Then why should the responsibility of telling someone that they're overweight be passed on as my responsibility at all and not their own? The onus isn't on me to tell people what they ought to weigh to suit me.
I can relate to that, I was about 50 pounds overweight years ago. But what got me to change was my own unhappiness with my body. And, it was your own decision to lose the pounds, it wasn't about anyone else's opinion. That "slap" you got was actually your reaction to what someone else said. Maybe you just needed to hear it said. And as much as a shock it was, you were ready for change.
Jophil points out how people will defend themselves rather then change, and offer up excuses. Let me tell you, I've heard the lamest excuses about being overweight come from men too.
There's more then a good chance it won't serve as a wake up call at all to anyone and instead just create friction and ill will. I don't think she'll be saying, "Thank you. I needed that. Excuse me, I have to go get some carrot sticks now."
However, in the small chance that it would, that doesn't mean that because a girl isn't physically attractive to me, that I should be blunt or rude and infer that she's unattractive and handle turning her down in a way that would make her possibly feel even worse and also maybe create a little scene, just because I think it will serve as a wake up call to her. Her weight is not my business, and I'm not going around life making it into my business. Let the fatties be with the fatties.
But yep, we can agree to disagree.
It's not about "worrying". LOL It's about being prudent.
I also am quite respectful to the police on the occasions they've pulled me over and brief in my replies, though I stick to my guns (so to speak), which is more like playing chess, rather then tell them what I really think and really feel. Not out of fear of what may happen, like getting even more tickets written up, but because if I was blunt it could probably yield something that's a huge royal hassle pain in the a$$ and cost lots of money too. But that would be worrying about something that hasn't been said yet.
