Dating for Black guys

[Dman101]

Are there any programs dvds or ebooks that are for black men. I know a lot of the dating books and programs out there are good for anyone from a mindset perspective, but as far as what to actually do and say, a lot of the programs are lame. I was watching some Mystery Method DVD's and showed some of the openers to one of my female friends and she was just shaking her head. Some of these openers are so lame like Hey do girls think the rockstar David Bowie is hot, or what do you think of women with tattoes. Stuff like that would never ever fly with a black women.

Does anyone know what I can read or watch. I cant approach a woman and I'm extremely nervous around women mainly because I dont know what to say or do.

 

[Jhcl4000]

You ever tried thinking of your own stuff? If you're looking for openers observe the girl you're going to talk to, or your surroundings. Comment on her outfit, hair, nails, something that's going on around you, whatever.

But wow at the David Bowie opener... That is just terrible. I wouldn't use that on anyone.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Dman1O1,


As a Black man, you like myself, are very well aware that "game", as it is espoused on some websites and marketed by most dating gurus is almost USELESS when it comes to working on Black girls.

There is an element of hardness and a difference in romance styles that make the majority of Black women (in Western Cultures) at least upwards to 75% immune to PUA tricks, traps, and techniques.

My suggestion to you soldier is to put MOST of your focus into building up who you are on the INSIDE first, then focus on learning and adapting whatever romantic tactics that others use to fit YOUR strenths and weaknesses.

Over time, you will find that the more strong you are on the inside, the less you'll need to concern yourself quite so much with how you come across on the outside (within reason of course). There are very few weapons more powerful at getting you the TYPE of woman you want than by continuously working to become the best man that YOU can be.

In other words, execute as much ANXIETY and/or DESPERATION that you may feel on the inside concerning women. Know that women are like deer in a sense:

1. They are very skittish and nervous. This empathic part of their nature makes them very sensitive to picking up your uncertainty and nervousness--------thus making THEM uncertain and nervous about YOU. So they'll be more prone to either avoid or run away from you.

2. Also, like deer: If you continue to work on yourself in the areas of your looks, your financial status, your style, and your substance--------then you will shine brighter in the eyes of some women than high beam HEADLIGHTS.

And when that happens, just like a deer...the right women for YOU will be frozen in place, waiting for you to approach them and get to know them.

Why?

Because they'll be just like DEER in struck by the brilliance of the "headlights" of the kind of man YOU ARE.


Also, as far as Sosuave is concerned, I advise you to read each and every thread started by myself (check my signature), Interceptor, Anti-Dump, and Pook.

All the people I have listed have much to say about building up the INNER man----not "just" more suggestions of tips designed to hopefully "trick" some woman into falling for you TEMPORARILY.

Keep your head up, and MUCH RESPECT to you and all others who may read this post.


Soldier on.

 

[Dman101]

very good stuff. I think the nervouness and anxiety is a big problem for me as I've kind of lost my social skills after being out of the game for a while, so I plan on working on that along with going to the gym to muscle up a little (6'4 205 with a little belly). I"m trying to watch some David D inner game stuff as thats what got me in the game 5 yrs ago from a shy loser to a guy who could get a lot of girls (online based on my looks met over 100 girls from online in person), and also watch some other inner game stuff over the next few months.

I feel like in a club I could approach a girl if I knew exactly what to say. My problem is I have no clue what to say to have a longer conversation. The last time I tried the girl told me that what I said was corny lol. I had never approached in my life until recently so I'd say I've approached 4 or 5 girls in my life. I cant dance at all so Ive been just going to the clubs doing nothing lately. I think if I had a good direct approach that lasted less than 2 min and went for a number that would work best. Do you have any ideas on this.

Right now, I'm still living in the past trying to get back some of the beautiful girls I've dealt with in the past as im in a huge rut. One of these girls actually initiated with me after not seeing her for 2 yrs ( ii thoght I fukd it up by touching her in a weird way) and we've been kinda dating since September. I didnt have much confidence with it, but shes a nice girl asked me to hang out and I've been seeing her once every 2-3 weeks or so. She's 21 and it took me 6 dates to finally kiss her lol. I got her naked that same day and thought we'd have sex, but she said she likes me but shes a virgin. I think the girl clearly likes me, but my lack of confidence makes me avoid her by never calling and just texting once or 2x a week and seein her infrequently. I txtd her last nite to wish her a hppy new yrs and she said shes coming back to school next week and we should get together, so I think she has pretty high interest if I would just close the deal. What you think I should do about this girl?

