Short story:
Married (open relationship), met new 'christian' single 33 y.o. mom (previously married to a 50+ 'emotionally abusive' dude who got her a green card, not the father though) at a night club back in July this year. After two months she still would not put out. I confessed to her then that I was married, yet in an abusive relationship. She forgave me and said she would support me. Wife finds out, she threatens to go to her church and home unless I tell her EVERYTHING which I did. Next, wife sends her an email telling her everything I told her (that I didn't like her son, that I took her to parking lots to attempt to have sex, etc.). She tells me about email but disregards. She still wont put out (Sept.).
By October, I promised her an IT job (I'm a manager); THEN she begins having wild sex with me, she even suggests odd places like enclosed car wash, to have sex etc. November: She gets a nice IT cert and begin prepping her for the job. Thanksgiving, another 50+ yr old friend of her shows up and allows him to shoulder massage her in front of me; I flipped and broke up with her not because of that but because she hid me from her church friends.
Dec. 2: I take her back and tell her that I will divorce wife so that we begin taking concrete steps. She agrees but doesn't want my job and refuses to have sex. She then changes her mind and takes my job offer again Dec 19; I filed a petition for divorce but nothing else just to show her I filed it. Dec. 20: She forwards me a copy of the email my wife sent her back in September so that I knew what she went through. That night I tried to have sex with her but wasn't successful. I told her that she will have the job but that we'll have to suspend our relationship until I relocate to another dept. or find another job. She thought it was a ridiculous idea and later said I was coming up with excuses to not hire her (which deep down was true).
Dec 21-22: She adds her ex on FB, then has her ex husband's 8 yr old grand kid over for the weekend; nothing more than a little spy for that guy, making all sorts of lovely remarks about her grandpa. The last straw she tells her that 'grandpa still has a crush on you and loves you grandma' while we are all coming back from Chuckecheeses. I drop them off, she stays in the car to apply for the job on my laptop, I felt I was running out of options, I didn't want her to apply, so I ask her to let me go with her on Monday to drop this kid off and she refuses, says she doesn't want me meeting her ex. I then slam the laptop monitor and tell her I'm done being not respected by even an 8 yr old. She attempts to leave and I hold her hand by the wrist and apologize. Then I let her go a few seconds later and leave. Tonight she texted me and said that me getting upset over the comment of an 8 yr old in front of my child (he was still in his car seat) says everything about me and that it's over. I said fine, to let me go pick up my stuff at her place and I did. She comes out with her mom, returns my stuff, allows me to hug and kiss her but warns me that its up to me if this is a happy ending or needs the police involved (wtf??). At that point I leave and just sent her an email, letting her know how I felt about everything (that she had no boundaries with her ex, that she never believed me being in an abusive relationship, that I knew ALL about her past and yet loved her, that I was the only retard that took her and her kid seriously (even offered to adopt him), and that I even thought she had sex with me for the promise of a job (she is hot but she cleans offices at night and used to sell jewelry door to door)... I had spied on her emails before (where I read an email from her ex crying for slamming the door on her kid and to take him back) so I told her that's fine if that's what you want to do, that anyone could lose their temper and slam a dashboard or a door but that was no reason to end a serious lifelong commitment. Last I told her that I had even slept in my car for 4 months so that I could save for a home and wedding. I also told her that I always sensed she would dump me as soon as she found out I filed for divorce as revenge for the intimate stuff I told about us to my wife. I know I am crazy too, but why would she just make a big deal out of my wife's email until now?
Married (open relationship), met new 'christian' single 33 y.o. mom (previously married to a 50+ 'emotionally abusive' dude who got her a green card, not the father though) at a night club back in July this year. After two months she still would not put out. I confessed to her then that I was married, yet in an abusive relationship. She forgave me and said she would support me. Wife finds out, she threatens to go to her church and home unless I tell her EVERYTHING which I did. Next, wife sends her an email telling her everything I told her (that I didn't like her son, that I took her to parking lots to attempt to have sex, etc.). She tells me about email but disregards. She still wont put out (Sept.).
By October, I promised her an IT job (I'm a manager); THEN she begins having wild sex with me, she even suggests odd places like enclosed car wash, to have sex etc. November: She gets a nice IT cert and begin prepping her for the job. Thanksgiving, another 50+ yr old friend of her shows up and allows him to shoulder massage her in front of me; I flipped and broke up with her not because of that but because she hid me from her church friends.
Dec. 2: I take her back and tell her that I will divorce wife so that we begin taking concrete steps. She agrees but doesn't want my job and refuses to have sex. She then changes her mind and takes my job offer again Dec 19; I filed a petition for divorce but nothing else just to show her I filed it. Dec. 20: She forwards me a copy of the email my wife sent her back in September so that I knew what she went through. That night I tried to have sex with her but wasn't successful. I told her that she will have the job but that we'll have to suspend our relationship until I relocate to another dept. or find another job. She thought it was a ridiculous idea and later said I was coming up with excuses to not hire her (which deep down was true).
Dec 21-22: She adds her ex on FB, then has her ex husband's 8 yr old grand kid over for the weekend; nothing more than a little spy for that guy, making all sorts of lovely remarks about her grandpa. The last straw she tells her that 'grandpa still has a crush on you and loves you grandma' while we are all coming back from Chuckecheeses. I drop them off, she stays in the car to apply for the job on my laptop, I felt I was running out of options, I didn't want her to apply, so I ask her to let me go with her on Monday to drop this kid off and she refuses, says she doesn't want me meeting her ex. I then slam the laptop monitor and tell her I'm done being not respected by even an 8 yr old. She attempts to leave and I hold her hand by the wrist and apologize. Then I let her go a few seconds later and leave. Tonight she texted me and said that me getting upset over the comment of an 8 yr old in front of my child (he was still in his car seat) says everything about me and that it's over. I said fine, to let me go pick up my stuff at her place and I did. She comes out with her mom, returns my stuff, allows me to hug and kiss her but warns me that its up to me if this is a happy ending or needs the police involved (wtf??). At that point I leave and just sent her an email, letting her know how I felt about everything (that she had no boundaries with her ex, that she never believed me being in an abusive relationship, that I knew ALL about her past and yet loved her, that I was the only retard that took her and her kid seriously (even offered to adopt him), and that I even thought she had sex with me for the promise of a job (she is hot but she cleans offices at night and used to sell jewelry door to door)... I had spied on her emails before (where I read an email from her ex crying for slamming the door on her kid and to take him back) so I told her that's fine if that's what you want to do, that anyone could lose their temper and slam a dashboard or a door but that was no reason to end a serious lifelong commitment. Last I told her that I had even slept in my car for 4 months so that I could save for a home and wedding. I also told her that I always sensed she would dump me as soon as she found out I filed for divorce as revenge for the intimate stuff I told about us to my wife. I know I am crazy too, but why would she just make a big deal out of my wife's email until now?
