dat feeling when women take out their phones

[latino158]

and pretend or prefer to text/check facebook than talking to you

It doesn't necessarily have to be a woman you find attractive or you are trying to pick up, it could be any woman, or any person for that matter. If you know them, as acquaintances or even "friends", and when you see them, whether it is at work, school or some other place.

You want to talk to them, and if they take out their phone, and start texting, checking facebook while you are trying to get a conversation going, is because they don't give a **** about you. They don't respect you. It is a form of disrespect. It is a way of ignoring you.

I really hate that ****, it has happened to me a few times, and I instantly resent the person.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Can't stand it either, I just replay myself smacking the phone out of their hands

 

[latino158]

Can't stand it either, I just replay myself smacking the phone out of their hands

What would be a good line to say in this cases?

I usually don't say nothing and stop talking, but I never take out my phone.

What I also dislike, is when you have a "friend" and this person in a group of 3 people, who you don't know, or people let's say from work, which you don't know, you go to this group, specifically to see this person, because you care about her or him.

This person KNOWS that you going, means you care a lot about them, and instead of giving you full attention, they basically ignore, barely respond to your questions, and continue talking to the other people in the group. If they really cared about you, they wouldn't do that, and give you more attention out of respect, out of consideration, that you went all alone into a group of people you don't know, just for her or him.

Last time this happened to me, I instantly left without saying ****

 

[Who Dares Win]

I know what you mean, its annoying for the fact that it doesnt allow you to communicate what you have to while at the same time on a personal level you feel disrespected and dismissed ad if you had no value.

Well you see there are plenty of people that I dont wanna talk with but I still do it cause I respect them or I believe its better not to p1ss them off, when someone instead does the phone thing, well you get what I mean.

Pointless to engage them or reproach them for the lack of respect, best thing to do is tell them what you have to say if its a work related thing then ask them if they understood, implying that there is a good chance they didnt, they will get the hint and it will be clear you didnt appreciate the phone thing.

If there is no message that needs to be told or no feedback necessary, just leave without a word, since they made it clear you have nothing to spare and they dont give a fvck about you, you are simply behaving accordingly.

 

[Yewki]

Or when you're having a conversation with someone (at least you think you are), and as soon as they stop talking and you go to say something their eyes glaze over... it's obvious they don't give a sh*t and are now at best only half listening.

You can usually see it in their eyes that moment they "check out"... it's most annoying when people do this before you even get a word out. It's like, "F*ck you, not interested in anything you could possibly say."

 

[amazingswayze]

This happened to me yesterday on a date. We were playing ping-pong and she wouldn't get off her phone. It's not really what you say, it's how you react to it. All I did was tap the table a few times with my paddle and I gave her the look. She put her phone away.

 

[latino158]

what hurts the most is that when someone you really care about, does this to you, it doesn't have to be someone you are attracted to, or in love, but simply someone who you really like, who you feel comfortable with, someone who you want to spend time with, someone who you seek out because you like them so much

only for them not to give a **** a about you in this way, maybe they do care, but not as much as you do, deep down, I want to stay away from them, but I also want to be around them so much

such is life, we cannot force people to like us more

 

[Poon King]

Women do this to test betas and see how desperate they are to be with them. You should be too busy pounding her for her to be on her phone. And if you're not pounding her.. then you should have better things to do than "hang out" with her while she acts like a rude c*nt.

 

[latino158]

Women do this to test betas and see how desperate they are to be with them. You should be too busy pounding her for her to be on her phone. And if you're not pounding her.. then you should have better things to do than "hang out" with her while she acts like a rude c*nt.

yeah, we all read these things before, but in real life, for some reason, you forget all these pua lessons, and your instincts/feelings take over.

I can't believe that despite she doing this to me a few times now, I still keep going to hang out with her wtf is that I want to be around her so much, that I don't care if she ignores me, as long as I'm next to her

now thats beta

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

yeah, we all read these things before, but in real life, for some reason, you forget all these pua lessons, and your instincts/feelings take over.

I can't believe that despite she doing this to me a few times now, I still keep going to hang out with her wtf is that I want to be around her so much, that I don't care if she ignores me, as long as I'm next to her

now thats beta

Some do this move intentionally. Some strippers play this particular game and it will shred your esteem as she does it in the car and restaurant if you can't do it back...

