Date Time

[white cloud 8]

Hey y'all,

I have a date 2morrow night, we are going to a nice little restaurant (which I suggested), she is a vegan (they have vegetarian cuisine). I told her tonight that I would meet her there @ 8pm (made a reservation beforehand). Anyways, I was just thinking of how I would "act" but, I thought to myself, I can only be me. I am humble, modest, level-headed, confident, and have a light-hearted personality.


Key things to remember:

- be respectful (but not too formal)
- initiate kino a couple times
- maintain flirtatious eye contact
- keep the conversation on her
- use my charming personality
- be courteous to the waiter/waitress
- stimulate her emotions
- maintain a relaxed state
- playful neg-hits
- offer to pay the bill
- leave a generous tip


Well there is a list of things I could think of off the top of my head. Anything I'm missing?

 

[blinkwatt]

Here is a example that you could do for kino.
The bill comes, you have several choices,
1. offer her the chance to pick up the bill,when she goes to grab it,put your hand on top of hers and say "money doesnt mean a thing to me",kiss her hand and go pay the bill
2.look at the tab/bill,say "damn women how much did you eat?"(she should want to look at the bill),when she reacts her hand to grab the bill from your hands grab her hand say "got ya",kiss her hand and pay the bill
either should leave her blushing or thinking"oh my god this guy is funny,a man,and is not cheap"
I choose kissing on the hand because anyone at any stage of a date can do it to initiate kino.

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by blinkwatt
Here is a example that you could do for kino.
The bill comes, you have several choices,
1. offer her the chance to pick up the bill,when she goes to grab it,put your hand on top of hers and say "money doesnt mean a thing to me",kiss her hand and go pay the bill
2.look at the tab/bill,say "damn women how much did you eat?"(she should want to look at the bill),when she reacts her hand to grab the bill from your hands grab her hand say "got ya",kiss her hand and pay the bill
either should leave her blushing or thinking"oh my god this guy is funny,a man,and is not cheap"
I choose kissing on the hand because anyone at any stage of a date can do it to initiate kino.

No offense but, that just sounds cheesy to me (not my style). An example of one of the ways I would use kino is I would extend my hand (more than likely she will do the same) and I would caress it.

 

[blinkwatt]

Hey different strokes for different fokes. No offense taken her,good luck on the date.

 

[white cloud 8]

Date thoughts:

I just got back, and I found for the most part I was the one that had to do most of the conversation starters (don't know if thats really a bad thing) but, she came back with her own "penetrating" questions about me. Wow, she was maintaining eye contact with me throughout dinner (I didn't break eye contact with her). There were a couple instances of just silence and we would just gaze into each others eyes (she would look away for a second w/ a smile & look back). I complemented her once (I use complements *VERY* sparingly). We shared a meal (they were called 'Toadstool Puffs', very tasty), and we also shared dessert. We split the bill (when the bill arrived @ our table, after a while she took out some money, then I used my debit card), I didn't have to ask. Afterwards, we left the restaurant and she said that she was going to get a drink @ this lounge (offered for me to join her, which I did). We chatted for a little bit, she bought me a drink (she actually had to go to a photoshoot tonight so the evening got cut a little short). She gave me a hug and asked me to call her sometime next week (I said "....maybe" w/ a slight smile). It was enjoyable for the most part, one thing I should have done was extend my hand @ dinner, hold her hand (oh well....next time).

Annoying things:

-She answered her cell phone during dinner (I was polite and didn't say anything, it happened twice), I don't know if it was a test or not, she apologized.

-She was 15 minutes late (but she texted me giving me a reason why she is going to be late).

-She seemed shy about talking....I don't know about this one .

 

[white cloud 8]

Any thoughts on my dating experience? Anything I should add to give more insight to my date for people to respond?

 

[Desdinova]

-She answered her cell phone during dinner (I was polite and didn't say anything, it happened twice), I don't know if it was a test or not, she apologized.

As long as she wasn't ignoring you to have a 2+min conversation with the phone, there shouldn't be a problem.

