kraytkiller
Don Juan
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So I had previously made a FR of a date with a different girl, where the conclusion was I only got a kiss and left disappointed.
Things I vowed to not do/wanted to change:
Spend less money (last date: 66-80$)
Act more like the prize, felt like I was trying too hard
Make moves, no regrets
I feel I reached these goals with this date.
Her: HB 6, low 7, 18 years old. Me: 21. Pulled off of OLD.
So, I had previously texted this girl a few days ago (wed or thurs) and she flaked on the phone call I had planned to make to plan the date (new place, new style of food) which was the original plan, because her friend unexpectedly picked her up and took her out, leaving us no time to call.
I went cold on her, didn't text her until today (sunday) at around 2 o'clock -- I had wanted to go to a hookah bar for the first time, and instead of nexting her, I had decide
d to re-frame and give her another chance. Here's how the text re-initiation went:
Me: What's up stranger? How's life in the food business? (she's a waitress)
Her(seconds later): Crazy. I worked 11 hours straight yesterday :/
Me: Oh snap. Let me guess: Your laying in bed? haha. That's where I'd be.
Her: Blahblahblah
Me: You should rest all day and then adventure with me tonight
Her: blahblahblah
small talk for 2 or 3 messages
Me: That's cool. I'm going to a hookah bar and want you to come with.
Her: Oh sweet what time works? I've never gone to one so you'll have to teach me the ways
Me: Lets meet up around 10.
Her: Okay awesome this should be fun!
Me: Most definitely. I'll text you later for your address. Gotta go start working now. Talk to you later.
Her: Okay have a good day at work
(7 hours later)
Me: Whaddup hows your dinner? (she had to have dinner with her visting family)
Her: It was good! Could u come at like 10:30?? Bc my friend tallies bf just dumped her so she's coming over in a bit so I can comfort her.
Don't know who these people are, but I saw the amount of detail she gave me as her kind of validating it as a legit excuse, so I decided to allow it
Me: Sure. 1030 works. Whats your address?
Her: blahblahblah
Me: Sounds good, make sure to flash some leg so I know who I'm looking for haha
(insert small talk for 3 messages)
Me: That's alright, Opposites attract. I'll see you at 1030.
Her: Okay great
Her: Yeah I think it's like a 20 minute drive from _____ (my town)
(no reply given)
^imo this was a test to see if she could pull me back into a text convo. I held frame and ignored her.
So I picked her up and we headed off. When I went to pick her up, she first walked up to the driver side window as I was sitting in my truck. I turned around and greeted her, out of the rolled down window.
Her: Hey give me a second, I need to go grab my cash (or something of that nature)
Me: Oh your the type of girl who pays for herself huh? Isn't this a date?
I'm kind of chivalrous like that I guess.
Her: Do you want it to be?
Me: (looking her right in the eyes) Yes.
Her: Okay. (She gets in, we leave)
On the ride there, we get to know each other, I find I have a lot in common with her (similar childhood experiences) leading to easy rapport building and joking, the talk flows and we have a good time all the way there.
Once we get to the hookah bar, I take control, we get service quickly, I take her hand and lead her to the table of my choice (its a lounge setting, and the host gave us several options, without waiting for her input I led her to the one I desired) and sat down.
I had the menu in my hand, and she didn't have any idea of what to pick, so I gave her a basic rundown of how hookah works and recommended some flavors. I also spoke to the waiter/serve type guy, and ordered all we needed, further taking control of the night.
As we waited for the hookah,kino was already starting -- mostly from her. She was sitting unnecessarily close (almost touching, despite an entire couch of space) so I took the lead after talking for maybe 2 minutes and grabbed her hand for some hand holding kino as we talked. no resistance.
(Continued in second post)
Things I vowed to not do/wanted to change:
Spend less money (last date: 66-80$)
Act more like the prize, felt like I was trying too hard
Make moves, no regrets
I feel I reached these goals with this date.
Her: HB 6, low 7, 18 years old. Me: 21. Pulled off of OLD.
So, I had previously texted this girl a few days ago (wed or thurs) and she flaked on the phone call I had planned to make to plan the date (new place, new style of food) which was the original plan, because her friend unexpectedly picked her up and took her out, leaving us no time to call.
I went cold on her, didn't text her until today (sunday) at around 2 o'clock -- I had wanted to go to a hookah bar for the first time, and instead of nexting her, I had decide
d to re-frame and give her another chance. Here's how the text re-initiation went:
Me: What's up stranger? How's life in the food business? (she's a waitress)
Her(seconds later): Crazy. I worked 11 hours straight yesterday :/
Me: Oh snap. Let me guess: Your laying in bed? haha. That's where I'd be.
Her: Blahblahblah
Me: You should rest all day and then adventure with me tonight
Her: blahblahblah
small talk for 2 or 3 messages
Me: That's cool. I'm going to a hookah bar and want you to come with.
Her: Oh sweet what time works? I've never gone to one so you'll have to teach me the ways
Me: Lets meet up around 10.
Her: Okay awesome this should be fun!
Me: Most definitely. I'll text you later for your address. Gotta go start working now. Talk to you later.
Her: Okay have a good day at work
(7 hours later)
Me: Whaddup hows your dinner? (she had to have dinner with her visting family)
Her: It was good! Could u come at like 10:30?? Bc my friend tallies bf just dumped her so she's coming over in a bit so I can comfort her.
Don't know who these people are, but I saw the amount of detail she gave me as her kind of validating it as a legit excuse, so I decided to allow it
Me: Sure. 1030 works. Whats your address?
Her: blahblahblah
Me: Sounds good, make sure to flash some leg so I know who I'm looking for haha
(insert small talk for 3 messages)
Me: That's alright, Opposites attract. I'll see you at 1030.
Her: Okay great
Her: Yeah I think it's like a 20 minute drive from _____ (my town)
(no reply given)
^imo this was a test to see if she could pull me back into a text convo. I held frame and ignored her.
So I picked her up and we headed off. When I went to pick her up, she first walked up to the driver side window as I was sitting in my truck. I turned around and greeted her, out of the rolled down window.
Her: Hey give me a second, I need to go grab my cash (or something of that nature)
Me: Oh your the type of girl who pays for herself huh? Isn't this a date?
I'm kind of chivalrous like that I guess.
Her: Do you want it to be?
Me: (looking her right in the eyes) Yes.
Her: Okay. (She gets in, we leave)
On the ride there, we get to know each other, I find I have a lot in common with her (similar childhood experiences) leading to easy rapport building and joking, the talk flows and we have a good time all the way there.
Once we get to the hookah bar, I take control, we get service quickly, I take her hand and lead her to the table of my choice (its a lounge setting, and the host gave us several options, without waiting for her input I led her to the one I desired) and sat down.
I had the menu in my hand, and she didn't have any idea of what to pick, so I gave her a basic rundown of how hookah works and recommended some flavors. I also spoke to the waiter/serve type guy, and ordered all we needed, further taking control of the night.
As we waited for the hookah,kino was already starting -- mostly from her. She was sitting unnecessarily close (almost touching, despite an entire couch of space) so I took the lead after talking for maybe 2 minutes and grabbed her hand for some hand holding kino as we talked. no resistance.
(Continued in second post)