This is interesting stuff. I have thought a great deal about what you are talking about for a long time. Unfortunately, what do you do in areas of the US where looking at someone on the street isn't happening. For instance, in New York, people look straight ahead and concentrate on where they are going. I could see it being very easy to do this type of thing there. In Hawaii, people look into your eyes as you pass them, sort of acknowledging that you are there-- also easy to practice this type of thing. In Chicago, same thing, people look at your eyes when you walk by them.
However-- in Southern California, they decide everything about you waaaaay down the street and refuse any acknowledgement whatsoever about 100 feet away. In Northern California, its even worse: Imagine two people walking toward each other. Both recognize that they don't know each other and to prevent the other one from even having the smallest inkling of hope that you could talk to them they each look a prescribed direction and don't deviate from it until they are passed you. Girls have to look to the right and down and guys look to the left and up so that there is no chance that either of them could ever have any possible interaction and in effect slams the door on any type of cold approach via eye contact.
I even do this, and I know what its about too-- if some girl is looking at me with an attitude down the street, I avoid even giving her the impression that I was thinking that she was worthy of me looking at her by turning my eyes completely the other way only when she is walking by me. This makes it obvious that I am in effect saying to her: "no, you are not going to get the satisfaction of me looking at you and then you dissing me by looking the other way because I am going to do it first! HA!" Imagine a continual contest between men and women to make the other person look at you and you completely ignore the fact that they existed in the first place. I have to admit, when I would dress up really nice to show off, I would have no greater joy than refusing to acknowledge the many pairs of female eyes that were looking at me. Just as if I were saying to them as I was walking past them: "no, no, not a chance, no way in hell, no, no , your also not good enough, nope , noway, no, no..." It is the wierdest thing in the world-- and if you don't believe me, just walk around a college campus in norcal for a day. All the eyes of the girls are facing the same direction, its crazy. Same with all the guys.
It's as if the people in this area have already figured out your tactic many years ago and now require much more to get attention from someone. As if the "eye contact thing" is passe and cheap to them. Granted, if you actually get up enough courage and go talk to a girl, they are still receptive, just like anywhere else. The only difference is that everyone makes a conscious effort to avoid giving people any type of reaction via eye contact. I wonder, have you ever encountered people like this?
(I don't mean like 2 people, I mean like a whole area)
However-- in Southern California, they decide everything about you waaaaay down the street and refuse any acknowledgement whatsoever about 100 feet away. In Northern California, its even worse: Imagine two people walking toward each other. Both recognize that they don't know each other and to prevent the other one from even having the smallest inkling of hope that you could talk to them they each look a prescribed direction and don't deviate from it until they are passed you. Girls have to look to the right and down and guys look to the left and up so that there is no chance that either of them could ever have any possible interaction and in effect slams the door on any type of cold approach via eye contact.
I even do this, and I know what its about too-- if some girl is looking at me with an attitude down the street, I avoid even giving her the impression that I was thinking that she was worthy of me looking at her by turning my eyes completely the other way only when she is walking by me. This makes it obvious that I am in effect saying to her: "no, you are not going to get the satisfaction of me looking at you and then you dissing me by looking the other way because I am going to do it first! HA!" Imagine a continual contest between men and women to make the other person look at you and you completely ignore the fact that they existed in the first place. I have to admit, when I would dress up really nice to show off, I would have no greater joy than refusing to acknowledge the many pairs of female eyes that were looking at me. Just as if I were saying to them as I was walking past them: "no, no, not a chance, no way in hell, no, no , your also not good enough, nope , noway, no, no..." It is the wierdest thing in the world-- and if you don't believe me, just walk around a college campus in norcal for a day. All the eyes of the girls are facing the same direction, its crazy. Same with all the guys.
It's as if the people in this area have already figured out your tactic many years ago and now require much more to get attention from someone. As if the "eye contact thing" is passe and cheap to them. Granted, if you actually get up enough courage and go talk to a girl, they are still receptive, just like anywhere else. The only difference is that everyone makes a conscious effort to avoid giving people any type of reaction via eye contact. I wonder, have you ever encountered people like this?
(I don't mean like 2 people, I mean like a whole area)