Other women do it completely unintentionally. They are hooked and addicted to the responses and pictures on social media and text. They are completely self-absorbed taking dopamine hits everytime a communication occurs.

You have to let her know to leave the phone in the car. If she doesn't have kids who need to call her or an important job, the phone can stay the phugg back.

 

[YawataNoKami]

Last time one of my plates did that I left the rest.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Women do this to test betas and see how desperate they are to be with them. You should be too busy pounding her for her to be on her phone. And if you're not pounding her.. then you should have better things to do than "hang out" with her while she acts like a rude c*nt.

Agree with that of course, the problem is that if you pick up a girl and you're already at the bar and she pulls out her phone you still find yourself in that situation.

 

[RangerMIke]

This does not bother me at all. All this does is signal me she has low interest. No need to waste any more time with her just move on. She pulls out her phone I walk away.

 

[archon8692]

This might sound weird...but I've dated maybe 20 different girls the past year or so...and NONE have done this with their phones. Even girls I know are constantly on Facebook.

 

[Who Dares Win]

This might sound weird...but I've dated maybe 20 different girls the past year or so...and NONE have done this with their phones. Even girls I know are constantly on Facebook.

It usually happens when here interest and respect toward you is low, never happened to me either except once while out with this girl which was clearly out of my league in terms of look and social connections, the only time she bothered to drop it was when we were talking about topics of her interest.

The only thing I did at that point was to talk about stuff I didnt care just to show people around how we clicked, it was a place I was used to attend and have other people think that you click with such hotties could have granted benefits in terms of social proof.

 

[icantgetlaid]

Almost every girl I've dated has taken out their phone while hanging out -- even girls who I ended up smashing. I never knew how to handle this situation though. Still kind of confused.

Do i just take off and assume it's low interest/disrespect?
Ignore it like it doesn't bother me?
Tell her to put it away?

etc.

What's the DJ thing to do?

 

[icantgetlaid]

Here's Chase Amante's take:

"Look powerfully bored. Bill Murray is a master of this. Watch any Bill Murray movie, and get the expression on your face that he has on his face all the time. It’s basically an expression that says, “I’m an intelligent guy who just happens to be in a situation where he isn’t being stimulated. Yawn.” He isn’t annoyed, he’s just… bored. Not to the point of being dramatic or overly expressive; you want it to be obvious enough it’s detectable, but not so obvious it’s like you’re putting on a show. Subtlety and nuance… highly underrated, but highly essential. Do as Bill Murray does and you’re ahead of 99% of guys out there in potentially uncomfortable situations.

Note that the reason this works so well is because you’re communicating that you’re not uncomfortable, and you’re not annoyed, but that you are bored. Women get uncomfortable around uncomfortable men; they get defensive around annoyed men; but they get worried and leap to action trying to reengage bored men, provided they like them. If a girl likes you, looking bored, in a powerful, controlled way, will send her into action trying to make you not bored like nothing else can.
Stare off into space, but move your head and eyes around every so often. You want animated facial expressions and eyes that move about every so often. Again, not manically or crazily, but enough that she’ll notice your eye movement subconsciously and it’ll remind her that you’re there and prevent her from getting sucked into her call / text. This is a bit of an art, so play around with it to get the right feel.
Downplay any inconvenience. If she apologizes to you when she takes the call or text, or during, wave your hand and make a carefree facial expression and tell her, “No big deal.” Once she’s off the phone, wait for her to either reengage, in which case you’ll continue the conversation as if nothing had happened, or apologize, in which case you’ll tell her, “Eh, don’t worry about it,” and then you’ll reengage yourself. Either way, wait for her to speak first, then downplay any inconvenience."

http://www.girlschase.com/content/phone-calls-dates

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

The feeling goes as such:

"I could smash that phugging phone"

 

[zekko]

I wonder why no one ever suggests taking out your own phone and doing whatever on it, maybe posting to SoSuave, lol. They always say if a girl flirts with a guy, go flirt with a girl. Why not tit for tat with the phone?

Really, this move on their parts is a little rude, but I can't help but think guys here are a little oversensitive about it.

 

[raider87]

A shy, nervous girl will do this also. Just let them stay on it until they're more comfortable. Do the Bill Murray.