Dating a more successful woman

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I recently just met a woman who doubles my income. I chatted with her for a few minutes and got her number. After, i talked to a mutual friend and found out that she had only dated doctors in the past. We had scheduled a lunch date for today (6-21-2011); i can't help but feel so intimidated and insecured about courting her. I'm no doctor so what do i have to offer her? this question keeps running through my mind. Yet, at the same time, she knew i was no doctor; so why give me her number and then agree on having lunch with me.

edit 06-22-2011
I forgot to mention that she's 4 years older than i am.
 
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So you base how "successful" someone is on their income?
A case in point: Ghandi. Poor man money wise, but one of the most succesful men of all time with regards human rights & peace.
An extreme analogy perhaps, but to measure someones "success" on their income is wholly problematical and doomed to fvck with your head.
 

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I dated a woman who made six figures, drove a jag, worked for fortune 500 companies and talked to CEOs on a regular basis. I met her at a house party I threw, I negged her, then told her she had a great ass, made with another chic in front of her later at a club and banged her that night. I had no clue she was so well off at first. We dated for a few months, I'd keep her Jag, pick up chics in it. She paid for everything even paying my bills during some hard times. She always suspected me of cheating on her because she said she never met a man like me and knew that other women wanted me.

I never treated her any different than any other girl. Most of my girlfriends give me money and I drive their cars if they have a better car than me. And if they get out of line I cut them off without a second glance. Most of them have never been treated that way because of their status.

I took her to dive bars and little out of the way local eating spots, I never tried to fit in her world, I brought her into mine. Her world meant absolutely nothing to me. If she told me she was going to NYC for the weekend, I'd tell her to bring me something back and then forget about her until she called me. I was prick by most standards, but the thing was when she was with me, I was in charge, I led, she put down her corporate ways at my door because she was in my house. And when she started going nuts (I really think she had some BDP tendencies) and doing things like checking my phone and grilling me about girls on FB and accusing me of cheating constantly, I dropped her and never looked back. She begged to comeback, then she lashed out and eventually she went away. I hear she still talks about me all the time.

What you have to offer is pure masculinity. Insecurity and imtimidation will only get you blown out. YOu have to draw her into your world where you rule. When that happens she can relax and become more feminine. That's probably what she's looking for. I know a few doctors and all they have to offer is the fact that they are doctors. THey come off as a bunch of pvssy beggers and whimps next to the average roofer or street thug. Masculinity is the coin you are offering, actually access to her femininity via your masculinity is what you are offering. One thing she always said was that I made her feel like a woman, because you see, I brought her into my world. I expected things of her. I set the bar for what was good behavior or not. And I didn't care if she stayed or left, we had fun together and nothing lasts forever. So it was what it was.

YOu aren't competing with those guys because you aren't those guys. You are something else. Give her what she really craves. It's game on and it's yours to win or lose. Relax, have fun. She's still a woman. If you have to....not that I'm all for this...but ask yourself how would George Clooney or Brad Pitt treat this woman? Would they be intimidated or slightly amused? Channel that sort of mentality. Because at the end of the day, what she makes doesn't pay your bills or control your life. And what she makes doesn't control you, and even if she was your wife, what she makes only helps to serve the team, and the team can only have one captain.
 

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I like Warriors point on "give her what she craves"

in my experience they need dominance.

About 3 days ago I was walking on the beach and a woman was walking towards me, I said something and stuck my hand out like I usually do when I want to meet them. She grabbed it for a quick shake and I pulled her in instead. I looked her in the eyes, and she interrupted me with "Whats your name?"

-Amazing
- my name is Irine Branson I own 3 restaraunts and 2 nightclubs..blah blah
- I didn't even respond to that. I said "good, then go to my bar and wait for me to show up"

THen I unfortunately forgot about her and didn't show up till later and she wasn't there.

But the point is this - **** her like a man, and basically don't buy into that frame that you must have X to be with her. I dated a girl who was educationally smarter and worked for a much better company, while I had jack **** and lived with my mom.. She was in love with me because of the time we had together then, while I was actually wanting to become a better man for her - although it kind of seems like a trap to me

Anyone out there change yourself to better fit what you thought the woman wanted "success" wise? Like getting a better job/car/place? I am wagering it didn't actually work out as planned? or did it?
 

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I always date women who double my income. It's easy when you're a writer.

Otherwise, just treat her like Leonardo DiCaprio's character did in Titanic. Bring her into your world, because she would have never seen it otherwise. Once she's there, she'll never want to let go, even when you're both trapped in an icy sea on a headboard.
 

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That's the best case scenario. With these women, you don't have to pay for them when you go out and they won't hate you for it. Also you know they're not with you for your money. Be confident, money is not the only measure of success.

Barrack Obama is not that wealthy but he's one of the most successful men of our era.
 

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I dated a very attractive psychologist awhile back. I'm 5string, not Dr.5string.

It became abundantly clear after interacting with her that I was way more intelligent and well read than she was.

Don't feel intimidated in the least. In the end, she's got a vag!na just like the rest of em'.
 

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5string said:
Don't feel intimidated in the least. In the end, she's got a vag!na just like the rest of em'.
And I'm pretty sure her shit stinks as well.

