[CRUSHED.] girl i like got gangraped.

[DJ Alejandro]

guys. im crushed.

something happened to the girl i like and casually know through heavy contact.

she being very much a headturner with the body and brains to go for and a party girl, was invited by her close guy friend who's been her classmate for 2 years now to his house for a drinking session.

since she trusted the guy and them being close, she went along with him.

turns out his friends were also there and they drugged her to sleep and after that, they took turns molesting her.

and when everything was over and the girl came into her senses, all she could do was just cry.

this news reached me when one of those guys who allegedly *did not* mOlest her [which i doubt he didnt] came through and spilled the beans to his close girl friend who happens to be a girl buddy of mine.

im really crushed and i dont know what to do. i might just go and kill those bastards tomorrow. im really hurting over what happened.

help me.

 

[Caveman]

Man! I am sorry to hear that! Don't go out there killing or molesting people. Instead go to the police. These guys can easily be caught since you know them through this friend of yours. The girl will have to cooperate though.

Even though I understand how you feel, just don't go out molesting these guys yourself. You are not much help to the girl being in prison.

 

[Charisma]

how about reporting it to the cops ?

 

[Mercenary]

it's a sad reality man

like 1 in 3 or 1 in 4 women are raped during their lifetime.

 

[Dirtheart]

This is definitely a police matter, but I know it can be extremely traumatizing for a woman to testify. A lot of rape victims tend to blame themselves and feel utterly ashamed and degraded. This will ruin her life, no doubt about it, so what she needs is reassurance and support from friends.

If she's unwilling to go to the police, try to encourage her to see a rape councellor. These are confidential and won't force her to report it until she is comfortable.

 

[grifter]

Originally posted by Dirtheart
This is definitely a police matter, but I know it can be extremely traumatizing for a woman to testify. A lot of rape victims tend to blame themselves and feel utterly ashamed and degraded. This will ruin her life, no doubt about it, so what she needs is reassurance and support from friends.

If she's unwilling to go to the police, try to encourage her to see a rape councellor. These are confidential and won't force her to report it until she is comfortable.

why wouldnt they want to go to the police after being raped? embarassed? couldnt they get justice? i dono, but i would never rape a woman... not only is it sick, but its disgusting.... i cant even imagine more than 1 guy in the same room as me while having sex, why would they take turns? that is nasty.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

thanks, guys. what hurts AGAIN is that she was a virgin and had no prior experience whatsoever.

and then AGAIN, these guys are my *friends* who happened to be my friends back in high school. although id consider it a few hours ago if i was told about this in school while i was just in the next classroom, ive since become more subtle.

no doubt this will really traumatize her but im not about to let these guys get away with that. they've done a lot these things being their modus operandi but its about time they stop.

i plan to talk to her but how can i get her to open up? we havent even *really* talked. i cant just go up to her and ask away that i heard something disturbing.

this is harder than i thought. any experiences with gangrapes to your girl buddies? how'd you guys handle it?

 

[Blue Phoenix]

GOSH!

Come on!

That's pretty bad! This is an extreme case of manipulation.

I dont wanna even imagine the whole "headache" this is gonna create.

Imagine the frustration on this girl, the despair and shame!!!!

OUr wolrd is full of "wolves", we must not trust in everybody we see, we never know what they're looking for!

men, or women!

That's sad!

 

[squirrels]

It is sad.

She should go to the cops. She gains nothing by staying silent, except taking on the perpetually self-hating robe of a victim. There are witnesses...tell her to seek justice.

This happens to a LOT of people...the sad thing is that many of them neither go to the police or get over it. They feel like they're less of a person, that something's been taken from them.

They can't take her dignity unless she lets them. Help her be strong.

 

[mrbrooklyn]

Sorry man. We had a case out here in SoCal where these rich high school kids raped a girl while she was passed out. They actually video taped the act. The case went to trial and they were aquited.

I just don't understand how some guys can do things to their "friends". If they wanted to have some fun they could have easily bought a *****.

I say find the ring leader and beat his ass!

 

[MackJr]

No, don't beat anyone's ass. if you get involved in anything other than a legal manner, you'll complicate things and may actually cause them to get acquitted.

 

[Spike_the_cowboy]

"I say find the ring leader and beat his ass!"


I don't mean to sound like a hypocrite, as that is what I would most likely do, but the best thing is for her to talk with the police on this matter and determine if she will need counseling.


How well do you know this girl anyway? - It might be best to let her open up to one of her girlfriends.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

mrbrooklyn, how the hell do they get acquitted after they videotaped everything?!!

we're not really THAT close yet for me to just suddenly talk to her all of a sudden about it.

what your guys' take on me going to the guidance office to have them help me on this matter so maybe they could talk to the girl first? this issue would really be hard on the school if they let this go.

 

[AFK Protector]

Why wouldn't a girl go to the cops? Well, for one, they may be embarrassed, or worse, threatened to not tell.

What you need to do is this. Report these ****ers to the cops and let the cops deal with them. Although you may feel angry, or even homicidal, do not let your rage blind you. Let to cops do their job with these rapist *******s.

What can you do? First of all, put aside the DJ stuff when talking to her for a while, cuz she's traumatized most likely and may be wary of all men. Get her to see a shrink, or through her girl friends, tell her to see a shrink and get psychological help.

You're a good man, I think it'll all come together in the end. Good luck and I wish you and your friend swift recovery.

 

[Omega]

You have one of two options:

A) Report the creeps to the cops and make sure you know exactly who shees seeing in the future so it doesn't happen again. Talk to her as a friend for a while, and let her get her old self back. Usually after traumas like this, the girls are led to believe it was their fault by the attacker.

B) Go over to each ones house and put them into a coma. Show them whos the man, but you also will get in trouble.

Either one works but A is more appropriate for this situation.

 

[MackJr]

Originally posted by DJ Alejandro
mrbrooklyn, how the hell do they get acquitted after they videotaped everything?!!

Maybe she gave consent on the tape. but that's a different case from what we're talking about here.

 

[mrbrooklyn]

The girl was PASSED OUT throughout the tape. They claimed that the girl wanted to become a porn star.

THe guys were rich and white, the girl was from some poor area in cali. It didn't hurt that one of the kids father was the head sheriff in their county.

 

[SOLDIERM16]

Fly me out there and lets handle some business....

 

[SOLDIERM16]

and those other dudes got acquitted??? shyet, ill drive down there... lets handle some business

 

[SDBmania]

Dun Dun!

This reminds me of a Law and Order episode from the second season.

Look, you need to relax and take a deep breath. Don't do anthing too harsh. I'd talk to your friend and advise her to press charges. This is a serious crime, a crimal case. I'd take her down to your closest precinct and have them write a report. Since she knows them, it will be easy to identify. Actually, she should have reported it that night(if it was possible). If she did not do that already, it will be a bit more difficult to prove. Still, these punk should be brought to justice. Otherwise, it is likely that they will do this again, to another woman.