With respect to your first question... that chic really wants your cack. You should have already banged her. If anything your restraint has made her want you more. I'm not huge on going for girls w/ bf's, but in this case she's obviously choosing you, so the ethical lines are not as clearly drawn.
Sigh. How many times have I heard that one? I'm willing to bet she herself feels this way the most. While she's a solid 7, my mind is so fine tuned into figuring how to improve every single aspect of myself as a person I tend to overlook females these days. HB8 last thanksgiving basically hoped into my arms begging me to smash....I really wasn't thinking about it, I honestly don't care if I don't get laid for the rest of the year, the thought of me being the strongest, fastest, most skilled, most intelligent Kirro I can be excites me far more. & in theory wouldn't that greatly increase my sexual appeal? Its not like I'm 50.
It would definitely help your confidence if you were in better shape, but if she's into you and you have high enough confidence to get to her in your current state, then what's stopping you?
Its a weird situation. In a way the qualities I show around girls are an act but I'm kind of pretending to be myself....what I mean is, I usually respond to females by parodying my younger self, since its still me, no girl is able to detect I'm basically BS'ing us both. I've become self aware, self conscious(if you could be bothered to listen, I'd PM you the entire story), I know I'm not the best catch nor the best prize, I may not even be the best lay, these are facts & refuse to deny reality no matter how unpleasant. I don't think I'm in the best condition to be messing with girls. In a way I look down on HB7 & anyone or any girl who likes the current me. The way I see it, I'm not pleased with who stares back at me in the mirror, it baffles me that people feel differently. It also intrigues me that females are blind to my borderline self loathing. The 2nd verse of Lupe Fiasco's beautiful lasers song sums up my thoughts(to a degree).
Your other questions:
Flexibility is an important part of overall fitness. Its quite easy to lose flexibility as you gain muscle if you don't have something like yoga, stretching, etc to keep you limber. Continue to do yoga and make sure you stretch a lot. Being flexible will actually mean that you are functionally stronger in more ranges of motion, and will also be able to less susceptible to injuries.
Whew....that puts my mind to rest.
My loose ankles I think are a genetic thing. My bro has similar issues. My wrists and ankles are quite flexible/"loose". I have to tape my wrists when I train. If I'm gonna play soccer or anything where I'm running around a lot I have to tape my ankles. If you're wondering whether being big and strong will impede your agility/speed permanently, think of NFL athletes. These guys are some of the fastest/most agile athletes out there, and they're all big ass mofos. Being fast and agile will come as long as you are strong and explosive. As you build up more of a strength base you should seriously consider learning the olympic lifts. Its important however, that you have a good coach, as these moves are quite technically challenging. The amount of power (mad/t) that you can generate w/ these lifts are maximum amounts of power the human body can generate doing any sort of physical activity. If you wanna be fast/explosive you have to consider olympic lifting in combination w/ plyometric training, etc.
I had always planned on learning the olympic lifts & pylometrics, its good to know you're recommending them. Again you put my mind at ease.
Regarding your pursuit of being a life guard... swimming is a great form or low impact cardio. Like anything else, its all about how much you do... Doing a lot of cardio will slow down overall muscle gain. However, I'm not gonna tell you to not do any. Doing a wide variety of work will ensure that you have the healthiest/best body possible... You'll just have to eat extra calories (good calories) to make up for what you loose swimming. I'd personally recommend swimming 2x/week for ~45 minutes as your cardio... don't do anymore.
At best I'd probably have time to swim with my friend like once a week, I was wondering if it was a bad idea to continue sprinting while trying to bulk up, word is sprinting destroys muscle gains...which makes me a sad cub.
Okay specific program details. I'll give you the simple exercise sequence that I'd do.
Day 1: Squats/Chin ups.
- warm up (do abs here). What exercises are you doing for abs? Crunch variants mostly with weighted crunches, anything better?
- Squat 1 x 8 (warm up set)
- Breathing squat: 1 x 20 (these are nasty... have you ever heard of breathing squats before?) Nope but they sound challenging, I wanna try em.
- Chin ups: 1 x 8
- Squat (below parallel... as low as you can go) 1 x 8
Alternate sets of chin ups w/ squats. Do 3-4 sets of each.
- Lunges: 3 x 10/side
- Leg ext. 3 x 12
- Seated hammer curl: 3 x 8
- Preacher curl: 3 x 8
- Standing calf raises: 2 x 20
Day 2: Push/pull (upper body day)
- warm up/abs.
- Incline DB press: 1 x 8
- One arm DB row: 1 x 8/side
Alternate incline DB press w/ the rows until you've done 3-4 sets of each.
- Wide grip pull ups: 1 x 8
- DB shoulder press: 1 x 8
Alternate these 2 until you've done 3-4 sets of each.
- Bench press: 2 x 10
- Incline DB fly: 2 x 10
- anterior DB raises: 1 set to failure
- Lateral DB raises: 1 set to failure
- Posterior DB raises: 1 set to failure
Day 3: Deads/Dips.
- Warm up/abs... make sure you stretch your lower back.
- Deadlift warm up set: Light weight - 1 x 8.
- Deadlift: 1 x 6-8 (go heavy once you've learned the move)
- Parallel bar dips: 1 x 8
Alternate Deadlifts and dips. Do 5 sets of each.
- Lying hamstring curls: 3 x 10
- Seated Hamstring curls: 4 x 10
- Tricep cable pushdown: 3 x 12
- Tricep kickback: 3 x 12
For the accessory work you can really pick and choose what you wanna do. I just have you suggestions based on exercises that I like and your goals. Just make sure you have the big compound movements in there. Make sure you're giving yourself at least 1 day of rest between weight sessions. Try to space out the deadlift and squat days.
Yeah I'll be super focused on those big compound movements, any idea of how heavy I should be lifting? Should I be lifting heavy? Or light?
Due to the volume of this program, your diet is gonna need to be great. Try and get AT LEAST 1.2 g/lb of body weight in protein. Most meat is 15-20% protein by mass... so a pound of meat is approximately 90 g of protein. 1.5 lbs is approximately 135 g. If you combine 1 lb of meat w/ a couple of 40-50g whey isolate shakes and a gainer shake you can easily get over 200 g of protein/day. This isn't even including other protein sources like nuts, cottage cheese, etc.