 

[scribblec]

i dont get you black guys... most white girls in london are curious for black ****, ive been to a few clubs where it is predominantly black and the only reason any girl thats not black was there was for black guys, its the whole image thing that does it for them and they dont even have to try and ive seen it with my own eyes. so if your having trouble pulling girls as a black guy theres probably something seriously wrong with you. we even have a nickname for these sort of girls

BML - black man lover


and its usually the blonde white girls or just any white girl lol

 

[Dman101]

Well its not like I'm only after white girls, I want all good looking girls regardless of their race. My issue is I have the looks 8.5 at least height- 6'4, job - work for a large company, car-infiniti and apartment, I just lack the confidence and game to put any of this to good use. I stayed home too much the past few yrs and have lost socialization skills, and feel nervous when I'm out. I'm looking to change this in 2010 and finally have a ton of women in my life

 

[bukowski_merit]

Honestly, there's not much "game" and specific things to say tossed around on here... You are in a much better place than most when it comes to "status" items (job, car, money, etc). What you lack is inner confidence (which you state), which does not matter what kind of girls you're gaming - they will all detect that. So that is what you need to fix first and the rest will come easy after that.

As far as game changing across races - it does. It also changes across cultural backgrounds. However the changes are pretty small.

Just fix your confidence and you'll be better 100% better than any set of lines.

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I also don't think there's any shame in exploiting the fact that there's plenty of white women out there who will spread their legs for just about any black man. Hoes? sure. Normally a little fvcked in the head? you bet. But defintely a potential confidence boaster. Or just someone to do when you're in a drought.

 

[Special T]

You should be rolling in b*tches dude. Based on your height alone, that's an "in". How can you **** it up when you already have the green light?

 

[Dman101]

What do you guys think then would be the best way to improve my inner game. I'm definately going to hit the gym starting monday to bulk up. What else is good to read watch or do to improve in this area

 

[Dman101]

My issue is i dont know what to say and I get nervous. Therefore in my life I"ve met every girl i've dated online. I met over 100 girls online and back then I was dealing with younger girls since I was younger so it was easy. Now it feels like girls dont go for me online as much and if they do, the date sucks. I want to get a ton of plates but I need some advice on how to improve to get back on track

 

[macallik]

I said it before and you probably don't want to hear it again, but how is going to the gym going to fix any of your problems Dman101? I mean if you already confessed to having at least 1 chick a night approach YOU in the club, then working out isn't the answer. It will increase the amount of girls that approach you a little bit more but it still won't solve any of the issues you have.

 

[Rookie_son]

i dont get you black guys... most white girls in london are curious for black ****, ive been to a few clubs where it is predominantly black and the only reason any girl thats not black was there was for black guys, its the whole image thing that does it for them and they dont even have to try and ive seen it with my own eyes. so if your having trouble pulling girls as a black guy theres probably something seriously wrong with you. we even have a nickname for these sort of girls

BML - black man lover


and its usually the blonde white girls or just any white girl lol

In Sydney, Australia, when i run into any girl who starts with/her friend comes and says it/ or within the 5 minutes with how she loooooves black guys, i nod my head say "do you now" and RUN. (Their either fat or there's something wrong with them except for one is what i learned in life so far)

From the non-black girls i have had as gf's or dated they never mentioned it, it was just the same as getting to know/dating a black girl doing the whole courtship thing etc etc.

Are there any programs dvds or ebooks that are for black men.

women are all the same man, i never changed what i did depending on what race she was, you just gotta find the one that goes with your style really, that you feel represents you. i recommend just reading some of the better posts here in the archive and if you scroll down there should be the dj bible and other assortments when you click on that link to help you. David Deangelo is also good in the sense that he's trying to drill inner-confidence in you, no gimmicks or anything, just focusing on improving all aspects of your life.

Thats how i developed my confidence, gym and muay thai to get fit and feeling/looking good. university for career, soccerr because i love it, moving out when i turned 18 becoming heaps more independent, travelling around (doesnt even have to be overseas just go on a roadtrip). focus on your life, putting it all together, being active, have fun, explore, do something new, **** up and learn from it. thats how you become confident and women become a natural by product (if only most guys realised that, they dont need to remember anything just focus on you and live your life)

 

[J Roc]

Dman, check out Tariq Nasheed

http://www.theurbanrenaissanceman.com/tariq/

all women arent the same. you have to switch modes sometimes when dealing with different classes/cultures/races of women.

 

[Dman101]

When I work out consistently I feel more confident and at peace, like I can kick someones ass if need be and energized. This could put u in a better headspace to talk and be more social I think.

 

[Dman101]

Just wanted to say I found the book I've been looking for called the Mack within by Tariq Nasheem. I just read his first book the Art of Makin and its gold. I'm about to read his second book now