damnnn look at that girl...... confidence =(

[hb]

I keep hearing that you have to be confident....... but how do you achieve this? To be confident i believe you have to feel that there is noone else out there better then you, but ofcourse this is not true.
I keep telling myself that there are no girls for me to talk to, but the truth is that when i see a girl that looks sooooooo yummyyy, i think to myself damnnnnn shes too good for me and i truly believe this. SO HOW DO I STOP THIS?
I dont believe that by just approaching this girl that i will gain confidence, maybe i will if i get accepted but imagine if i get rejected? I'll lose any confidence i have left in myself.

I honestly do believe that being confident is much better then being good. But confidence is not something that just falls in your lap and i really doubt that taking chances is going to increase the confidence i have in myself, just like that.

It seem like my life just keeps going in a cycle, back and forth..... i feel like nothing is really ever going to change, i just gotta get lucky

 

[Starman]

"To be confident i believe you have to feel that there is noone else out there better then you, but ofcourse this is not true."


NOPE. To be confident, you have to believe in YOURSELF that you can achieve anything. Disregarding being "better" than others. Because then you are losing focus..instead of trying to make yourself feel better about yourself, you are setting yourself up to compete with others (usually a LOSING proposition)

Confidence takes alot of work. ALOT. go read some books on how to do it.

 

[mystic03]

To have confidence you also have to feel good about yourself, so if you look closer at it confidence and self steem go hand by hand.....

 

[GQ Prettyboy]

Focus on things that you like about yourself. If that don`t give any confidence, it puts you on the right track towards being confident. Then work on your flaws. Besides those same attractive women may find you attractive, but are afraid to say anything.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Confidence is knowing that if a chic decides to talk to you, she has made one of the wisest choices she has ever made in her entire life. *shrugs* If she gives you the cold shoulder, then you have to wonder if someone that dumb, deserves to walk besides you. Just my arrogant take on it.

 

[Leporello]

You should have confidence. And why not?
Your words are of fire
your desires are of bronze
a Romeo in love is nothing compared to you.
You're twice as rich as Croesus.
Twice as handsome as Narcissus.
Strong as a Cyclops.
As wise as Aesop.
And I'm doubly sure that your equal can't be found from Ohio to India.

What, you say? None of this is true? Well, if you can absorb the easy self-asurance that comes with believing it, it won't matter.

 

[Oxide]

come on man, 3 years since you are here and u still wonder what confidence is?

what is so bad if she rejects you? you'll just go and find another girl. but if u never speak to her, you'll loose her forever.

 

[jlujan]

Originally posted by hb
I keep hearing that you have to be confident....... but how do you achieve this? To be confident i believe you have to feel that there is noone else out there better then you, but ofcourse this is not true.
I keep telling myself that there are no girls for me to talk to, but the truth is that when i see a girl that looks sooooooo yummyyy, i think to myself damnnnnn shes too good for me and i truly believe this. SO HOW DO I STOP THIS?

Listen closely,

You are basing everything you are worth on physical looks, if you do this you will NEVER ever become atractive to women, no matter how good you look.

Do you remember a fellow by the name of Telly Savalas better known as Kojak? what about a Onassis? Ferreira or Mayol? these fellows where short, ugly, bald, and sometimes even fat, yet they where famous for being studs and master Don Juans, why? Because they based their worth in their person, their attitude, their confidence, not on their looks.

When i see a beautiful woman i don't compare myself to her based on looks, i don't ask myself if i am "good enough", what i do is i ask myself if shes good enough FOR ME, is she smart, is she cool, is she a kind person, and i don't care if shes physically a 10. If you think that way you will developed a different way of thinking, its not easy but you can do it if you are determined to do it.