The Ultimate Guide to Success with Women

If you're new here at SoSuave, I highly recommend starting with our foundational guide.

It's the fastest way to transform your dating life and unlock the secrets to attracting the women you desire.

Discover the confidence and success you've been missing out on.

Thanks for joining us, and I wish you all the best!

dating a depressed girl- do they ever change

joe45

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 13, 2005
Messages
397
Reaction score
4
Age
42
Location
vanciouver
is depression a life long illness or is it just temporary. i know this girl and she takes fluctoname -prozac and she says she take it everyday for 2 years-she lies to me at times. im not sure how long. really but she takes that drug and also her mood changes too. she gets mad or sad pretty easily. at time i didnt text her for a day and told me she was sad since i didnt text her. or her pics didnt get through and she says shes mad in the text msg
but i know for sure she isnt working, she is 24 , hard time making decisions and changes her mind/or hard time making decisions and very negative and yes she has depression
im just wonderin if she will ever get better as im looking to settle and long term partner
will she ever get better and never had to take prozac-flutonaime , will mood be normal, is it curable????




another guy i met said he knew her 5 years ago when she was 20 and she was nuts. i guess she hasnt changed
also her mind changes a lot or hard time making decisions about what she really wants. its frustarting so we just do what i want. never met a girl that really really likes me and we didnt know each other that long either. she never had a serious bf and most guys used her just for sex --that what she told me. not sure if its real or just lies
yea i sometimes find it frustratinng hanging out with her. her choices are all mixed up . they want u to pick her up and later u do and she says shes not sure she wants to sit in my car . im already at ur place in my car. lol
 

3countriesPlan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 11, 2007
Messages
671
Reaction score
28
Location
Beijing/Seoul/Portland
These kinda h0s just bring you down. Their wavelength and all its contagious -- latches onto you like how it happens to psychologists counseling people with horrible, horrendous issues.

Tune that out, let the saveah0s listen to all that negative crap while you at the club putting your bid in with some college girl... only young once man
 

JoeMarron

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 25, 2012
Messages
1,311
Reaction score
64
Age
34
3countriesPlan said:
These kinda h0s just bring you down. Their wavelength and all its contagious -- latches onto you like how it happens to psychologists counseling people with horrible, horrendous issues.

Tune that out, let the saveah0s listen to all that negative crap while you at the club putting your bid in with some college girl... only young once man
Exactly. Being with crazy, low self esteem, mentally unstable chicks is a waste of time. Never be a woman's psychologist.
 

SgtSplacker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2011
Messages
2,041
Reaction score
499
It's hard to change, I mean meds help in some cases for that night and day changing effect. But people just get used to thinking a certain way and it's hard to change that. If this girl is not even aware of her problem or in denial of a depression issue I would turn around and run as fast as you can, or just tell her you're gay or something, lol.
 

pdx1138

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2010
Messages
1,305
Reaction score
52
One of my sister's hot friends is like that. NOTHING will change the way she is.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Bible_Belt

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
17,157
Reaction score
5,780
Age
48
Location
midwestern cow field 40
Meds will treat the symptoms, but therapy treats the cause. If she's not in therapy and trying to get better, then she probably won't.
 

Swampcamel

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 3, 2013
Messages
108
Reaction score
5
Location
Utah
A girl on meds will stay depressed, meds don't work, they induce anxiety and emotional vacancy. But how to not be depressed?

Steps: 1) Get off meds, get healthy
2) Get a routine that isn't self-deprecating.
3) Remove poisonous friends and influences, find people with similar interests.
4) Work on things that provide a feeling of success
5) Indulge in creativity and higher-understanding of existence.

Hmm none of these involve a knight in shining armor showing her that she's loved. Funny. It's like, just like the people here, only you can make your life better, and same with her.

PS this is essentially Maslow's hierarchy of needs, steps to self-actualization.
 

Exoduso

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2013
Messages
58
Reaction score
2
My last ex wasn't on antidepressants or anything, but she had a very negative view on life and of herself. Very hard to deal with, and it eventually was the main cause of the breakup.
 

bigneil

Banned
Joined
Oct 20, 2006
Messages
8,377
Reaction score
2,696
Location
Texas
I guarantee Jodi Arias was on antidepressants. As was Adam Lanza and the Colorado shooter. They make you not care about your problems, your life or other peoples lives. It's mostly Fluoride. It costs one penny per pill and is sold at .4 Million percent markup.

She's damaged goods. Probably beyond repair. I've been there. Stay away.

Women come hardwired with their attitude. You can't change it but you will suffer tremendously. One can't help but take it personal. And as 3countriesPlan noted, it's contagious!
 

Zerro

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 23, 2011
Messages
576
Reaction score
24
Stay away from these women, they'll just drag you down with them.
 

joe45

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 13, 2005
Messages
397
Reaction score
4
Age
42
Location
vanciouver
bigneil said:
I guarantee Jodi Arias was on antidepressants. As was Adam Lanza and the Colorado shooter. They make you not care about your problems, your life or other peoples lives. It's mostly Fluoride. It costs one penny per pill and is sold at .4 Million percent markup.

She's damaged goods. Probably beyond repair. I've been there. Stay away.

Women come hardwired with their attitude. You can't change it but you will suffer tremendously. One can't help but take it personal. And as 3countriesPlan noted, it's contagious!
wjhat kind of troubke will i get if i stay with her
 

casaanova

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 15, 2013
Messages
147
Reaction score
16
Tariq Nasheed calls women like this "Bad Luck B*tches" - they're always in turmoil and always have a sob story. You can talk to them today and they're messed up, and you can talk to them 20 years from now, and they'll still be messed up. They're bad material because they want to be bad material - and you can't carve rotten wood. The more you try to help them the more they'll end up resenting you and messing your own life up. The best thing to do is just pump & dump and move on quickly - sounds mean but some women you can't do anything with beyond that
 

casaanova

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 15, 2013
Messages
147
Reaction score
16
joe45 said:
wjhat kind of troubke will i get if i stay with her
(In no particular order)
Depression of your own
Wasted money
False Rape Accusations
She can easily ruin your other plates
ZERO chance of the relationship ever being stable
High chance of her assaulting you
High chance of her getting other white knights/family to assault you because she "felt" like it over a depression-fueled misunderstanding
High chance of cuckoldry/her jumping ship to another guy
 

buzzin_frog

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2013
Messages
172
Reaction score
107
casaanova said:
(In no particular order)
Depression of your own
Wasted money
False Rape Accusations
She can easily ruin your other plates
ZERO chance of the relationship ever being stable
High chance of her assaulting you
High chance of her getting other white knights/family to assault you because she "felt" like it over a depression-fueled misunderstanding
High chance of cuckoldry/her jumping ship to another guy

Very good list there...

Seriously, with all the women out there today I'm not sure why guys settle for these sh!tty chicks.

drop her and look for greener pastures because the person that will wind up being the most affected by staying with her is YOU

you will become depressed and tossed out like garbage after she is done tormenting you.

happens all the time
 
Top