Remember nb, "Pedestaling is the path to the [AFC] Darkside..."
 

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Do your thing, be yourself and do not try to impress this broad with money or status - it will not end well for you. Again, just like another post, STAY IN YOUR ELEMENT. Do not let her dictate the terms. You are fine right now, you do not need her mercy or pity.
 

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she's an amazing woman, its like a breath of fresh air.

we had fun and there was no pressure at all during lunch.

afterwards we chatted through texts and she stated that we should just stay as friends, to which i agreed, she then stated "who knows what will happen in the future..."

I look at this experience as an inspiration to better myself. She obviously wants a man who can take care of her, i can't blame her nor any woman for that. I will harness this as a form of motivation to improve my business and prosper. Isn't that the goal of all DJ's?
 

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newbeginning said:
...and she stated that we should just stay as friends, to which i agreed, she then stated "who knows what will happen in the future..."
Of course, now that she said the F word, you know that you shouldn't spend any more time, money and effort on this one and that you should be spinning new plates, right? ;)

I would've preferred for you to have said something like "Sure thing, sweetheart. See you around" instead of agreeing and holding onto her misleading "who knows what will happen in the future?"


I look at this experience as an inspiration to better myself. She obviously wants a man who can take care of her, i can't blame her nor any woman for that. I will harness this as a form of motivation to improve my business and prosper. Isn't that the goal of all DJ's?
You might be seeing this from the wrong angle. You shouldn't improve your business' prosperity for the sake of being able to "take care" of a woman. You should improve your business' prosperity for your own sake.
 

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newbeginning said:
she's an amazing woman, its like a breath of fresh air.

we had fun and there was no pressure at all during lunch.

afterwards we chatted through texts and she stated that we should just stay as friends, to which i agreed, she then stated "who knows what will happen in the future..."

I look at this experience as an inspiration to better myself. She obviously wants a man who can take care of her, i can't blame her nor any woman for that. I will harness this as a form of motivation to improve my business and prosper. Isn't that the goal of all DJ's?
So you want to prosper so that you can take care of women? That's the perfect recipe for failure in life. You will never be rich spending your money on women and you will never be truly happy with a woman thinking that you need to take care of her.

You need to improve your confidence a lot. You could have easily taken that woman to bed if you had confidence. You definitely messed up on that date for her to ask to be just friends. Please don't stay friends with her. Cut all ties until you've gained more confidence. Women are good at picking up on weaknesses and she sensed your insecurities and was turned off. Learning from your mistakes is the best way to learn.
 

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vatoloco said:
Of course, now that she said the F word, you know that you shouldn't spend any more time, money and effort on this one and that you should be spinning new plates, right? ;)

I would've preferred for you to have said something like "Sure thing, sweetheart. See you around" instead of agreeing and holding onto her misleading "who knows what will happen in the future?"



You might be seeing this from the wrong angle. You shouldn't improve your business' prosperity for the sake of being able to "take care" of a woman. You should improve your business' prosperity for your own sake.
i appreciate the input, however, i've been spinning plates and to be honest, it isn't worth it to me at all.

It is more costly to spin plates and in the end, there is nothing but meaningless sex that makes me want to just roll over afterwards in disgust.

Whereas if i spend time and energy woo-ing the right woman who i can envision a future with, it will be worth it at the end. I have confident that i will succeed, just time is all i need.
 

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Okay, cool, no prob. It's your call. Just be aware that you do need to spin plates in order to find a good one. Just don't spin expensive plates. ;)

Good luck to you, my friend.
 

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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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newbeginning said:
I recently just met a woman who doubles my income. I chatted with her for a few minutes and got her number. After, i talked to a mutual friend and found out that she had only dated doctors in the past. We had scheduled a lunch date for today (6-21-2011); i can't help but feel so intimidated and insecured about courting her. I'm no doctor so what do i have to offer her? this question keeps running through my mind. Yet, at the same time, she knew i was no doctor; so why give me her number and then agree on having lunch with me.

edit 06-22-2011
I forgot to mention that she's 4 years older than i am.


Did we mention the answer to the question was "hard d!ck"?

Because that was the right answer, should have went with that attitude then there was more of a chance this date report would be a lay report :)
 

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Warrior74 said:
We dated for a few months, I'd keep her Jag, pick up chics in it.
You're my new role model, haha!
 

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Just an update:

After the phrase "let's just be friends" was brought up, i accepted her wish. We started hanging out as "friends" and that was all. However, i was very sweet to her but at the same time reminded her that we are "just friends," i went as far as making a verbal contract of such.

Much to my amazement, the push and pull struggle finally landed me a make out session when she came over to watch a movie. Now she wants to hold my hands when we're driving and snuggle up to me while we're sitting on the beach at night. I just wanted to share my report with you folks :) she's worth the time and effort i put into this particular chase.
 

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I just got this chick calling me friend all the time too. Texting me all the time. I just shrugged off every time she calls me friend.

Im sleeping over her house tonight. Last week we drank at her house and i ended up fingering her making her orgasm.

She can call me friend all she wants but every meetup we have we ended doing more than friends stuff.
 
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