Alright, I’ll use this post as a sounding board on this situation:
Background: Buddy of mine sets up these huge pubcrawls once per season, they rule, good times had by all, some nice looking girls. One such girl (HB) is the friend of this buddy’s sister. She happened to go to the same HS as me but was a few years back…
I had hung out on a couple of bar crawls with her, had a blast, was considering whether or not I should go for it given her ties to me (hangs w/ buddies little sis, was at my HS, etc…) decided I should go for it, got digits, called her after a week or so to set something up. She was game. Called her during the afternoon before I was going to pick her up at night, she gave me a ‘real’ lame flakey excuse (had to dogsit, but she ran errands w/friends that ran late so she had no time to go out w/me). She had sort of suggested another time, but I was getting bad vibes that made me feel I was going somewhere I shouldn’t be…So I backed off, didn’t call, nothing happened…
Last Saturday was the winter pubcrawl…She was there, looking real hot, and I basically ignored her, didn’t go out of my way to ignore her, but didn’t pay attention beyond the small pleasantries of saying hello. The trouble is guys, that I’m always inebriated when I’m around her….very annoying… So we get to the last place, cool club, I’m partying it up with the ladies, she’s grinding with some dude, no worries. The situation was not in my head at all.
I’m going up the stairs from the hip hop dancefloor to the live band dancefloor, and I see my buddy’s little sis, and HB leaving. I give them a hug, and while I’m saying goodbye HB says to me “Its too bad we didn’t get a chance to hangout, maybe next time.” My initial drunk reaction was that she was referring to the pubcrawl, and my response was “Oh, that’s alright, hope you guys had fun, be safe getting home”
So I go back to the floor and get my freak on more, well, wouldn’t you know it, HB and little sis come back to our area, little sis is on some dude grinding and hooking up, and HB heads for my area. My AFC buddies are flocking around her trying to dance, and I’m in a little circle of girls behind that scene. Well, HB comes right up to me and gets freaky. But my gut reaction was that she was biding her time while little sis finished her business. I should remind you again that deciphering actions in this scenario needs to combine ******** with extreme drunkedness. (Basically an emotional vortex so strong that rational thought could never penetrate it)
So they eventually leave…I forget about the whole thing until today at work when I remembered what HB told me on the way out the door. While I only really dealt with her the last hour or so they were at the crawl (and were their most drunk) it seemed like some buying signals, maybe her lame excuse was legit? There was obviously going to be awkwardness between us due to my lack of calling after the fact. At the same time, I feel like I’m barking up the wrong tree here and some random drunken actions out of her shouldn’t change the way I think about the situation (she seemed ‘forced’ to hang for a few minutes while sis did her thing)…Do I call her again out of the blue and let her know I want to hang out, grab some drinks sometime? Do I ignore her and focus on my other girls?
Background: Buddy of mine sets up these huge pubcrawls once per season, they rule, good times had by all, some nice looking girls. One such girl (HB) is the friend of this buddy’s sister. She happened to go to the same HS as me but was a few years back…
I had hung out on a couple of bar crawls with her, had a blast, was considering whether or not I should go for it given her ties to me (hangs w/ buddies little sis, was at my HS, etc…) decided I should go for it, got digits, called her after a week or so to set something up. She was game. Called her during the afternoon before I was going to pick her up at night, she gave me a ‘real’ lame flakey excuse (had to dogsit, but she ran errands w/friends that ran late so she had no time to go out w/me). She had sort of suggested another time, but I was getting bad vibes that made me feel I was going somewhere I shouldn’t be…So I backed off, didn’t call, nothing happened…
Last Saturday was the winter pubcrawl…She was there, looking real hot, and I basically ignored her, didn’t go out of my way to ignore her, but didn’t pay attention beyond the small pleasantries of saying hello. The trouble is guys, that I’m always inebriated when I’m around her….very annoying… So we get to the last place, cool club, I’m partying it up with the ladies, she’s grinding with some dude, no worries. The situation was not in my head at all.
I’m going up the stairs from the hip hop dancefloor to the live band dancefloor, and I see my buddy’s little sis, and HB leaving. I give them a hug, and while I’m saying goodbye HB says to me “Its too bad we didn’t get a chance to hangout, maybe next time.” My initial drunk reaction was that she was referring to the pubcrawl, and my response was “Oh, that’s alright, hope you guys had fun, be safe getting home”
So I go back to the floor and get my freak on more, well, wouldn’t you know it, HB and little sis come back to our area, little sis is on some dude grinding and hooking up, and HB heads for my area. My AFC buddies are flocking around her trying to dance, and I’m in a little circle of girls behind that scene. Well, HB comes right up to me and gets freaky. But my gut reaction was that she was biding her time while little sis finished her business. I should remind you again that deciphering actions in this scenario needs to combine ******** with extreme drunkedness. (Basically an emotional vortex so strong that rational thought could never penetrate it)
So they eventually leave…I forget about the whole thing until today at work when I remembered what HB told me on the way out the door. While I only really dealt with her the last hour or so they were at the crawl (and were their most drunk) it seemed like some buying signals, maybe her lame excuse was legit? There was obviously going to be awkwardness between us due to my lack of calling after the fact. At the same time, I feel like I’m barking up the wrong tree here and some random drunken actions out of her shouldn’t change the way I think about the situation (she seemed ‘forced’ to hang for a few minutes while sis did her thing)…Do I call her again out of the blue and let her know I want to hang out, grab some drinks sometime? Do I ignore her and focus on my other girls?
