is no set answer.
The closest thing to a semi-reliable answer seems to become megarich and find a golddigger. No, I do not want to do that.
I can pursue girls, and they'll be disinterested. I can be just do whatever and not care, and they'll be disinterested. I can be friendly and they'll be disinterested. I can be aloof and they'll be disinterested. I can be ****y and aggressive and they'll be disinterested. I can be passive and aloof and they'll be disinterested. Hot girls, ugly girls, tall girls, short girls, fat girls, skinny girls, it's constant across the entire spectrum. I've been the absolute passive AFC, and I've gone all out saying **** it all and leaving a trail of social destruction and scorched earth in my wake. Everything produces the same results: nothing.
Sometimes I wonder if my problem is biochemical, if I'm missing some pheromone or other chemical factor that other guys have. Because really, statistically speaking even if I'm totally messed up, you'd think at least one girl would have shown or reciprocated interest at some point in my life. Drug addicts to bums to bipedal land whales get women. So why don't I?
Friends of both sexes in my life express confusion as to why I'm still and chronically single too. They're of no practical help though, of course. I'm never offered opportunities to be introduced to their single female friends, I'm never offered advice as to what could be wrong with me, always claiming I'm a great guy a girl would be lucky to have.
I'm no so much angry with women as I am frustrated, exhausted, and confused.
If there were no women in this world, you wouldn't brush your teeth? You wouldn't eat breakfast? Yes, men try to look better, get better jobs, dress better, groom better, get more friends, usually in the the pursuit of getting into a relationship or having sex with woman, but in the end its for them to be a better person. When you do something to appease another party in hopes of that party giving you want you want, and if they find out, they can and will make life miserable for you. That's no way to live, that's no way to enjoy yourself, that's no way to try new things.
Everyone does a lot of things to appease other people, even in completely non-sexual ways. That's just a part of living in society. The fact that men want to attract women (and vice a versa) adds just another equation to the mix. For example: some guys living together. Do you think they care if they go farting around all day, or wearing underwear, no deodorant, filthy dishes always in the sink? But what happens when a girl enters the picture?
Right now I'm in my room, wearing a plain T-shirt and shorts, coke bottle glasses, hair messed up. An hour ago when I was out, I was wearing slick jeans, polo, and blazer, contacts, hair neat. Why? Because I'm alone in my room now where no one could care less what I look like. I was out before in the middle of society where I had to look presentable to the people I interact with.
Yes you are magically attractive now....Yes, you weren't good enough for her back then, you are A+ material now. Everyone has regrets, everyone wishes life were better, everyone wishes they had done things differently,
The womenfolk apparently think otherwise.
, use it to your full advantage. Play it up, be happy, be fun, be exciting. All those guys that went out dancing and drinking with her when she was younger may not even be able to afford rent right now. Would you like to be in their position?
Honestly, I don't know. Life isn't all about money and material success, is it?
the point is, you have to look towards the future.
I see a very bright future for myself. I am confident of this. Unfortunately, I have trouble seeing a woman in it.
Give me a year's timeframe. I have more confidence in obtaining a Ferrari in that one year than I have in getting a girlfriend. Give me a lifetime. I have more confidence in becoming Omnipotent Ruler of the World in that timeframe than I have in getting a girlfriend. That's what the evidence in my life is telling me.
