Critical Father , Confidence & Women

[KnightRyder]

I have a critical father, He's always kinda has some occosional meaningless put-down that he always says to me every other day or so ..

now my question is DO YOU THINK THIS AFFECTS MY CONFIDENCE WITH WOMEN ?


IF SO , SHOULD I MOVE OUT OF MY HOUSE ? I have the funds to move out, however, Being in the expensive area that I am in , it would eat upto half of my month income.

Alternativaly, I could continue to live at home, but just NOT talk to my father at all. ( not so easy)


WHat Should I Do ?

 

[BackToTheMack]

Move to a less expensive area..........i did and i came to like it

 

[DonJuanMonk]

I feel you brother - you should know that being around a "poisoner" will make you suffer the same fate as he is. You already know what to do: Put up with it Or Move out.

 

[Boner da Stoner]

put up with it, he's got meaningless put-downs... he's trying to toughen you up

He won't respect you as a man(opr her will cave and become ultra *****) if you "run" from him

just start being a man, he knows the insults are phasing you(trust me he knows from any of a thousand signals he can spot in you in a second that he's learned since you was a wittle baby)

Confidence comes from knowing, not from pumping yourself up, Inflate a weak ass basketball and it'll burst on the first few dribbles if not the first.

A man can stand up to whatever is thrown his way, and knows when to run or back down when he is beat. There is no right or wrong in the world, just as long as you learn and apply your knowledge.

 

[prowler13]

"A man can stand up to whatever is thrown his way, and knows when to run or back down when he is beat. There is no right or wrong in the world, just as long as you learn and apply your knowledge"


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although this has truth in it, there is only so far a man can go in life if he is being kicked in the balls all the time. Take the same traits you have & surround yourself with positive people and you'll find that you will travel further in life than if you have an emotional anchor dragging on your feet. I always disgard negative energy. 'Toughing up' is for those who need to, basically the bottom of our social class. I f you are the type of person who wants to achieve "greatness" in life, you'll need to discard negs & include those who are positive.

"Negativity is like cracking a window on a winter day, if you let just a little cold air in, the whole room will be freezing in a matter of an hour"
-- from a man much wiser than I

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

You're 24 and still living at home? You should've moved out a long time ago, but that's just me--I would move out if I were you.

In answer to your question though, I think all the negative things we are told as kids subconscienctously affect our confidence. Some people are born with confidence, and some have to learn it.

I was somewhere in between, but am now moving my way up to where I just want to have fun, and if I get rejected, so what? As a matter of fact, I just got rejected this morning, but it's not going to stop me from thinking confidently of myself.

Just remember, it's in your head; you have to make up your mind that you are confident, but don't overdo it to the ****iness point.

 

[Evangenlion]

when i was 18 my dad booted me out into the cold (the cold cold streets of nowhere). i thank him for it, i was getting too comfortable at home and i needed to learn how to be a man.

fathers are critical for a good reason, they want u to be a man fast. real fathers treat u like ****, after all you don't have breast on your chest and a hole between your legs.

my dad used to be critcal about everything. and there is no way to please him, there never is.

he'd say stupid **** like "why u always bring girls with big tits over here, and do u think i'm deaf, that i don't hear the things u do in your room?"

then i brought home and small titty girl and u know what he said
"why do bring over these thin girls?"

but not matter what i did, it never pleased him, no matter how hard i tried, not one good comment.

when i got kicked out and started to live alone, yess the ladies started coming allot more, but thats besides the point.

my dad, became proud of me. he treated me like a king.

point is, in your fathers eyes, ur still a boy.

he wants you to be a man, so leave home and battle it out with the real world.

 

[RaWBLooD]

Originally posted by KnightRyder
I have a critical father, He's always kinda has some occosional meaningless put-down that he always says to me every other day or so ..

now my question is DO YOU THINK THIS AFFECTS MY CONFIDENCE WITH WOMEN ?


IF SO , SHOULD I MOVE OUT OF MY HOUSE ? I have the funds to move out, however, Being in the expensive area that I am in , it would eat upto half of my month income.

Alternativaly, I could continue to live at home, but just NOT talk to my father at all. ( not so easy)


WHat Should I Do ?

WTF?
that should make you all the harder at working to be the best you can be
Not every father is gonna go to their son and say AWW U DIDNT CATCH THE BALL AT FOOTBALL PRACTICE? THATS OK SON HAVE SOME ICE CREAM.

that would just make you happy with failure.

YOU shoudl be glad you have a father who acknowledges your existence.

whats that saying?
we take things for granted till they gone?

sigh.

 

[Desdinova]

put up with it, he's got meaningless put-downs... he's trying to toughen you up

He won't respect you as a man(opr her will cave and become ultra *****) if you "run" from him

Sorry, but this is a load of crap. Dealing with the blows of daily living will toughen you up. Keeping a negative person around will only damage your self esteem.

There's two ways you can view moving out:
1) Running away from your problems
2) Eliminating bad influences from your life

Pick the one that's going to make you a better person.