crazy dreams

[Deadly_Assassin]

I have been having some really crazy dreams ( We all do ) but I have been having them about my old oneitis. I have been trying to get over her by getting with other chicks and its slowly working but I still think about my old oneitis a lot.

I cant remember most of them, but since I have liked her there were ones about me ringing her up and telling her I liked her and she started crying because I was too late. There was this other one I kissed her and she was about to finish work and I was waiting for her. Another one was how our baby looked after we were married!!!

:nono:

There were other dreams of her getting with my mate. And the one last night was I saw her and i tried talking to her but she kept ignoring me and just left and jumped in this van with these two other guys. Then she was waiting but she had to get out and jump in another car with this other guy who I havent seen in years since high school. Then the dream followed that me and her were on a yacht and I finally realised she didnt like me. But when I realised that it actually wasnt me, but some other guy. And he was really sad.

Do these dreams just reveal my insecurities and my feelings for her? Its pissing me off because when i woke up I was so glad it was a dream, but at the same time kinda worried about myself that I am having these dreams.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

whenever i watch porn I think about my oneitis being banged, and her really enjoying it. It drives me nuts and kinda turns me on at the same time.

We havent talked for 2 and half months. She was a missed opportunity and I should have moved on as soon as I heard that she was dating someone else. But I didnt, because apparantly she had started dating this guy just after she found out that I was with another girl at her uni. When she started going out with his guy I kinda told her off for it. ( hes 28, shes 19 ).

Just as I was about to go to auz for a holiday I told her I liked her and bla blah blah. She said she had changed a lot and had kinda moved on ( it took ages for it to come out of her mouth )A few weeks after my trip from auz I heard she had broken up with her bf. ( it seemed they broke up when I was in auz in my first week, the bf stopped suddenly stopped emailing me, I am guessing this was the time she dumped him maybe? )After my trip we never spoke to each other again. I did text her a couple of times because she wasnt coming church anymore, but she never replied. She did reply to my m8s texts. Other guys in church also had told her off for being slack at church so I am not sure if her not attenting church anymore was entirely my fault.

So its been a couple of months and nothing has happened. I have tried moving on and got with other chicks at work, but i still think about her. One of her good mates rang me up the other day ( I havent heard from her since start of the year ) and just asking how I was doing and stuff and mentioned the oneitis a couple of times. I just acted like i didnt care what she had to say.

I have to do something about this, its been ages

 

[Climax]

its normal

I was in a similar situation a while back.... and yes, i also had dreams similar to the ones u are having when I was trying to get over her... The only thing that will heal this is time and to fall in love with another girl.

I have not yet fallen in love with anyone since her, but with time it gets better. It might seem like its taking forever, but the truth is, is that it DOES take a very long time to get over someone you use to like a LOT or even love.


Laterz...

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

Yea many guys I have talked to say it seems normal. The problem is I meet a lot of girls and hardly anyone of them come close to her in personality wise. I mean this girl has got it all that I am looking for in a girl. She got along with my whole family too. It seems like the only way to get her is to actually get over her first.

 

[Climax]

hmmm...

Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
Yea many guys I have talked to say it seems normal. The problem is I meet a lot of girls and hardly anyone of them come close to her in personality wise. I mean this girl has got it all that I am looking for in a girl. She got along with my whole family too. It seems like the only way to get her is to actually get over her first.

Mark my words, one day u WILL find a girl that outdoes her... all u gotta do is find that girl, someday. I thought the same about my ex... she was the closest to perfect that i would rate any girl that I met or knew.... but now after meeting other women and after finally starting to get over her, I realise that as perfect as I thought she was, she also had her fair share of down sides, and NOW when I compare her to some other ladies that i have met, she isn’t that "perfect" as I thought she was when I was still blinded by my love for her. It took me over 6 months to finally "come out of my shell" and move on. And even NOW I sometimes think of her and wish things had turned out differently, but its not the kinda pain that makes me wanna go and kill myself anymore, its the kinda pain that you feel when you get a sh!t mark in an exam.. it hurts, but u quickly get over it


Laterz...

 

[arlanda]

I've met (only) three girls in my life who would live up to my idea of "perfect" in both looks and personality departement. I blew it with the first one - actually, she's the reason why I am here I also thought I won't be able to meet anyone like her but hey it happened and I am doing pretty well with this new girl

It really depends on what you are looking for in a girl, my "type" is hard to come by but it's not impossible!

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

the problem with me is I want a christian girl, whos a thinker, intelligent, funny, cute, adventerous, atheletic, good cook, has a good fashion sense, out-going personality, and must have common interests. I live in New Zealand, and honestly girls like these are very rare and most of the time taken.

 

[Climax]

Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
the problem with me is I want a christian girl, whos a thinker, intelligent, funny, cute, adventerous, atheletic, good cook, has a good fashion sense, out-going personality, and must have common interests. I live in New Zealand, and honestly girls like these are very rare and most of the time taken.

man! Finding good quality girls IS hard, yes, but just like those guys that are going out with them already found them, you can also find YOUR "perfect girl"... its all a matter of time and patience. You're bound to run into one sooner or later, just give it time. Remember, good things are worth waiting for


Laterz...