Deathfyre
Don Juan
Sorry this seems to have gone on so long, if you don't want to read the whole thing, just read the first and last paragraphs and post a response.
Ok, I ran a search on this subject, all I could find were posts about whether or not it's ok/right to date a younger girl, all they could come up with was that it's a matter of opinion, and local law. She's legal here, and I'm ok with it, so this post isn't about that.
A little background.
Over the summer I worked at a gas station (I'm in university now). On my last day for the summer, this chick comes in, she's a regular customer, and good looking, I would've guessed she was 16 or 17 years old (I'm 18). She was in with her mom, and I was talking to them, and mentioned that it was my last day, that I was going back to school, etc. and so on. They leave, and later she comes back on her quad (country gas station), and she's alone this time. She brought me a nice little chain, said it was a going away present, I'd guess it was no more than $10, but it's a cool chain, suits me nicely. I ask for her name and number, she would only give me her name, she said "You'll have to work a little harder for my number." I have to help other customers, she leaves. She comes back again later, when there aren't very many customers around, and tells me that I should feel special, that she almost never changes her mind, and she hands me a piece of paper with her first and last name and phone number on it. She stays this time to talk with me and my coworkers, my coworkers show they're complete afcs, she tells me later that she now hates both of them. Anyways, during the convo, I find out that she is Jamie's little sister.
Jamie is a cool guy, in the gas station all the time, one time (before the above paragraph) he was in with his wife and sister in the car, I asked who the 2 good looking girls in the car were, he says they're his wife and sister. I asked him about his sister, he tells me she's too young for me, that if I go near her he'll beat me. Every time he comes in, I joke about his sister, at one point he tells me that she is 14. All the time I joked about his sister, I never actually got a good look at her, so when she came in to give me the chain/phone number, I didn't realize it was his sister. When she told me, I was surprised that she was so young. She didn't look it, or sound it.
I debated for a few days whether or not I should even call her because she was so young, eventually decided to, went out to a movie, good kino, small kiss, and her mom drove me home (my car was out of commission at the time) and I only got a goodnight hug because her mom was there.
I was busy for a while, so I hadn't called her, when she calls me, and asks if I want to come out to a party, I told her my car was broke, and that I'd need a ride (she's out of the city). She tells me she'll ask her bro if he can give me a ride, and he agrees to (surprisingly). They call back later, and they can't come get me, because I'll have no way to get back the next day. Ah well, no bigie.
I get my car fixed eventually, and call her up, ask her if she wants to take me quading, she says sure, so I drive out there on saturday, we go quading, watch some movies, go for a walk, and kiss a few times. Later we go to visit her brother at his place, her mom actually lets me drive her car (she'd had a few to drink and didn't want to drive) and later comments that she was impressed with my driving. We go see her brother Jaimie, and her other brother Jarett was there too. Jaimie seems cool with me seeing her, jokingly gives me a hard time, but I don't doubt he'll stop joking if I fvck up. Jarett doesn't seem so happy to see me. I find out after he leaves, that he says he wants to beat me up. Now, if Jaimie had wanted to beat me up, I wouldn't be too worried, he's a little bigger than me, but between Tae Kwon Do, and some practical fighting experience I'm confident I could take him. Jarett on the other hand is huge.
At some point her mom suggested I be her date to a wedding that's on Sunday (the next day). I figure, what the hell, I'm not doing anything, I asked her what she thinks, she says sure, so I go home, get up the next day and get dressed to go to a wedding. I meet at her place about 12:40, hang out there until everyone else shows up, and go to the ceremony... kinda boring, but I've been to worse. At the reception things get interesting. First her mom offers to buy me a drink, because I didn't bring any cash. Then her mom buys me another one. So her mom seems to like me. Her dad never seems to smile when I'm around, and I don't think he likes me very much. Later on at the reception, something happened that totaly surprised me. Her brother Jarett bought me 2 drinks.
Wedding ends, we go home, me and her hide downstairs to cuddle and make out a little. Just a little bit of tongue, nothing too heavy. Time to go comes, I go home, go to bed, get up the next day, etc. and so on, and now I'm here typing.
She's 14, I'm 18.
My question isn't how to sleep with her, or anything like that, because I'm sure if I really wanted to, I could convince her to sleep with me. My questions are how to develop a good relationship with her brothers and their wives (her and her sisters in law are good friends) and her parents. And how not to screw up that relationship after it's built. And how to keep myself from hurting her, she's a nice girl, doesn't deserve to be hurt, but I'm afraid it'll be easy to hurt her because she's younger than me. Anyone who read through the above story, please let me know what I've done right and wrong, and make suggestions about what else I can do. If you need any more info, just ask.
