Cute counter girl?

[yowhatsup]

So one day I was at this gas station near my house filling up, I go in to pay and realize the cashier is around my age and is pretty hot. I say to her "So how did you get stuck working a saturday night?" She explains that she's the new girl, asks me if i'm going to a party or something (it was around halloween time on a saturday night). I say "Ya, I'm going to a party. Why? You want to come?" She sort of hesitates, and says "Well.... my boyfriend probably wouldn't be too happy about that" I smile, say "Well that's too bad" and leave.

Now, I'm pretty sure she was making up that bit about the boyfriend, I could be wrong though. After I left I realized I should've called her on it, but there was another guy waiting in line and I didn't really want to be doing that with him standing there.

Anyway, I happened to go back a couple weeks after, and she was working again. I go in and say "I think you were here last time I was in..." She says "ya i was." I asked her if she always works evenings, she said "only saturday night and sunday" I say "that must sort of suck." We chat a little more about a couple things, then I leave.

I've seen her another time, but I was in a hurry and it was busy so didn't really talk much. Basically, I know that I want to ask her for her number or out for coffee or something, but I'm not sure the best way to go about it. What if she tries to play the boyfriend card again? Anyone got any tips? Should I feel weird about doing this in front of other customers?

A thought that I just had: I know that they close at 10, so maybe I show up at 9:55ish or around, buy something, chat, and I find out she "just happens" to be off in 5 min, and go for something impromptu thing that way?

 

[The Inside Man]

I just did this last week. I posted a question about the best way to get her contacts/or give her mine, I got some critical advice from people who said just go in there and get it. Thats what I did, it was great, and I got the # and felt confident about it afterwords because I just strolled in and said I wanted to know if shes free to hang out this weekend.

 

[yowhatsup]

Hey, thanks, I just read that thread you made. So you just walked in there and asked for it pretty much? How much time did you spend with this girl in total though? Like 10 mins in total? A big problem for me, is that I haven't had much time with this girl at all, maybe like 2-3 mins in total, very little rapport. She said that she only works on saturday nights and sunday mornings, so I can only really see her like once a week. If I'm going to make a move, it has to be soon, otherwise it will just be weird, because it would take a long ass time to build significant rapport with her given the usual length of our interactions.

Would it be weird for me to hang around the counter and chat with her to try and build some rapport, even when she's helping other customers? This is in a gas station. I feel like there's a really good chance i can get the number if I can get better rapport with her.

 

[stand]

I wouldn't recommend going in there 5 minutes before close..

She's going to want to get the hell out of there and not be too interested in talking to you.

 

[DonJuan11]

Anyway, I happened to go back a couple weeks after, and she was working again. I go in and say "I think you were here last time I was in..." She says "ya i was." I asked her if she always works evenings, she said "only saturday night and sunday" I say "that must sort of suck." We chat a little more about a couple things, then I leave.

A thought that I just had: I know that they close at 10, so maybe I show up at 9:55ish or around, buy something, chat, and I find out she "just happens" to be off in 5 min, and go for something impromptu thing that way?

Dude you're waiting way too long to ask for a number. You should have asked the first time.

Her: "My boyfriend wouldn't like it."

You: "That's ok, I don't mind, what's your number?"


You can try again but you may have lost the initial "spark"

 

[yowhatsup]

Dude you're waiting way too long to ask for a number. You should have asked the first time.

Her: "My boyfriend wouldn't like it."

You: "That's ok, I don't mind, what's your number?"


You can try again but you may have lost the initial "spark"

Ya, I know. Ideally I would've gone for it right away, but I'm very new to this whole scene. I'll have to make do with the situation now i guess. Any tips?

 

[ilikeburritos]

well now that you both recognize each other, just go to the gas station and say something along the lines of:

you: hey hows it going
you/her: ...blah blah small talk for 5-10 seconds
you: let me ask you a question
her: yeah?
you: do you want to get a coffee with me?

if she says no, you have only wasted 30 seconds of your time

I think in cases like this the hard part it creating that initial spark, but once that's done - i mean come on, does she really think you are just a chatty nice guy with no intention of wooing her? she knows what you are after, and if you just beat around the bush she'll take that as you being nervous/not sure what to do/unsure of yourself/weak

 

[The Inside Man]

Hey, thanks, I just read that thread you made. So you just walked in there and asked for it pretty much? How much time did you spend with this girl in total though? Like 10 mins in total? A big problem for me, is that I haven't had much time with this girl at all, maybe like 2-3 mins in total, very little rapport. She said that she only works on saturday nights and sunday mornings, so I can only really see her like once a week. If I'm going to make a move, it has to be soon, otherwise it will just be weird, because it would take a long ass time to build significant rapport with her given the usual length of our interactions.

Would it be weird for me to hang around the counter and chat with her to try and build some rapport, even when she's helping other customers? This is in a gas station. I feel like there's a really good chance i can get the number if I can get better rapport with her.

I talked to her several times while trying to get my cell phone fixed... I talked to her for about 5 minutes the time before I closed her, and I felt like I should have closed her then but it threw me off because she was working.

It is just a self limiting belief though, as was pointed out to me. Have you asked her if she goes to school, lives around here, etc... Thats how I broke the ice with this girl the time before I got her #.

She was dealing with a customer when I went in there, I asked her if she was busy right now, shes said no, then I said "well my phone is working fine, I just wanted to know if you're free this weekend". I think it caught her off guard, she finished dealing with the customer and then gave me a look like Ok, give me the sales pitch...lol. So I leaned in closer to the counter and said I was going to a popular club district this weekend w/ some friends and if she wanted to go. She said she was working this weekend, but "let me give you my #". Didnt even have to ask since thats the way the conversation was going and she was apparently into me too. I like when it works out like that. I called her the day after she gave me the # and suggested hanging out the week after thanksgiving, and im going to call again in a few days to make more solid plans.

Don't listen to the guys who say its too late because you already talked with her, just go back in there confidently and suggest something to do this weekend and if she wants to come with you. I would say good luck but you don't need it. Just go do it :rockon:


PS part of my strategy was to go in during hours when they werent busy, like in the afternoon, so I wouldnt have to wait behind too many customers.

 

[The Inside Man]

I think in cases like this the hard part it creating that initial spark

agreed! I also wanted to say again that it is not too late, at all. The timing may even work out better if you go in several times for business and make rapport, and her more comfortable w/ you. But I agree with the rest of burritos post, build some more rapport if you wish and then get the number soon.

 

[yowhatsup]

Ya, I'm definitely going to go for it, I just wanted to get some tips and encouragement from you guys. I'll just be really straight up about it i guess. Any more tips are appreciated! I'll report back once the deed is done (probably this weekend).

Oh, one more thing, what happens if the boyfriend card comes up again?

 

[ilikeburritos]

yowhatsup,

There is this attractive girl my age who works at starbucks, and I am planning on approaching her like this (with NO rapport yet, the only interaction between us is i've ordered a coffee from her once):

after i order a coffee, i plan on it going along these lines:

me: you look familiar, do i know you from somewhere?
her: no i dont think so
me: hmm...do you work here a lot?
her: yeah
me: oh well that must be why you look familiar. my name's [my name]
her: oh my name is [her name]
me: well nice to meet you. so now that we're on a first name basis, do you want to have a coffee with me?
her: ummm....
me: if you have a break, or when you get off
her: OH yes, and then we can go back to your place and have sex

so don't worry, there are much much more colder approaches than what you are attempting