Date??? Spending time with an ex this evening.

[schaff]

OK I'll give you a bit of background. When I was 19 (23 now) I dated a girl in my hometown whilst myself and the girl were in different towns at university. It was only around 8 months and was pretty much a long distance relationship + summer break. After summer we broke up after going our seperate ways to university (she said she couldn't take the long distance) so it was left at that. Fast forward 3 years and we are both living back in our hometown and meet. We both had relationships when we first met up again but have since both split. Been single myself for 7 months now, haven't really felt like a relationship since the breakup of my last long term relationship which was 2 years. Been playing the field a lot, getting numbers and since I have my own place for the first time making the most of it

So last weekend I was at a club with the lads and the ex from when I was 19 was there. She isn't at the top of the list of the most attractive girls I've dated but she is cute and was a demon in the sack. Well we talk for a while. She is quite down about her family moving away and being drunk I was flirting quite heavily. Well we ended up talking about the lost summer and what we use to get up to. After many more drinks we set up a date to hang out one night I think the term 'as friends' was used.

To be honest with you I forgot about it but had a text message through last night from her asking if it was still on and she was looking forward to it. At the time I thought to myself I ain't busy that night whats the harm and told her I'd pick her up.

Now thinking to myself maybe she thinks this is her chance to get back with me (not sure if thats her intension but she did say when drunk that "she 'did' really love me and I still get her horny".

I mean there is no way I want to have a relationship with her but is it possible to get a f-buddy out of this situation even though emotions have been involved previously. I would love to tap it again but am still undecided. Have any of you done this before? Was it successful? Was it worth it?

 

[Poppa3]

hm... I was in a similiar situation. I loved this girl to death, she broke it off with me, now she wanted me back and i wanted nothing to do with her. Had the chance to have sex with her again, and didnt take it, And i DO NOT regret it. There was a history there, and i dont think it would have only become sex..... I think the fact there is a history there, i wouldnt recommend it. She may become more attatched then ever......Just my advice. What do you other guys thing.... I would say just leave it alone, if you do not want nothing more

 

[Hawke]

I went into something like this once awhile back, with a girl i really cared about. It was successful to a degree, i mean we both were in it just for sex, we had some good times, but after a short while we both still felt our old feelings coming back. That really made things weird, so we decided to distance ourselves from the physical and just remain friends.

Just like Poppa3 has said, if you have history with someone, it's not going away. What you felt in the past maybe a little distant now, but i could come back. You could find yourself going down the same old roads. If your ready for that, go for it. Just only if your prepared for what can happen, and that you can face it.