Cvblocked on the first date by friend and she's BDP

[Solomon]

I'll try to keep this short since I hate reading long post myself. Quick backdrop met this chick online, talked for a bi, met her back in january, we then stop talking and reconnect now. My car is kaput right now so she came and swooped me up. On the way to the bar, she tells me "I got some information which may be bad for you"

Get to the bar and come to find out, one of her friends who I use to mess with(never smashed, she just use to play tonsil hockey with my c0ck ) they know each other cause they live in the same apartment complex, not only that but the friend told her b.s. about how I was broke mooch(at the time I was broke, I had just lost my job) and some b.s. story about how we went to applebee's and I pretended I didn't have my wallet and made her pay(b.s. the girl knew my financially situation and offered to pay) I mean it's obvious her friend was hating on the fact that I was taking her friend out on a date and was telling her ****. I just played it cool, and brushed the shyt aside, honestly I wasn't worried about it all, because her friend was just a Jumpoff anyway, but I knew that whatever her friend said left an impression, I cleared the air by telling her we never "did it" and the rest of the date went smooth until...

Towards the end of the night the chick that I'm on the date with says she has to go to the bathroom, I told her to go, but she is clutching her drink for dear life then she says "I don't wanna leave my drink here, you might roofie it". At first I thought she was joking, but alas I looked at her face and she was dead serious, I respond back saying "well if you feel that way why not bring the drink with you" and she sits there like she really isn't gonna go. Then the waiter walks by and she ask him to watch the drink and finally she leaves.

I can honestly say I wasn't embarrassed at the point, I think at that point my ego someone escaped me(or maybe my balls turned inside out) If i was driving, trust me gents I would have left some cash and walked away, but alas I wasn't driving, so I had to swallow my pride, honestly speaking it was kind of a good thing. However afterward reality did set in, and so did the notion of how disrespectful the whole situation was.

What threw me of though even with all this, this chick is texting me telling me how she had a great time, I have yet to respond to her text message or whatever, I know for a fact shes down to go again but I have no desire to go

Thoughts?

 

[Drdeee]

For what it counts, take it from an afc. Her texts about how much great time she had probably means not being with you, but making your balls churn inside out. I'd go no contact on texts, not now not ever, and if she calls, do the no contact thing (there is a NO CONTACT thread somewhere here), tell her exactly why.

 

[Marvin Gaye]

That's some mad fvcking disrespect.......make her pay by cumming all over her BPD face

 

[PDubb75]

You know exactly why you are on the fence about this.

You KNOW you dont deserve to be treated that way and you shouldn't put up with that bullsh!t, but on the other hand, you wanna get your d1ck wet.

I would drop this girl ASAP. At least to the point of "dates". Don't respond to her texts, don't call her. Personally, the only way I would see this girl again is if she was coming over to fvck. I wouldn't waste another second on a date with someone that disrespectful.

 

[Solomon]

You know exactly why you are on the fence about this.

You KNOW you dont deserve to be treated that way and you shouldn't put up with that bullsh!t, but on the other hand, you wanna get your d1ck wet.

I would drop this girl ASAP. At least to the point of "dates". Don't respond to her texts, don't call her. Personally, the only way I would see this girl again is if she was coming over to fvck. I wouldn't waste another second on a date with someone that disrespectful.

What am I on the fence about?

The chick texted me I never responded back nor am I planning on it, I'm not asking for advice on what to do now but just more relaying the story on what went down, there is no way I would chase after a broad after all that disrespect just for a yap, not worth it, I meet/met hotter chicks since, that incident.

 

[PDubb75]

Ahh, my fault. When you asked for "thoughts?" it came off to me that you wanted thoughts on if not responding to her was the right thing. Meaning, you didn't know if you should just go out again since she is still interested.

Got it now. Glad you respect yourself enough to not deal with that attitude from a chick.

