Cut her off completely or just don't show interest

[1Italia0]

Hey Guys,

Back at it here. I had a post a few days ago about a girl I'm seeing. The girl is pretty much everything I'm looking for. I'm over my player days. And please don't take this in anyways as me bragging about how good I am or being conceited. But I've been extremely fortuitous in my sex life. I've always had it easy when getting girls in bed. It's when I get to relationships that I fail lol

So back to the girl, we had our 2nd "date" on Thursday. We've had other times we've hung out, and talk at least twice a day. This date on Thursday was hot and heavy. I cooked for her, we had our foreplay of playing some pool, me showing her how to shoot by standing behind her while she pushes her ass in to me, etc..

Basically each of us wanted to jump eachother. Which we did. And the only reason I can think of why we didn't have sex is because I had once said if a girl sleeps with me right away, she's never date material. She's just a piece of ass. But I enjoy the fact that she didn't. As a person of interest in dating, I don't want it to happen right away. Also, I'm never THAT guy that clings to a woman right away, but there's these **** ton of coincidences which would take an entire other story to tell, and this CRAZY connection between us that has me falling for this girl.

Well tonight was a party of my brothers and she's been excited all week to go. Today at about 7:00 she texts me with you're gonna kill me but I can't make it. Well she's pulled that before joking so I asked if she was joking and she said no I wish, I'm driving my sister to the hospital right now. We're both very close without families, her mother is out of town and her father lives out of town. Well me being the ass that I am questioned if it was that or if she just had other plans or didn't wanna go, she didn't flip out just said she had no reason to lie and that she was driving on the express way. So I told her I was very disappointed but I hoped her sister was ok. She responded with "sorry" . Not I'm really sorry babe, or I'll make it up to you or anything like that.

So later in the night while I'm at tr party she texts me with she's ok, she's staying overnight, I'm on my way home. I invited her to still come she said she wasn't in the mood. So I said ok, we'll promise me you'll come see me before you leave? She's leaving for Miami to see her father Tuesday morning. I get no response.

So now I'm at a point where, what do I do? Do I just let her go? Do I confront her and say ya know, it's respect to just answer someone. Ignoring me is one of my biggest pet peaves. Or what do I do?

Originally this girls telling me she can see us dating, and now in one night I'm concerned about everything. I know it's one situation. But one thing can throw everything out of whack.

Any advice I appreciate'

Thanks guys!

 

[sylvester the cat]

Her sister is in hospital and all you can think if is the party? That's pretty cold .

 

[1Italia0]

Agreed. However the other night we're talking she said she was the only girl in the family. That's where it got me.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Agreed. However the other night we're talking she said she was the only girl in the family. That's where it got me.

That is odd. If she's not responding just hang back. If in doubt, do nothing.

 

[1Italia0]

It's also hard to say, I checked the hospital and your "sister"
Or anyone with yours or your moms last name have not been treated without psycho. Plus she's answered others messages on Facebook, I think I have my answer I just need validation. My idea was to talk to her in the morning and say ok, cut the crap and let's be exclusive.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

No! Do not do that. She is smelling the desperation all over you.

Like my guy said...lower your IL and hang back. That's all you need to worry about right now.

 

[Odisseo]

No! Do not do that. She is smelling the desperation all over you.

Like my guy said...lower your IL and hang back. That's all you need to worry about right now.

yeah OP it's so obvious, you're coming across as very insecure by needing her reassurance that she is not simply blowing you off and that she might be lying about her sister. The more you insist in verifying that what she said is true, the less likely you are to end up where you want to.

Others will be able to give you advice on how to do this correctly, but some kind of small break from her or at least showing less interest is definitely the appropriate move as your behavior has shown how much you need her and has therefore lowered your attractiveness in her eyes.

 

[Greasy Pig]

So you checked the hospital and no one with her surname came up? And she told you the other night that she's an only child?

I smell her interest waning. And sorry, but if you had the chance to fvck her the other night and didn't, that's probably got her doubting the whole situation.

It's noble that you wanted to wait with this girl but I think it was a mistake judging by her actions since.

I tried the same thing with an ex-GF and although we ended up going out for a year, she told me that because I had her naked in her bed and didn't fvck her on our second date, she had pretty much written me off but decided to give me one more shot. At which point I drilled her to kingdom come.

Don't pedestalise the pvssy, don't always be a gentleman and don't think not fvcking her will somehow turn her into your princess.
From my experience, when you have the chance to fvck a girl, do it. Women being women, they do tend to freak out a bit if they offer themselves to a man and he gets all chivalrous and noble.

 

[cordoncordon]

For some reason I don't believe she was really driving her sister to the hospital. Did she say what was wrong with her? Why she couldn't just go to the doctors instead? Most of the time, when people go to the hospital and not the Doctors office, it's by ambulance. And what are the odds that right when she is supposed to meet you for the party, she has an emergency like that? Very very slim odds imo.

Add in the fact that she told you she was an only child and that you checked the hospital and no one with her last name was there? I would say she is lying through her teeth.

So you simply go NC with the goal being you never talk to her again. Don't use it to try and stimulate IL on her part. She has just shown she has no class if in fact the hospital thing is a lie. No need to be with a girl like that long term who can make up such a terrible lie. And if by chance she does come back and apologizes and what not, and you feel you can handle it? Then use her for sex. But nothing more.

Of course if she really was going to the hospital, disregard everything I just wrote haha.

 

[Married Buried]

He'll be texting her 10 times by the end of the day.

 

[nismo-4]

Fall back. Your princess just might be in another castle.

It's best for you to go ghost and spin more plates. You care too much as evidenced by your chasing. Take a break.

When the interest drops, start up with a new girl. She likely has a new man anyway.

Case closed.

 

[1Italia0]

He'll be texting her 10 times by the end of the day.

Actually no.. Yeah I'm off the deep end with this girl lol but I take my questions and anxiety out here. So instead of bustin my balls, everyone else thank you for the advice

 

[Married Buried]

Actually no.. Yeah I'm off the deep end with this girl lol but I take my questions and anxiety out here. So instead of bustin my balls, everyone else thank you for the advice

Good. I only said that so you wouldn't do it. So what happened with her then? Probably nothing. This just proves my point - if a woman drives you to post problems for advice on here, it's already over. As soon as you post about her on sosuave, it should make you realize you need to next her immediately.

A woman you loves you will never drive you to post here.

 

[1Italia0]

Good. I only said that so you wouldn't do it. So what happened with her then? Probably nothing. This just proves my point - if a woman drives you to post problems for advice on here, it's already over. As soon as you post about her on sosuave, it should make you realize you need to next her immediately.

A woman you loves you will never drive you to post here.

Actually she ended up calling me the next day explaining everything, apologized and wants to make it up to me when she gets back lol but I laid off so we'll see what happens when she gets back. I've already gotten video of her in a bikini at her dad's pool in Miami. But taking my frustrations out here helps so I don't actually act upon them lol so thanks!