Ok, I ran a search on this subject, all I could find were posts about whether or not it's ok/right to date a younger girl, all they could come up with was that it's a matter of opinion, and local law. She's legal here, and I'm ok with it, so this post isn't about that.
A little background.
Over the summer I worked at a gas station (I'm in university now). On my last day for the summer, this chick comes in, she's a regular customer, and good looking, I would've guessed she was 16 or 17 years old (I'm 18). She was in with her mom, and I was talking to them, and mentioned that it was my last day, that I was going back to school, etc. and so on. They leave, and later she comes back on her quad (country gas station), and she's alone this time. She brought me a nice little chain, said it was a going away present, I'd guess it was no more than $10, but it's a cool chain, suits me nicely. I ask for her name and number, she would only give me her name, she said "You'll have to work a little harder for my number." I have to help other customers, she leaves. She comes back again later, when there aren't very many customers around, and tells me that I should feel special, that she almost never changes her mind, and she hands me a piece of paper with her first and last name and phone number on it. She stays this time to talk with me and my coworkers, my coworkers show they're complete afcs, she tells me later that she now hates both of them. Anyways, during the convo, I find out that she is Jamie's little sister.
Jamie is a cool guy, in the gas station all the time, one time (before the above paragraph) he was in with his wife and sister in the car, I asked who the 2 good looking girls in the car were, he says they're his wife and sister. I asked him about his sister, he tells me she's too young for me, that if I go near her he'll beat me. Every time he comes in, I joke about his sister, at one point he tells me that she is 14. All the time I joked about his sister, I never actually got a good look at her, so when she came in to give me the chain/phone number, I didn't realize it was his sister. When she told me, I was surprised that she was so young. She didn't look it, or sound it.
I debated for a few days whether or not I should even call her because she was so young, eventually decided to, went out to a movie, good kino, small kiss, and her mom drove me home (my car was out of commission at the time) and I only got a goodnight hug because her mom was there.
I was busy for a while, so I hadn't called her, when she calls me, and asks if I want to come out to a party, I told her my car was broke, and that I'd need a ride (she's out of the city). She tells me she'll ask her bro if he can give me a ride, and he agrees to (surprisingly). They call back later, and they can't come get me, because I'll have no way to get back the next day. Ah well, no bigie.
I get my car fixed eventually, and call her up, ask her if she wants to take me quading, she says sure, so I drive out there on saturday, we go quading, watch some movies, go for a walk, and kiss a few times. Later we go to visit her brother at his place, her mom actually lets me drive her car (she'd had a few to drink and didn't want to drive) and later comments that she was impressed with my driving. We go see her brother Jaimie, and her other brother Jarett was there too. Jaimie seems cool with me seeing her, jokingly gives me a hard time, but I don't doubt he'll stop joking if I fvck up. Jarett doesn't seem so happy to see me. I find out after he leaves, that he says he wants to beat me up. Now, if Jaimie had wanted to beat me up, I wouldn't be too worried, he's a little bigger than me, but between Tae Kwon Do, and some practical fighting experience I'm confident I could take him. Jarett on the other hand is huge.
At some point her mom suggested I be her date to a wedding that's on Sunday (the next day). I figure, what the hell, I'm not doing anything, I asked her what she thinks, she says sure, so I go home, get up the next day and get dressed to go to a wedding. I meet at her place about 12:40, hang out there until everyone else shows up, and go to the ceremony... kinda boring, but I've been to worse. At the reception things get interesting. First her mom offers to buy me a drink, because I didn't bring any cash. Then her mom buys me another one. So her mom seems to like me. Her dad never seems to smile when I'm around, and I don't think he likes me very much. Later on at the reception, something happened that totaly surprised me. Her brother Jarett bought me 2 drinks.
Wedding ends, we go home, me and her hide downstairs to cuddle and make out a little. Just a little bit of tongue, nothing too heavy. Time to go comes, I go home, go to bed, get up the next day, etc. and so on, and now I'm here typing.
She's 14, I'm 18.
My question isn't how to sleep with her, or anything like that, because I'm sure if I really wanted to, I could convince her to sleep with me. My questions are how to develop a good relationship with her brothers and their wives (her and her sisters in law are good friends) and her parents. And how not to screw up that relationship after it's built. And how to keep myself from hurting her, she's a nice girl, doesn't deserve to be hurt, but I'm afraid it'll be easy to hurt her because she's younger than me. Anyone who read through the above story, please let me know what I've done right and wrong, and make suggestions about what else I can do. If you need any more info, just ask.
