stevo
Master Don Juan
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I'm 24, divorced single father. good job and make good living.
She's 19, a dime (but since no one's perfect, we'll call her a 9), in college
After a long time of flirting, i finally escalated and kissed her, she sent me a text asking ''what took so long'' this was Dec '13. She flaked a lot that why kiss took long to happen. She was to come over the next day but again she flaked.
She went back to school a few weeks after, i tried to keep contact going but she went straight no contact and initiated contact a few days before she came back home.
Fast forward to this summer, she said she wants to take it slow but we can have sex..she previously told me she doesn't like friends with benefit.
I went FWB route, she stopped coming over because she said ''all i wanted to do was have sex''.
I went the chill, ''boyfriend'' texting frequently route, spending non sexual time and later she initiated sex again.
We've had sex four times, talked about being exclusive, i gave up my side sex-only chic.
She told me she doesn't want it to be ''just sex'', she's one of those girls that care about their ''body count''. I reassured her it won't be if we put work in to make a relationship work.
She told me she won't tell her best friend about us until she knew there's something here and a few weeks later she told me she told her best friend but the girl already sensed the vibe.
As time went on I asked her to be my girlfriend she said of course just not yet...whatever that means.
She wants us to be 'in the middle' for a while and progress with time but doesn't argue when friends call her my girlfriend. . .
Here we are, she's back in school, this time she texts but she kinda controls our convo in the sense that she could read my text, take hours to respond or not respond at all and since i don't double text she might initiate convo like 2-3 days later, she texts normal then back to the cycle.
I want us to talk on the phone time to time but she says no. she's busy with school work and doesn't like talking on the phone. Here I think she's controlling too only doing what she wants, am i overthinking it?
I want to go up to her school, take her out to dinner (with plans to escalate), she says no, she'll be home soon and really wants to focus on school for right now.
My thinking:
Who doesn't have 2hours on a sunday night for dinner?
I know she goes out, she told she went to a BBQ
When I was in college I had a lot of free time and partied
I won't mind forgetting about her and getting back in the game if she don't have time for me or a relationship and maybe try again when she comes back home but since we talked about exclusivity, my dik/hand's tied.
She says dude's hurt her in the past and I dont want to hurt her but I don't want to come off needy or desperate asking why she just stop responding and don't say nothing for three days straight? I asked her once already and she apologized saying she didn't mean to.
How about I rekindle my previous just-sex side chic, to take my mind off this girl? I have the player reputation I'm trying to come away from so I'm torn.
Is she really that busy?? or just don't have time for me?
Playing games maybe? Power struggle? Over the moon for me but playing hard to get maybe? or is she waiting for ''someone better''?
I'm fine with whatever i just like to know what it is and what it aint so I can plan myself and my heart would eventually follow.
Brothers set me right.
She's 19, a dime (but since no one's perfect, we'll call her a 9), in college
After a long time of flirting, i finally escalated and kissed her, she sent me a text asking ''what took so long'' this was Dec '13. She flaked a lot that why kiss took long to happen. She was to come over the next day but again she flaked.
She went back to school a few weeks after, i tried to keep contact going but she went straight no contact and initiated contact a few days before she came back home.
Fast forward to this summer, she said she wants to take it slow but we can have sex..she previously told me she doesn't like friends with benefit.
I went FWB route, she stopped coming over because she said ''all i wanted to do was have sex''.
I went the chill, ''boyfriend'' texting frequently route, spending non sexual time and later she initiated sex again.
We've had sex four times, talked about being exclusive, i gave up my side sex-only chic.
She told me she doesn't want it to be ''just sex'', she's one of those girls that care about their ''body count''. I reassured her it won't be if we put work in to make a relationship work.
She told me she won't tell her best friend about us until she knew there's something here and a few weeks later she told me she told her best friend but the girl already sensed the vibe.
As time went on I asked her to be my girlfriend she said of course just not yet...whatever that means.
She wants us to be 'in the middle' for a while and progress with time but doesn't argue when friends call her my girlfriend. . .
Here we are, she's back in school, this time she texts but she kinda controls our convo in the sense that she could read my text, take hours to respond or not respond at all and since i don't double text she might initiate convo like 2-3 days later, she texts normal then back to the cycle.
I want us to talk on the phone time to time but she says no. she's busy with school work and doesn't like talking on the phone. Here I think she's controlling too only doing what she wants, am i overthinking it?
I want to go up to her school, take her out to dinner (with plans to escalate), she says no, she'll be home soon and really wants to focus on school for right now.
My thinking:
Who doesn't have 2hours on a sunday night for dinner?
I know she goes out, she told she went to a BBQ
When I was in college I had a lot of free time and partied
I won't mind forgetting about her and getting back in the game if she don't have time for me or a relationship and maybe try again when she comes back home but since we talked about exclusivity, my dik/hand's tied.
She says dude's hurt her in the past and I dont want to hurt her but I don't want to come off needy or desperate asking why she just stop responding and don't say nothing for three days straight? I asked her once already and she apologized saying she didn't mean to.
How about I rekindle my previous just-sex side chic, to take my mind off this girl? I have the player reputation I'm trying to come away from so I'm torn.
Is she really that busy?? or just don't have time for me?
Playing games maybe? Power struggle? Over the moon for me but playing hard to get maybe? or is she waiting for ''someone better''?
I'm fine with whatever i just like to know what it is and what it aint so I can plan myself and my heart would eventually follow.
Brothers set me right.
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