-She was 15 minutes late (but she texted me giving me a reason why she is going to be late).

She let you know that she was running late, which is actually a good sign. She let you know so you wouldn't fvck off before she got there.

One thing that you seem to have lacked in your date is HAVING FUN. If you create a fun-filled atmosphere, you're going to create a lasting impression in her mind, and she'll look forward to dating you again. The romance 5hit doesn't create as much excitement as having fun does. Personally, I would've thrown a piece of corn or a piece of napkin rolled into a ball at her. Sounds like an a55hole quality? You bet! As long as you keep a smile on your face, she'll know it's all in good fun (and she'll probably throw something back at you).

 

[biker_gixxer]

I agree with Desdinova, you should have done more to make the evening fun.

You had your head in the right place, but i think you were being to technical about it. If you have to make a check list of what to do, or what not to do, you are thinking to much into it.

I was the one that had to do most of the conversation starters (don't know if thats really a bad thing) but, she came back with her own "penetrating" questions about me.

Oh, a challenge, these are the most fun. This is a girl that knows how to take and keep control of the metaframe. These girls will eat you up and spit you out, IF you let them.

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by biker_gixxer
I agree with Desdinova, you should have done more to make the evening fun.

You had your head in the right place, but i think you were being to technical about it. If you have to make a check list of what to do, or what not to do, you are thinking to much into it.

I was the one that had to do most of the conversation starters (don't know if thats really a bad thing) but, she came back with her own "penetrating" questions about me.

Oh, a challenge, these are the most fun. This is a girl that knows how to take and keep control of the metaframe. These girls will eat you up and spit you out, IF you let them.

I actually sort of felt that , like "Geez...this doesn't happen often but, usually whenever I ask an open-ended question, the girl would talk on and on about it (some of the girls I know can *REALLY* talk). So I guess this was sort of uncharted territory for me :crackup:, I had to do quite a bit of talking. I kept it light-hearted too (always with a gentle smile). I tried to keep it as informal as possible (throw in a joke here and there), nice atmosphere. The dreaded silence wasn't all that bad, I thought it was nice b/c we would just look into each others eyes and smile. Any other advice to keep in mind for this type of girl?

 

[white cloud 8]

Help, please? :kick:

 

[white cloud 8]

After thinking about it (don't know if I'm over-analyzing), it seems that since I had to start the majority of the conversations that I feel I got "played". In a way that she had her own game going (where she would give me short responses and wait for me to ask something else.... ). Maybe I won't call her for a while, see if she is really interested or she'll forget all about me (thats fine too).

 

[biker_gixxer]

I actually sort of felt that , like "Geez...this doesn't happen often but, usually whenever I ask an open-ended question, the girl would talk on and on about it (some of the girls I know can *REALLY* talk). So I guess this was sort of uncharted territory for me , I had to do quite a bit of talking. I kept it light-hearted too (always with a gentle smile). I tried to keep it as informal as possible (throw in a joke here and there), nice atmosphere. The dreaded silence wasn't all that bad, I thought it was nice b/c we would just look into each others eyes and smile. Any other advice to keep in mind for this type of girl?

Light-hearted conversatons and a nice atmosphere won't get 'this' type of girl excited about you. Mystery, challenging, ****y, alpha male traits is what gets a girl like this going. Some girls need a little less of the traits I've just listed, some need allot of it, like this one.

Note: If you do all the talking, you are basically trying to qualify yourself to 'her'...

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by white cloud 8
After thinking about it (don't know if I'm over-analyzing), it seems that since I had to start the majority of the conversations that I feel I got "played". In a way that she had her own game going (where she would give me short responses and wait for me to ask something else.... ). Maybe I won't call her for a while, see if she is really interested or she'll forget all about me (thats fine too).

You didn't get played, but you were sending the wrong message. As i stated above, you were qualifying yourself to her. She would give you short responses (enough to keep you going), then sit back and let you do all the work. I wouldn't call her for a while. When you do, say something like 'so where are you treating me to dinner tonight'.

These are the small details that you need to catch at the begining so you can turn it around.