Dating App Emergency/Dumpster fire/Trainwreck serious help needed....

[RiseandGrind]

Hey guys:

How's your Dating app journey? I can write a book on my experience. I'm 41, a Surgeon, work in the ER with long & crazy hours, so my going out time is limited, so when I do, I really have to make it count. Have a lot of great things going for me & I feel I have some personality and game to make ends meet. I get some matches on the apps, but I feel as though I'm being overlooked by women on the apps, especially in the 20s & to a certain extent, in the 30s, which wasn't an issue a year ago. The few matches I do get are mostly in their 50s & overall some ok women, but nobody that really moves the needle. I've worked with some pro photographers as you can see in the Dropbox link below & my results are hit or miss. Its so bad, its got to the point where my family wonder if I'll ever meet anyone. I'm in the process of leveling up, working out, & upgrading the fashion. I've heard so many mixed reviews from other places, my head is spinning. I'm at wits end trying to match with better quality women on these apps. Please guys, I'd greatly appreciate your honest & candid feedback on what you like, don't like, & most importantly can be improved upon. Seems like most people around me are meeting off these apps, even my patients as I hear the stories. I've wasted so many years trying to get this right & despite the hurdles, I'm determined more than ever to pull through this. Let's keep this post positive as we're all on this journey together & I truly wish for all of you guys to find success & happiness in this area.

Cheers,

Rise&Grind

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[Serenity]

Looks like you know what to do already. Stop using the apps and do it the old fashioned way instead.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Hey Doc,

I would suggest you try a bit to “harden” your look, no offense but you come off a bit metro. May I ask what your provenance is? The way I see it you could be Latino, black American, or even Indian. Do you have an accent in English? What metro area are you using OLD in?

Also I KNOW that your hospital has tons of young traveler RN’s there on 6 month contracts, if I was trying to date gals in their 20’s that would be a natural pool to fish from. Make sure you put your best badass surgeon look and swagger when you do rounds in the step downs and ICU’s.

 

[Gamisch]

If you'd allowed me I'd pick 3/5 of yoir best pics and advice you to onmy use those.

Secondly, you are simply TOO desperate. You shouldn't walk around being this desperate. My catchphrase is : women smell desperation from a mile a way and it reeks like horse shyte.

Also ,stop aiming for women in their 20,s. I know men will disagree with me, thats cool.

But women in their 20 for a 40 y.o man is ONLY an option when he feels comfortable running game. You yet gotta settle and find your niche and favorable way to do this. Start at level 1.

Go nofap. Stay away from the game, BUT leave your profile up.

I am now talking with 3 women. And thats oke. Why you guys wanna have 300 matches and shyte? 2 or 3 women is fine, 1 will like you enough to feck you.

Give me permission and I'll dm you ,or even better, ill say in this thread what pictures I'd use and why so others can learn from this as well.

Time to man up. You are a walking atm for some h0es out there. Be EXTREMELY CAREFUL!!

(Idgaf if its staged or not.)

 

[Learning Curve]

Hey guys:

How's your Dating app journey? I can write a book on my experience. I'm 41, a Surgeon, work in the ER with long & crazy hours, so my going out time is limited, so when I do, I really have to make it count. Have a lot of great things going for me & I feel I have some personality and game to make ends meet. I get some matches on the apps, but I feel as though I'm being overlooked by women on the apps, especially in the 20s & to a certain extent, in the 30s, which wasn't an issue a year ago. The few matches I do get are mostly in their 50s & overall some ok women, but nobody that really moves the needle. I've worked with some pro photographers as you can see in the Dropbox link below & my results are hit or miss. Its so bad, its got to the point where my family wonder if I'll ever meet anyone. I'm in the process of leveling up, working out, & upgrading the fashion. I've heard so many mixed reviews from other places, my head is spinning. I'm at wits end trying to match with better quality women on these apps. Please guys, I'd greatly appreciate your honest & candid feedback on what you like, don't like, & most importantly can be improved upon. Seems like most people around me are meeting off these apps, even my patients as I hear the stories. I've wasted so many years trying to get this right & despite the hurdles, I'm determined more than ever to pull through this. Let's keep this post positive as we're all on this journey together & I truly wish for all of you guys to find success & happiness in this area.

Cheers,

Rise&Grind

Transfer - Dropbox

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www.dropbox.com

Your pictures are quite good.

That's not the problem.

You using dating apps as the main source to find women is the problem. Yes you can use them as a second or third source to your toolbox to find women but it never should be your main source.

You are a surgeon, you should use that high-profile job to network with people and like-minded individuals around your network to build a range of meetups and going out after work to find women. Use your job as a tool not just for work.

Apart from that, cold approach and going out should be your number one priority to find young and hot women. Because in person you are showing your personality that women can get attracted to. From dating apps you are faceless and it's a waste of time.

Learn to cold-approach, to network and go out. If your job is demanding and you can't go out that much, find other ways around it.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Go on seeking arrangements or do it the old fashioned way. Most younger women on the apps use an age filter and you are too old to qualify for them.