 

[f283000]

I can honestly say I wasn't embarrassed at the point, I think at that point my ego someone escaped me(or maybe my balls turned inside out) If i was driving, trust me gents I would have left some cash and walked away

Your biggest mistake was accepting a ride from a woman that isn't even your gf to go on a date. It's ok to get rides from friends but a woman that is supposed to be your date picking you up? Couldn't you have taken the bus??

It just makes you look real bad and weak to be accepting a ride from her. It also makes you dependent on her when leaving. It's a psychological thing. Not having a car and having her give you a ride when you're a big boy that can take care of himself, do his own thing and show up there by his own means (whether it be by bus, bike, whatever).

I don't care if she offers to drive me in her Lambo cause I don't have a car. If i'm meeting a woman for a date and I don't have transportation i'm taking the bus and meeting her there. You're a big boy you can take public transportation. You can even have one of your buddies drop you off somewhere near and just take the bus when going back home. Anything is better than depending on a woman that you aren't official with yet to go on a date.

Life is to short to spend it on negative evenmoney endeavors. Being tricked by a woman and finding out her friend is there also when it's supposed to be a date between you too is definitely a negative evenmoney endeavor.

I would have taken the bus and gone home after saying hi, staying there a minute and saying I don't feel good or some other bs excuse. You can't tolerate that kind of disrespect from women. You expect a date and you get a hangout session with her friend who's sole purpose is to c*ckblock and to make sure you "behave."

 

[Slickster]

Towards the end of the night the chick that I'm on the date with says she has to go to the bathroom, I told her to go, but she is clutching her drink for dear life then she says "I don't wanna leave my drink here, you might roofie it". At first I thought she was joking, but alas I looked at her face and she was dead serious, I respond back saying "well if you feel that way why not bring the drink with you" and she sits there like she really isn't gonna go. Then the waiter walks by and she ask him to watch the drink and finally she leaves.

Thoughts?

Holy fcuk this is bad. I feel for ya Solo. How insulting.

I would've called her out right there for being so insulting. If she didn't suck a$$ apologizing I would've got up and left. I'd walk home if I had to.

 

[IamJosan]

Should've called her out man. Don't let her disrespect you like that, especially since you did nothing wrong. I would've walked home.

 

[Solomon]

Your biggest mistake was accepting a ride from a woman that isn't even your gf to go on a date. It's ok to get rides from friends but a woman that is supposed to be your date picking you up? Couldn't you have taken the bus??

It just makes you look real bad and weak to be accepting a ride from her. It also makes you dependent on her when leaving. It's a psychological thing. Not having a car and having her give you a ride when you're a big boy that can take care of himself, do his own thing and show up there by his own means (whether it be by bus, bike, whatever).

I don't care if she offers to drive me in her Lambo cause I don't have a car. If i'm meeting a woman for a date and I don't have transportation i'm taking the bus and meeting her there. You're a big boy you can take public transportation. You can even have one of your buddies drop you off somewhere near and just take the bus when going back home. Anything is better than depending on a woman that you aren't official with yet to go on a date.

Life is to short to spend it on negative evenmoney endeavors. Being tricked by a woman and finding out her friend is there also when it's supposed to be a date between you too is definitely a negative evenmoney endeavor.

I would have taken the bus and gone home after saying hi, staying there a minute and saying I don't feel good or some other bs excuse. You can't tolerate that kind of disrespect from women. You expect a date and you get a hangout session with her friend who's sole purpose is to c*ckblock and to make sure you "behave."

That would be the ideal taking the bus or getting a ride from one of my friends, but this isn't the first time her and I hung out (second time actually)

However I live in the burbs and transit system in my town sucks ass, if your not living in the city then its virtually impossible to get around if your not driving. Also the busses don't run that late to get into the burbs the last bus runs at 9 o clock, we didn't get to the bar till then(at 9), so once again transit system sucks monkey balls here

Also I don't think you understood her story, her friend wasn't there