Hello members. Long time lurker first time poster. I found myself in a bit of a situation which I am struggling to handle. I need your help. Background info is as follows. Met a gorgeous HB9 girl about a year and half ago. We are on LDR some 2 hrs flight. Everything about her is great. Sex, looks etc. I felt this was the one in every sense of the word and made my feelings clear to her from the get go. Money was never a problem. She was a part time worker and full time student until she quit her scholarship saying she wanted to find herself. She suffers from depression and BPD. I took care of most of her needs including rent and sh*t. Went on a few vacations to exotic places together and we had some amazing times. Then what's the problem? Throughout our relationship we broke up a couple of time due to some fVcked up drama she created. She like to flirt with other guys and that brought my insecurity to the surface. I found her texting her picture to an ex while we were in vacation and that drove me nuts. I said one or two things while this was happening and told her to fvckoff and got to a different room in the hotel. She woke up the next morning and begged me in tears not to walk away. I bowed to her crying and agreed to give her another chance. After returning from the vacation I couldn't move on from the hurt she had cause me and went distant. I started questioning things and our relationship after that went downhill. Anticipating this or maybe wanting to be first she told me it was over. I did the cardinal mistake of begging and txting and blowing her phone off trying to convince her not to do it. I take breaking up very badly. She wouldn't budge and after a couple few days of doing that I backed off, told her I would accept and deleted her number and moved on. A month or so passed without hearing from her and one day she started surfacing in my circles in social media. Out of the blue she initiated contact and told me she missed me and wanted to be friends and see if we could work things through bla bla. I love this girl and I saw my future with her and I agreed. After keeping in contact from afar (LDR) we decided to get back together again and started dating. Sex was good, things were great up until I started noticing one or two things with other dudes in the picture, like texting while she was with me, flirting with some guys in front of me etc. That drove me nuts, showed her my displeasure but didnt say much in as far as breaking up with her is concerned. One night on a phone conversation I asked her a few things about one of the guys in her circle and she went nuts. I had never seen her that angry, she cried and shouted and what not and told me it was over. Again me not wanting to face the rejection I begged and txted called etc trying to convince her to change her mind. Little did I know. After a couple of days, assuming her anger had subsided she texted me saying, she didnt want to lose me and we had a lot of things in common and she liked I believed in her etc and offered to be friends. I texted her back confirming that I was not interested in friends with her and that at any point if she changed her mind to contact me and we could work things through. She replied saying she wished me good luck and until/if we ever talked again. I didnt say nothing and left it at that. Every time I was prepared to move on from her she always found a way to interject her life back at me. Trust me. I am not your average softy guy. I've been through sh!t in my life and stood strong. I broke off my marriage with my ex-wife cause I wasnt happy in it and I had never had any problems walking away from, relationships, jobs, places etc. But with this girl, she's had been my biggest weakness in my life and I am struggling to scratch her out of it. And she knows it. She has created so much fvcked up drama in my life that could handle and I've always managed to either forgive her or to move on from it. Her past relationship was a testimony to how she handles relationship. I spoke to one of her Ex's and he in a nutshell said, the worst person I had ever known. Anyway going back to the story, after the latest breakup, I deleted her number, blocked her on FB etc and maintained no contact for 3 days. She sent me a text yesterday saying this 'Good morning. Sorry for breaking the code of silence. Wanted to say thank you. The green tea was delivered yesterday and plan to try it today. Have a Great one. Thank you'
I normally respond in a couple of mins to her text (I know!!). But didnt respond until 24hrs passed and said 'Good morning. It's cool' and left it at that. I hope to learn something from you Djs out there and someone can use this as an example. Dont hold back!!
I normally respond in a couple of mins to her text (I know!!). But didnt respond until 24hrs passed and said 'Good morning. It's cool' and left it at that. I hope to learn something from you Djs out there and someone can use this as an example. Dont hold back!!
