Dating an girl with an boyfriend,she's planning to leave him for me!!

[Yoruba]

I am dating an girl who's in an relationship now,she's so attracted to me and constantly telling me how wonderfull i am and nice,but i am keeping an distance because of her relationship.
She's thinking of leaving her boyfriend for me,how should i handle this situation tacticly,should i tell her to try to better things with her boyfriend or just leave him an come to DJ,i like this girl very much and would like her to be my girlfirend,any tips are welcome!!


Greetings,

Yoruba.

 

[Genghis Juan]

My strategy would be this:

1. Date other girls, get other interesting girls in the pipeline so you don't get one-itis.

2. Be on RED ALERT. A girl who demonstrates this lack of loyalty to her current BF, could be demonstrative of a character with little loyalty. Believe me, if and when you become involved with this girl, you may find yourself constantly looking over your shoulder. What goes around, comes around.

I am not sure what your goal is though. Are you looking for an LTR or a lay?

If you are looking for a lay, no need for the red alert. If you are looking for an LTR, you may want to reconsider this. A girl who is not loyal to her current BF, probably won't be loyal to you once she becomes bored with you.

 

[Yoruba]

The problem is that she was attracted to me before this boyfriend,but i was engaged at the time,now i am single again,she after me like an shark and tells me that she's missing alot in her relationship with this dude,and with me she finds what she's been missing ;-).....i like her very much,but you're right abouth the cheating stuff,i was thinking of an LR...but i am re-thinking myself now......


Greetings,


Yoruba.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Ok I'm in the same exact boat right now and let me tell you that I TOTALLY disagree with Genghis Juan.

-A girl will only cheat on her boyfriend if she REALLY doesn't care/like him that much. Hot girls have this compelling feeling to always have a boyfriend, they feel like if they're single and hot, that something must be wrong with them.

-If you combine her lack of interest in her current man and a incredible attraction on all levels with someone else, then that's just nature taking its course. Its hard to deny a strong connection. I'm sure tons of us have connected with girls but since they were in committed happy relationships, they didn't act on it.

I think in your specific situation that your in the driver's seat. She obiviously is attracted to you on a higher level. As long as you keep doing what you've been doing, she'll be yours.


As far as "what goes around comes around," I think that's horse-shiat too!! An Alpha Male is always in control of the situation, if the relationship ever got to a point where he felt like he was losing control he'd get out right there.

An AFC would stay, clinging hoping that somehow the girl would fall for him again. Instead that just pushes her further and further away. The girl might be a little insecure too, she wants to make sure your going to be her new man before she really leaves her current one.


You've got it in the bag bro.



PIMP

 

[ScrewIt]

be wary my friend...she said the word "nice" are you sure her bf isnt the jerk and you're the "nice guy"?

i hear often that girls dump their bf's cause they meet someone new who isnt a jerk like their bf. then later wants her ex back cause she got bored of the nice guy cause he was too predictable in the end.

btw, she jus SAYS she's gonna dump him for you. but do u really know what she's thinking? NO

i believe her feelings for her bf still exist, but also found high IL in the new guy (that being you). i doubt she really knows what she wants.

if she broke up w/her bf during the time she didnt know anybody new, then hell then go for it. but just be careful, she seems like a DJ. maybe she's even using you to make her bf jealous. even tho it may be subconsciously, she could be using you to step on while in turn, benefiting the other 2's relationship

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle
A girl will only cheat on her boyfriend if she REALLY doesn't care/like him that much. Hot girls have this compelling feeling to always have a boyfriend, they feel like if they're single and hot, that something must be wrong with them.

Which is exactly why girls tend to cheat so much... they can't stand to leave one guy without another guy right there waiting for her. With a lot of these girls, the grass is always greener, and she's always looking for the Next Big Thing. If you're the Next Big Thing this time around, bully for you. However, when next time's Next Big Thing comes around, you'll be on the curb just as fast.

So while it may be true that a girl who cheats doesn't really care/like their boyfriend too much, that doesn't necessarily mean that they like the other guy either. And when a girl has this known pattern, she's very likely to continue doing it.

Now, I'm not going to say, "This is how this situation will go... blah blah blah..." because who can tell? But let me tell you a little story.

Once upon a time there was this dude, and he was a DJ, or he thought he was. He was walking along outside, and it was freezing. He hears this voice, and he looks down, and there's this deadly poisonous rattlesnake -- but it was an HB9 deadly poisonous rattlesnake.

So the snake says to this dude, "Hey, I'm freezing, I'm dying. I will definitely die unless you take me into your warm arms and warm me up."

But the dude, being such an awesome DJ, was like, "I don't think so... I know what you're about. You may be an HB9 rattlesnake, but you're still a deadly poisonous rattlesnake and you will bite me and I'll die."

"No, no," said the HB9 rattlesnake. "If you took me into your warm DJ arms and saved me from freezing to death I would be eternally grateful and I would never do anything to hurt you, ever."

The DJ thought about it and judged the HB9 rattlesnake to be sincere. So he scooped her up into his warm DJ arms, and she was so happy because he had saved her from freezing to death. For a while, everything seemed fine, but then all of a sudden, out of the blue, she bit him, shooting venom into his bloodstream. He fell to the ground, dying, as she started to slither away. "Wait!" he called after her. "I saved you! You told me you would never hurt me!"

