Crush on lecturer

ink_wizard

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Hey all,

Its been a while since i have been on here and i have this interesting situation that i would like your opinion on and some advice.

Im currently enrolled in a community college to study a short term course (will be finished in a few months) and i have recently developed a big crush on one of my lecturers there. Im 30 and shes 40, single with 2 kids and very good looking. When i have my classes with her i do flirt slightly nothing to full on and she sort of reciprocates back but i dont over do it because i dont want the rest of the class to catch on and i dont want to get her in any trouble. I always catch her staring at me when im not looking, and constantly smiling at me. We have an amazing connection and seem to have a lot of things in common, i always sit and chat with her on my lunch breaks and we both have a good time talking and get on like a house on fire.

Recently i was talking to her about facebook and she said she was fine with me adding her on there so i did. Since then we have been interacting a lot over it, commenting on each others pictures and posts and sometimes on FB messenger. Just the other day we got chatting over it and i told her how much i enjoy her classes and that she is an amazing teacher and a very attractive one. She said she would love to hang out with me after i graduate and get to know each other more and that she finds me intriguing apparently lol. I was so happy to hear this and i mutually agreed on it.

And now i cant get her out of my head....I dont know if im reading in to this too much and she's just being really friendly because she is a very friendly, caring person in general or if she's actually interested in me? I really like her and dont want to screw this up and sometimes all i want to do is talk to her everyday but i know this will come off as needy, but how do i resist the urge to keep contacting her because obvisiously we cant do anything now since shes still technically my teacher? Ugh i dont know what to do! is it ok to keep flirting with her or should i stop? and do you also think i should private message her more??? HELP!
 

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What is "sort of reciprocates." Is that like a little bit pregnant?

Dude calm down. You are going to act way too thirsty and scare her off. She is already giving you buying signals by saying she wants to get to know you. Thats cool. Telling her she is awesome and attractive isn't. It is going to kill challenge. Keep taking to her. Ask her on a date when the time is right. And do not hound her every day.

Do not be available to her every day or she will see you are chasing her with zero options.

Calm down. Follow her cues. Be confident. Confidence will keep you interesting.
 

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She said nothing happens until you are out of her class. This makes sense, you should back off and wait until after you are done, stop all the teenage FB BS, just be a student and right after you get your grades, make a date. Then go from there, meanwhile go date other girls that are available. You might find one you like better than a single mom who is about to hit the wall.
 

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If she doesn't do this with any of the other students, then ask her out and it's on. Not that deep bro.
 

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"I can't get her out of my head." = hello dreaded oneitis for a girl who I think I can't have right this second.

If your class is almost over, ask her out afterwards. If you have a long ways to go, you have nothing to lose by just asking her out now. Are there rules about dating students anyway? If so, I feel like since you are 30, the rules have a large grey area, as compared to an 18 year old female and her 40 year old professor.
 

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Well the problem is she is a very friendly person and gets on well with the other students but me and her seem to be closer because we talk more and built up a better connection. I don't know what the policy is for the whole dating students thing, but as I said I'll be done in a few months anyway so yes I can wait, I just hate waiting lol. She even said to me she's going to miss having me in her classes once I graduate. But has asked me twice to hang out with her once schooling is done. I just don't know if I'm reading too much in to this and she's just being friendly or if she is actually interested...
 

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Well the problem is she is a very friendly person and gets on well with the other students but me and her seem to be closer because we talk more and built up a better connection. I don't know what the policy is for the whole dating students thing, but as I said I'll be done in a few months anyway so yes I can wait, I just hate waiting lol. She even said to me she's going to miss having me in her classes once I graduate. But has asked me twice to hang out with her once schooling is done. I just don't know if I'm reading too much in to this and she's just being friendly or if she is actually interested...
I mean if she hasn't asked to hang out with any of the other students, then you got her. I don't know of any teachers who ask their students to 'hang out', especially at that age. So you know......
 

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