I'm seeing a girl right now who's great, except she's casually dating this other dude who asked her out. She claims that she's been passive when she's with the guy (ie: she doesn't initiate anything), and that the guy's been taking it slow really slow (ie: he tried to hold hands on their last casual date).
Now, her and I, I would like to think are bit more serious. We make out in public sometimes, and we hold hands and have way too many common interests (we both love to cook and exercise, for example). Two dates ago, she said she's not ready for a real relationship (I didn't ask, mind you), but I told her that it changes nothing between us. We then proceeded to make out on the beach. Last date, we made out in an Italian bakery while sharing a gelato during an Italian festival. We've been out on 4-5 dates in total. I avoid the AFC approach as much as possible, and I use C+F rather efficiently.
However, the fact that she's still seeing this other guy is becoming a concern to me. I don't want to sound like a jealous and insecure bastard, but the more I ask, the more it may seem this way (I'm not going to ask anymore, stupid best friend's advice). I want this dude OUT of her life, and I'm doing my best to appear like I don't give a damn and that I'm much more capable and confident than the other guy is (which I truly believe I am).
Some advice would be greatly appreciated. She needs to realize that I'm the only man she needs, and that all other men pale in comparison. But then again, this is a girl who's too nice to say 'no' to anyone, and would give her email to a total stranger.
Now, her and I, I would like to think are bit more serious. We make out in public sometimes, and we hold hands and have way too many common interests (we both love to cook and exercise, for example). Two dates ago, she said she's not ready for a real relationship (I didn't ask, mind you), but I told her that it changes nothing between us. We then proceeded to make out on the beach. Last date, we made out in an Italian bakery while sharing a gelato during an Italian festival. We've been out on 4-5 dates in total. I avoid the AFC approach as much as possible, and I use C+F rather efficiently.
However, the fact that she's still seeing this other guy is becoming a concern to me. I don't want to sound like a jealous and insecure bastard, but the more I ask, the more it may seem this way (I'm not going to ask anymore, stupid best friend's advice). I want this dude OUT of her life, and I'm doing my best to appear like I don't give a damn and that I'm much more capable and confident than the other guy is (which I truly believe I am).
Some advice would be greatly appreciated. She needs to realize that I'm the only man she needs, and that all other men pale in comparison. But then again, this is a girl who's too nice to say 'no' to anyone, and would give her email to a total stranger.