She turned briefly and looked at the DJ, and if it were possible for snakes to shrug, she would have. Then, she casually called out behind her, "You knew what I was when you picked me up."

THE END

There's a lesson in that, DJs.

 

[squirrels]

How long has she been telling you she's going to leave her man for you? A week? A month? A year? Two years?

If you want this girl to fool around with, that's one thing (have you had sex with her yet?) If you're looking for a relationship...pay attention to what she DOES, not what she says. It'd be a shame if you waited and waited (and wasted all your other opportunities) and she never actually LEAVES her boyfriend.

 

[WestCoaster]

Next!!

C'mon, first rule of DJism: Whenever a woman starts gravitating towards another guy or doesn't want to be with you ... NEXT!

I'm sure we can get the minute details of every little thing she does and how she makes you feel ... doesn't matter.

Next!

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Originally posted by Yoruba
She's thinking of leaving her boyfriend for me,how should i handle this situation tacticly,should i tell her to try to better things with her boyfriend or just leave him an come to DJ,

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I wouldn't tell her to better things with her boyfriend or tell her to leave him. What she does with her boyfriend is none of your business. If she leaves him then it will be done only by her and her alone. I also wouldn't sit around waiting for her to dump him either.

 

[Yoruba]

Originally posted by ScrewIt
be wary my friend...she said the word "nice" are you sure her bf isnt the jerk and you're the "nice guy"?

i hear often that girls dump their bf's cause they meet someone new who isnt a jerk like their bf. then later wants her ex back cause she got bored of the nice guy cause he was too predictable in the end.

This is the reason the she's having problems of leaving her boyfriend because his so nice and kind to her,problem is she feels so guilty because her boyfriend loves her to death and treats her so well but she is just not really attracted to him anymore,she feels guilty,because "she knows how it feels to be left by somebody"thats her argument......i'm being an good DJ by keeping my distance and being scarce for her...but she keeps mailing and calling me for appointments etc..,and she's had more sex with me in an month than in 1 year with her boyfriend!!!!

She wants to take 2 months off to break-up with her boyfriend,but in between she is still coming by and we have sex etc....how do i have to interpret this situation,do i have to continue with this affair,the problem is that i really like this girl.

Greetings,

Yoruba.

 

[NewMan]

She wants to take 2 months off to break-up with her boyfriend,but in between she is still coming by and we have sex etc....how do i have to interpret this situation,do i have to continue with this affair,the problem is that i really like this girl.

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Dude, don't get sucked in to this sh#t.

By all means fvck her if that's what you want to do - but this chick has some serious trust/honesty issues.

If she can do this to him - she can do it to you. Remember that - because at one time in the past those things she's been telling you - she also told her current guy.

Your getting sucked in by the pvssy. Remember it's just pvssy.

The post above regarding the snake - well you should read that again - because guys have a tendancy to overlook a womans issue base. If she fvcked her current guy over - she'll fvck you over should she lose interest in you - and as you know, all relationships go through this phase.

 

[JohnJones]

Originally posted by NewMan


The post above regarding the snake - well you should read that again - because guys have a tendancy to overlook a womans issue base. If she fvcked her current guy over - she'll fvck you over should she lose interest in you - and as you know, all relationships go through this phase.

Listen to NewMan: even if she is ready to be different with you because the stars are in allignment, etc. (and some people, including myself, who have cheated and lied in the past do turn over new leaves, etc.), she will always be closer and more accustomed to lying and cheating than many other girls.

Its always nice to have a girl promise to be true to you because you are special or unique and she has never met anyone like you, but the woman's integrity should not depend on the quality of the man involved.

 

[silverwex]

This happened to me before, she cheated with me on her bf and told me she really wanted to be with me and all. When we start seeing eachother she went off with a fella she knew for ages. 2 weeks after she said she really wanted to be with me!!!

BE WARY!

If she starts acting like a little queen... walk away!

These girls cant be read easily!

 

[DJ_Dork]

You want a tip Yoruba? I 'll give it to you like all the other guys have given it to you. DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH HER, RUN!

 

[Yoruba]

Originally posted by DJ_Dork
You want a tip Yoruba? I 'll give it to you like all the other guys have given it to you. DON'T GET INVOLVED WITH HER, RUN!

Is this always like this,like an rule "if she cheat on her BF she'll certainly cheat on you,"she keeps telling me that she's never done this before,and she's not doing this cheating anymore,an how bad she feels about it,but after reading the above informations i have my doubts now...maybe a have to hit and run from this hot chick!?


Greetings dudes,

Yoruba.

 

[ScrewIt]

i agree have a hit n run w/this check, bang her brains out, but just dont get emotionally attached to her.

dont give her what she wants, just keep stringing her along.
The more you bang the more power she has. dont bang her when she wants to bang. do it occasionally. remember hot N cold?

i've heard in a previous post that gf + bf banged so constantly.
then all of a sudden she's been decreasing the amount of sex and has made that guy into her slave.