Dates - Pay For Her Or Not?

[TityWhity]

Ok, I ran a search, and came out with 4 results. Please, don't give me that bull**** on "Dates are for people screwing", because quite frankely, this is a High School board and many of us haven't exactly screwed yet (not insinuating myself, or some of the other members of this board. It's just that getting to home takes more time with High School kids than with college peeps.)

Now, let's say you've asked her on a date to the movies. She agrees, but you find out she has no money. What are we to do? You've already asked her, and bailing out because you don't wanna pay for her ass would make you seem kinda lame (Hmmm, makes you look like a jerk - excellent). What should you do? Pay for her movie ticket, and the grub that we're gonna eat, or tell her to forget the date?

 

[CrzyBadBoyDJ]

I usually pay for everything unless she offers to pay for something. The important thing is the find dates that aren't expensive ya know! Movies aren't too bad. Dinner usually isn't too bad either because the girls usually don't like to order alot.

 

[Turalyon999]

If you're out on a date with a girl, not just one of those "just friends" dates that girls sometimes like to go, ALWAYS have enough money with you to cover her. Assume that you'll be paying for everything. Unless she offers to pay, you should be prepared to pay. Preparation is your greatest ally, remember the boy scout motto "Always be prepared" do that and not only will you not have to worry about this but you'll probably impress the girl with your forethought.

 

[Oxide]

ok. listen, im speaking from experience and what ive been told by other guys.
dont buy all that "pay for her" ****.

whoever asks usually pays for the whole date, BUT do not pay of her every wish, she'll play u like a toy and will get bored with u.
ive myself went out on dates with couple girls and they tried to spin me by draggin me into casino's and buying them drinks.. i said **** u and left them.

 

[REDblueOI]

This is sad...

It really is. Why in the hell should you pay for ANYTHING of hers? Give me one good reason. Its not chivilrus... it USED to be when women didn't work. Now they do. It's not being generous, she obviusly doesn't need the money, she can afford designer cloths to look nice on a date in. So don't ****ing pay for her.

ALWAYS pay for EVERYTHING YOU buy. NEVER let her pay for you, THAT is unchivilrus and rude. But let her abide by the same rules. After all, they want fair and equal treatment, don't they?

And if you thinks this makes a girl want you any less/more, your sadly mistaken. A woman knows long befor your first date how far she is going to go with you [thats why first impressions/approaches are so important]. Buying her things doesn't make her want you more in ANY way, in fact, being a man, and letting her be independent, it will most likely be a notch FOR you.

Be a man - not a *****.

 

[misunderstood??]

If she didn't bring money then pay for her, but make sure to say something like "Don't worry _____, I'll let you make it up to me another time".

As for the whole subject of whether or not to pay for her in the first place, I mean it's up to if u wanna, personally I don't like paying for her, especially in the long run just because I don't see why she can't pay her share, things have changed. If you too religiously go by paying for your date just watch out for the gold diggers.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

I say where ever you invite her, you pay for it. That's why it's important to choose a cheap place for the first few times. However, if she goes and says "Will you get me (insert an item)?" I'd decline. Stand up and be a man, at least on the first dates.

The last girl I was hanging around with was like that, after the movie (which I paid for) I was hungry and said I wanted food. We got our own stuff but I kinda ate most of her food . Anyways she wanted me to pay and after like 20 min of her *****ing I decided "Awww hell why not."

I regret that very much now. She used it against me when we "separated," talking about how she never cared about me and how she "controlled" me. We were never really together, but it was funny nonetheless.

She tried to apologise to me last night actually. Said she was sorry and didn't want to hold a grudge. So I said "Fine. Now f*** off." That felt so good, you have no idea

 

[REDblueOI]

?

Shizam - you basically just said some girl told you that by paying for her, you indirectly made her lose tons of intrest/respect for you, and ironically, in the same post, you said you always pay for what you invited her too. C my point? She just gave you a plethora of clues as to how to conduct yourself in the future, and you blew 'em off.

There is no need to spend money on women.

As for the 'if she left her money @ home' deal... I'd say "What... do you think we're married or something?" Then after she struggles to answer, realizing I think shes immature and stupid for leaving her money @ home, I'd either

<flip thru wallet, make sure she notices I EASILY have enough money to pay for her> "well, lets emprovise" <grab her hand and lead her outa the building... go for a walk, bust her balls, kino her brains out, ect>"

Or

<wink> "Tell ya what, you owe me <something cheap/fun, or something home made>"

"You owe me an ice cream cone, mint, with rainbow sprinkles!" OR "You sooo owe me a home cooked dinner" either with a ****y simle, then pay for her, and hold her to givin me ice cream/dinner.

I've pulled the home cooked meal thing befor, but it wasn't cuz she left her money @ home. I didn't no she had a BF, and we got together befor she dumped him, and he got in my face, made a scene. He backed down, but still, I was pist @ her. Pulled the line... and needless to say, dinner was good [some weird kinda fish, tasted pretty tangy].

 

[Eternal]

Re: ?

Originally posted by REDblueOI

<flip thru wallet, make sure she notices I EASILY have enough money to pay for her> "well, lets emprovise" <grab her hand and lead her outa the building... go for a walk, bust her balls, kino her brains out, ect>"

Or

<wink> "Tell ya what, you owe me <something cheap/fun, or something home made>"

"You owe me an ice cream cone, mint, with rainbow sprinkles!" OR "You sooo owe me a home cooked dinner" either with a ****y simle, then pay for her, and hold her to givin me ice cream/dinner.

I've pulled the home cooked meal thing befor, but it wasn't cuz she left her money @ home. I didn't no she had a BF, and we got together befor she dumped him, and he got in my face, made a scene. He backed down, but still, I was pist @ her. Pulled the line... and needless to say, dinner was good [some weird kinda fish, tasted pretty tangy].

That flipping through the wallet thing is pretty good. Have to try that next time. As for the home cooked meal...she made you fish? Did you get to try her's afterwards?