date for friday.. dilemma!! need help!

[blackwolf]

okay so we are meeting on friday. theres two options, meet her at about 12 for 2 hours cause she has to go back to work until 6.30. or meet her the same day 7pm AFTER she finishes work for a coffee at the local shops. dunno what to do. maybe 7pm as i will have more time for her?

 

[Allurre]

It doesn't really matter.

It's how you interact during the moments together that counts.

However, if you do meet her after work, she'll feel less subconsciously time constrained, and more relaxed knowing she doesn't have to 'return to work'
later.

 

[blackwolf]

thats what i thought... also, she suggested movie + coffee but apparently first dates and movies arent a good idea because you need to get to know each other before that. so just coffee i guess? how would i end the date? do i wait for her to say "well i gotta go." ?? i havent been on a proper date like this for a long time. mostly just random hook ups. so im a little rusty.

any tips?

 

[VastanVer2.0]

Meet her after work. Do drinks instead of coffee. Have an excuse to get her back to your place (show her something cool/unique that you have, cool music, photos, hobby, think of something). Escalate.

 

[blackwolf]

on a first date, to take her to my place? (btw i don't drink alcohol and she knows this) - my house is down the road from where we're meeting too sooo i guess i could.. just didn't wanna freak her out asking to come over on our first date.

 

[Maximus Rex]

okay so we are meeting on friday. theres two options, meet her at about 12 for 2 hours cause she has to go back to work until 6.30. or meet her the same day 7pm AFTER she finishes work for a coffee at the local shops. dunno what to do. maybe 7pm as i will have more time for her?

I gave a persuasive speech in my speech class encouraging the guys in the class to be men when they approach woman. During my presentation, I asked the women in the class, how many men try to approach them in a day. The two women in the class said 6. I multiplied that 6 times 7 which is 42.

For argument's and discussion sake that you're perspective date has 6 guys trying to talk to her in the past week. Suppose she gives her number to 5 of them. What happens if she finds one of those dudes more interesting than you? Guess what going to happen to your Friday "date."

My questions are two fold:

1) Why are you letting so much time elapse between now and the date?

2) Why are you concerned about "what's convient for her?" Shouldn't you be concerned about what's convient for you and with scenario is going to facilitate a sexual encounter?

My suggestion is on Friday you ask her when she's going to have dinner. If for example she says 8. Tell her to meet you at "x" location after she's finished eating. Also do this, read the DJ Bible, The Book of Pook, The Game, and The Mystery Method, before you ask another question. No texting.

 

[blackwolf]

well she has two jobs and studies... that being she said she's free only on friday and saturday night. she even suggested like said before, meeting in the middle of the day... sounds like she really wants to meet me if she's putting effort into it. she's the one who even suggested it. all i said was lets catch up sometime and she straight out said, well im free friday/sat.

anyway, that's not really a big "time elapse" as you say. we only just met and im not gonna say hey lets meet up tomorrow night after only just meeting her.

btw guys, do you kiss them on the cheek or shake their hand or hug on the first date to greet them? i do remember once meeting a girl in the city and she just hugged me straight up when we met.

also, i said coffee and fuel is on me.. is that too much? she is driving to my hood, thats 30 mins drive.. am i being too kind? i think that if the girl at least see you contribute something to a date they appreciate you. especially if shes the one driving everywhere.

 

[Falcon25]

Relax buddy. Just have fun. Take her out to drinks after she gets off work. Either offer to pick her up, or have her meet you.....DO NOT INVITE HER OVER TO YOUR PLACE. That's horrible. If she wants to, she will let you know. This is a first date. Act like she is your male buddies you are talking to, have fun. At the end of the night, try to kiss her. Don't make plans at the end, just say "had a great time, I'll call you". And that's it.

By the way, if she wants to meet in the middle of the day, it means she is not comfortable, not that she wants to see you. You have to get them out at night. Homo's meet during the day, men meet women at night.

 

[blackwolf]

okay how do i actually get in a kiss... obviously i cant do it while we are out drinking coffee lol. i suppose im gonna get her to drop me off as i live down the road from our meeting place (shes driving down) and plant a kiss in the car

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

blackwolf I am not comfortable giving a kiss hello to a new first date, so I don't do it. Instead I always go for the hug unless she puts her hand out before I hug her.

 

[blackwolf]

should i meet her at the coffee shop inside or outside the shopping center, then walk in to the coffee shop with her?

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Try to imagine someone else asking you that question - inside or outside the coffee shop?

If it was me asking it, what would you say?

 

[neghitzbrah]

Dude, we can answer all these little questions and chances are you will forget what we say when it happens. Then you will probably fvck up when the date comes because you put so much thought into it.

Just relax man. Do whatever you do, and if you fvck up there will be more opportunities. Is this the last pu$$y you will ever get a chance to fvck for the rest of your life?????

 

[blackwolf]

i really don't know. i guess it might be awkward walking into the shopping center and all the way up to the second floor for the first date.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Why would that be awkward? It's an opportunity to ask her how her walk/drive over was... talk about whatever.... ask her if she did anything over St. Patty's day weekend.. just bs with her on the way up.

 

[Maxtro]

If the shopping center has many entrances then you need to coordinate where to meet up, what time to arrive and all that stuff.

I think it's best to just arrange to meet inside the coffee shop.

Simpler that way.

 

[blackwolf]

yeah there are many entrances. i was thinking just call her or text when im there and i will wait for her outside the coffee shop. same thing if shes there first

 

[Mike32ct]

Meet her after work. I'm not a big fan of lunch dates.

 

[blackwolf]

i think i shouldn't of but when we arranged it i said coffee and fuel is on me. because she's driving down about 20-30 minutes to a place she's not familiar with. is that being too nice?

 

[CarlitosWay]

okay so we are meeting on friday. theres two options, meet her at about 12 for 2 hours cause she has to go back to work until 6.30. or meet her the same day 7pm AFTER she finishes work for a coffee at the local shops. dunno what to do. maybe 7pm as i will have more time for her?

Meet her at 12 before she has work? Why that would be something one of her girlfriends or some schmuck would quickly jump to do. I don't know about you but when I go out with someone I like the night life and I feel more on point with my game, especially if it's the first time hanging out with them.

Dress to impress, when you see her give her a big hug like you mean it, tease her about something or go with whatever style suits you and has you genuinely in a good mood. A woman's worse nightmare is some boring ass date with some dull guy who just sits there staring at her or the wall looking like an idiot because he's struggling to think of some interesting or clever **** to say. Avoid awkward moments at all costs, it should be something like sex, when you feel you're going to bust change positions and technique to keep going strong..

Just last week I had a chic telling me how she had the most awkward date with a guy who payed for a dinner and a movie, lots of staring and silence. You know what she said? "The date sucked but good thing is at least I got a free dinner and a movie" and she's pretty much going to **** this other guy who takes her out to drink at a friends house with the guy probably only shelling out as much as the booze costs haha.