creating excitement: advice

[h_roberts]

Hey y'all

I just got off the phone with a potential. We have plans to have Sushi on Sunday evening (1st date). Before she called, I sent her a text "Can you keep a secret"?

I was winging it, had no plan, just thought it would be a good way to keep her thinking about me over the weekend. She asked if it was a general question or if I had something to tell her, and I said "You'll see on Sunday".

So anyway, I really have no secrets, so doh! I don't have anything real to use. But it's a game anyway, so I need to come up with something cute that she'll laugh at.

Any suggestions?


I'm thinking I might say something like "Shhhh, don't tell anyone, but Santa Claus is really my dad"

Or maybe just come out and say "No, I don't think I can trust you yet...lets see how it goes"

Or even "Did you really think I had a secret? No, but I bet you wondered all weekend"

 

[slaog]

Hey y'all

I just got off the phone with a potential. We have plans to have Sushi on Sunday evening (1st date). Before she called, I sent her a text "Can you keep a secret"?

I was winging it, had no plan, just thought it would be a good way to keep her thinking about me over the weekend. She asked if it was a general question or if I had something to tell her, and I said "You'll see on Sunday".

So anyway, I really have no secrets, so doh! I don't have anything real to use. But it's a game anyway, so I need to come up with something cute that she'll laugh at.

Any suggestions?


I'm thinking I might say something like "Shhhh, don't tell anyone, but Santa Claus is really my dad"

Or maybe just come out and say "No, I don't think I can trust you yet...lets see how it goes"

Or even "Did you really think I had a secret? No, but I bet you wondered all weekend"

You seem to be doing alright. Just keep teasing her it's not the secret thats important it's the game ye are playing.

The frame you have is important so just keep a confident, fun frame and don't overthink things.

 

[SeanJuan]

Tell her you're a lesbian trapped in a mans body.

 

[iqqi]

Dude, I'd think you were retarded. You better come up with something good now!

 

[wjh]

pretty corny if you ask me

you're kind of sweating a couple words, that's a pretty weak position to be in

tell her your secret is a ten inch ****

 

[h_roberts]

Nah.

I'm going to play it this way. I have a bottle of Merlot, some goblets, and a candle in the back of the SUV. I'm going to play the secret until after dinner and tell her I have to show it to her. I'm going to take her to the park and pop the cork and enjoy the night air with her. I might say something like "What, like you thought I was really gay or something?" just to make her laugh.

I got this.

 

[KaneZen]

actually for just winging it thats not a bad option

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear H_Roberts...
Well tell her she has a secret admirer,she will say Who,you say well if I told you it wouldn't be a secret would it?Ask her to guess who then,and give her the Prize the Bottle of Merlot....Make sure you open it first,touch of Vodka,easy Peasy...

 

[02hero]

Tell her that she needs to keep quiet about you and her, as you dont want your wife and kids finding out about what you two have been up to......not to mention all the other women.

 

[mtnkng]

I think this is a good indicator as to why techniques and game playing falls short compared to just having a good inner game and being yourself.

If your funny little text came from just being you, you wouldn't need to figure out what the next line will be for "the secret".

Still, you're getting yourself in front of women....and you're learning. Thats where Im at. You'll make mistakes and have some failures, but those are just learning opportunities for what works for you and what doesn't.

Next time, you'll have the answer before you pose the question.

 

[STR8UP]

You have stumbled upon a GREAT way to captivate a woman's attention. The only problem is you have to be able to follow through.

Women LOVE to be teased like this. I have one who is jumping out of her skin because I told her if she comes to visit me I have a surprise for her.

She says, "Just give me a hint, pleeeeeeeeeassssseeeeeeee??????"

To which I respond "Suck it up woman. Get your ass over here and you'll see."

Priceless.

 

[Mr. Me]

We have plans to have Sushi on Sunday evening (1st date). Before she called, I sent her a text "Can you keep a secret"?

I understand what you're trying to do, but if you want to create "excitement", telling someone you have a secret isn't so exciting. What's so exciting about that?

If you want to create "mystery" and be on their mind, then it's better to just make the date and then DISSAPEAR until the appointed time instead of texting her like some school kid.

But let's back up some... you have a FIRST date with this person and it's for dinner? Hopefully, you've already spent some time with her to make sure the chemistry is there in person, right? Otherwise it's going to be a LONG dinner.

But a dinner? I thought you wanted to create excitement? Why not plan something more adventurous for the first date?

 

[h_roberts]

I understand what you're trying to do, but if you want to create "excitement", telling someone you have a secret isn't so exciting. What's so exciting about that?

If you want to create "mystery" and be on their mind, then it's better to just make the date and then DISSAPEAR until the appointed time instead of texting her like some school kid.

But let's back up some... you have a FIRST date with this person and it's for dinner? Hopefully, you've already spent some time with her to make sure the chemistry is there in person, right? Otherwise it's going to be a LONG dinner.

But a dinner? I thought you wanted to create excitement? Why not plan something more adventurous for the first date?

Well, thanks for the input, but I got this girl hook, line, and sinker.

First of all, I had spent an evening with her at a bar when we met (thats when I got her number), so chemistry was already established.

I called her the next day (as I told her I would) and got her voicemail and no reply. I kinda wrote her off for a few days. But then, I decided to sent her a text that made her think. It was a philosophical quote that related to the conversation we had at the bar.

From that point forward she was captivated by me. She asked that night if I had plans and I told her I was going out with friends. I invited her, and then later she cancelled on me because she had to work late. I played it cool and said no harm no foul because I was already going out with friends anyway.

That night, she texted me and asked to make the Sushi date on Sunday. WELL, that's when I dropped the secret tease. It drove her nuts (sweet naive type) and she asked if we could do dinner Saturday instead and maybe still do something Sunday.

So, I came up with the "secret" that worked. I photoshopped a pic of a bikini model with my head on it. Folded it neatly and wrote "for your eyes only" on it. By the time I picked her up Saturday, I had carried the tease all the way to an apex. I handed her the pic, she was thinking it was a criminal background record or something. She busted a gut when I showed it to her and claimed to be a former bikini model. It broke the ice for the date and we had a BLAST.

And to comment on your statements about spicing up the date....I bought a bottle of merlot, and brought wine glasses and a basket. Went to a quiet outdoor spot that night and we finished off the bottle. Afterward, we went to a bar she recommended and had drinks and played pool. By the end of the night, she was eating out of my hands and wanted to go to my place.

I don't kiss and tell on the rest. Greatest date beginning to end since I courted my ex wife.

And this is hands down the highest quality woman I've ever had the ballz to seduce. When we woke, she had me coming over to her place and playing by the pool.

I think I did OK.

Sometimes, a guy like me can overthink things, but I've noticed on this board that a lot of posts are overly critical and don't give the potential DJ enough credit. I've never been bad with women per se. My trouble has always been with the women I've considered "out of my league". I get tongue tied. But this was one that I did everything right with and forsee good things to come. But I'm not worried. One night or a dozen more, it was a great weekend.