Date frequency

[Fruitbat]

What's your opinion on this?

Many of the late 20 something early 30s girls I am dating seem to put a lot of time between dates. One so much so (a month) I lost my temper and cut her off completely. Now, there was actually good reasons why this one couldn't see me, verified by social media snooping (holidays, weddings And business trips) but I've been played so many times I can't just text women for weeks with no meetings....also, if high interest people find a way to meet. This was long distance so it was quite hard to get time, but she hasn't come back so guess she didn't have the balls to be straight and cut me off and just played on for the attention. In which case I did well to cut off and not just accept becoming an orbiter or back up guy.

Quite a lot of women I am meeting seem to have very busy lives and are setting up dates sometimes 2 weeks in future. It's a recurring theme and I don't get it. I would want to see someone a couple of times a week if I was into them.

Is this normal? To plan out dates in this way? My guess is women who put distance between dates are backing up, whilst they keep time free for guys they like more? To be fair, I am just basically going NC on these women who ask for a date, but next month. They try texting but I just give them like 2 lines of fun and either ignore or just say we will talk more when we meet. Invest minimum.

Personally I can't understand why this keeps happening as when I was dating as a younger man, you date, you find out if you like each other then you actually enjoy your time.

Most of these are online dates so I'm definitely thinking back up, these women probably have 5 guys and if you are number 4 or 5 you just stay in the shadows.

Many will say don't next, you can still get laid but to me, it's pride, I'd rather be number 1 with a 6 than be an option for a 10. It puts me off the girl, she's strategising like a pua and it pisses me off. Once guy 1 and 2 have pumped and dumped it's back to me, no chance.

Either that or it's normal to put fortnights or more between dates? I'm sure it's not normal.

 

[ubercat]

Sounds like your shooting for an LTR like most guys and you're not pulling the right girls from OLD. Maybe on one of the sites you could experiment a little bit with your profile and follow up messaging. So if you're looking for a quiet serious girl writes your profile like you're a quiet serious guy. If you're into OLD see how that goes for a while.

Problem is online dating does tend to reinforce attention w**** tendencies. If you're looking for more serious girls maybe try places like dance and cooking classes book clubs excetera.

 

[channingtatum]

If they're interested, they will find a way to see you minimum once a week.

 

[Fruitbat]

Im ****ing these girls though!

My experience of aw has been girls who just want to text, well happy I at least got some decent sex out of it. Fair exchange, bit of attention for some sex.

Yes I do want a steady gf, although it's nice to have a variety I actually just want a decent girl to make plans with, holidays, stuff that you don't do with friends....I'm really struggling to find women outside old - I've asked a few out cold in shops, cafes etc but all have said they are married or have bf - in 30s it's difficult. I can meet and get numbers in bars but I find it's no better than old and most are too young, might pull them but being honest, the last thing I want is a younger woman tied up with a social group too immature for me and not ready to make plans....or thinks she does but will prob change mind at 30 when I'm too old to start again!

At least I'm banging, how weird that once I could only get sex with a commitment. Now I can get sex but can't get commitment. Getting older is weird

 

[Desdinova]

I aim for a minimum of once a week with the occasional exception. Anything less is absolutely useless for investing my time. I kicked a chick out of my truck once for telling me she couldn't see me for two weeks and then pushed me away when I was kissing her. I couldn't believe she was in shock when I told her to get the fvck out. I never contacted her again.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Woman don't need to due sh*t to get attention/dates. They just stand there and look pretty and get attention. They are naturals, a majority woman will put you throught sh*t tests to earn the #1 spot. AND you should do the SAME exact thing. This is why we spin plates, if you are hitting it and only getting 1 date a week after 3-6 weeks then more than likely she is spinning plates too and just wants that.

 

[Married Buried]

I aim for a minimum of once a week with the occasional exception. Anything less is absolutely useless for investing my time. I kicked a chick out of my truck once for telling me she couldn't see me for two weeks and then pushed me away when I was kissing her. I couldn't believe she was in shock when I told her to get the fvck out. I never contacted her again.

Funny as hell! I LOL'd my ass off.

 

[Married Buried]

It depends if she is the clingy type she will be on your a$$ 24/7.

If she is a girl who knows game she will avoid you the more she likes you. She won't be up your ass all the time. Most chicks know the game. Also you need to bang her good that ensures a repeat visit. there is also a great chance you are not the only one she bangs, so while you see her once a week Adam is banging her out the other 6 days. I see twice a week or so due to work and distance. We are exclusive. F/ck relationships. If this one fails I am done with them.

 

[Desdinova]

Funny as hell! I LOL'd my ass off.

I was fvcking mad. I go to kiss her and she's all "uh-uhhh, you're not getting any of THAT tonight!" Fine with me bytch, get the fvck out of my truck.

She got replaced by three others who didn't give any resistance.

 

[Married Buried]

She got replaced by three others who didn't give any resistance.

Only way to roll. My ex wife got replaced as soon and she walked out the door. I think she is in shock too.