Damn, how long can a girl be sick

[ChesterB]

Here's the story: About three weeks ago, I got a girl's number in the bus.
10 days later, I called her. I waited that long, because it was the last week of the semester, so I (and surely her as well) had a lot to do.
On the phone then:
Me: "Hi, this is ChesterB."
Her: "Hi"
Me: "How are you?"
She: "Oh, not so well, I'm having some kind of infection in my stomach. At the university they said, I shouldn't have come... How was your week?"
Me: "(blabla) I wanted to ask you, if you'd come join me for a cup of coffee, but if you're sick... just call me when you're feeling better."
She: "Oh yes, definitely. On the number you're calling from?"

So, it's been two weeks now and she didn't call yet. Did I do something wrong? Or do you think she's really still sick?
Anyway, should I call her or wait a bit more?
BTW, there is still the slight chance of "technical problems", i.e. she didn't save my number because her phone had an error or something, this already happened to me once.

 

[LordBrian]

Theres is a 90% chance that she doesn't like you, or interest Level is too low. (and she lied about being sick)

5% chance she forgot.

5% chance she likes you, but lost your number.

Go for it if you really want to.... but be warned, chances aren't that good.

 

[Tango-Kid]

I agree with Brian. Though I´d add a 5% chance for her actually being sick.

Hei ChesterB, it would be nice if you told us what happened afterwards, if you called her or not, that it what interests us others (me at least) - the result.

Telling about the results is what many of the DJ´s forget to do after asking for help on this forum.

 

[squirrels]

Just call again. Make the offer again.

Many women just DON'T CALL. They leave it up to the guy to do that. Granted it doesn't indicate screaming high IL that she DIDN'T call you...but you're the MAN, it's YOUR responsibility to arrange a meeting. That's how they are. Weird, aren't they?

F it. Call her up again. If she's still sick, then you'll know what's up. What's there to hurt? She's just a girl.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

listen so squirrels and besides a stomack infection can last over a month afaik.

 

[Genghis Juan]

I agree with squirrels on this one. You have nothing to lose by calling her again. I don't think calling after 2 weeks to try again is clingy at all. Panicking like an AFC and calling everyday is clingy.

 

[Genghis Juan]

I agree with squirrels on this one. You have nothing to lose by calling her again. I don't think calling after 2 weeks to try again is clingy at all. Panicking like an AFC and calling everyday is clingy.

I would say when u call her though, only try to catch her on the phone, don't leave another message. Maybe call anonymously; I doubt she'd think its you because you have only called her once.

 

[DankNuggs]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

This thread title is priceless to go along with the story......

Girls will not call 90% of the time in my experience, even if you TELL them to call, it goes against their inner psyche of wanting to be pursued...Now they also are spineless and will flake out instead of politely declining, so you have a choice

1.) Risk your ego and give a call saying you'd love to do lunch/coffee/bar...etc, your free on X, you should join me...She will either accept or decline with another date in mind or she will neg you....

2.) You do nothing...Game over....

 

[Don Juanabbe]

With regards to women calling:

I went to see this band at a bar I know. Some chick comes up to me and says, "My friend thinks your really hot and wants your phone number. She's wants you to know she has buns of steel."

So I say, "Well, buns of steel really isn't that important to me, but I'll write down my number for you and you can give it to her."

The actual chick came up to me later and I had a brief convo with her. She was drunk as hell. Kinda cute, I should've asked for her number, I know, but this was last August or so, and I was still AFC like hell. Stupid too. But then also, I was wary of her intentions, it was all to weird.

The point is, this was last August. She still hasn't phoned....

 

[LostbutFound]

Hey Chester, I would call her back. Just call up and say "Hey, Im just callin to see how you're feeling, hope it wasnt anything serious...the offer still stands to go out...You call me and let me know."

If she dont call you back, or if you talked to her and she gives another excuse...Dump Her, shes playing games. If she was really sick, that is excuseable. Otherwise girls will find time if they are interested.

I went away for the weekend with a friend of mine and I wanted to visit this girl that I wanted for a while, but she plays games. I called her up and said "Hey me and my friend are by your school, we're gonna be here till tomorrow night, if you wanna have some fun, call me up. otherwise ill talk to you whenever."

She never called, I still havent heard from her.....NEXT!!!! She isnt worth the time, and you know what, that night when I put her in my "NEXT" list, she was totally cleared out of my head, and I met some other chick that I had more in common with and she was way hotter!!!!!!

Dont be a chump and call her a 3rd time. Unless, like I said, she is truly sick. But start with the second phone call, and take it from there, you'll know what to do.

 

[ChesterB]

I was already thinking of something like you said, LostbutFound.

I just tried to call her, with caller id blocked, but she didn't answer the phone. I hate it when that happens.

I think, I'll call again in a few days, this time with caller id on. Then she must either answer the phone or call back.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

If she is sick to the stomach that usually only last for a few days and not weeks. Call her back without blocking your number and see what her real interest is..maybe she lost your number from caller id and now is hoping that you call. Leave the message that 'lost' state above.

 

[ChesterB]

OK, then what would you say, when can I call again?
She doesn't have an answering machine (btw, what are these things for cell phones called in English - in German it's "mailbox", the English word), so I'll have to leave a text message.

Something else came to my mind.
Suppose this or any other girl you just got to know went to hospital, what would you do? Visit her there or wait until she leaves hospital again?
If you visit her, would you bring flowers??? Yes, flowers are very AFC, on the other hand it's custom to bring people in the hospital flowers.