Well I don't post much here but I do visit often - but without logging in.
Anyway heres my problem/story/fvck up:
I asked a girl out for a drink and she said yeah. Now I work with this person (yes I know major screw up) and she is in her early 30s. The day comes for us to go out for a drink and I notice she's acting very odd, I didn't bother asking her cos she seemed to be ignoring me but happily chatting with others. After work I called her up and she said that she was too tired but will give me a ring later if she was up for going out. Ok, fine I thought - I wrote off the night and decided to get some beers and have a night in. She txt's me later to tell me what I already expected "I'm not coming out blah blah please can we re-arrange, please dn't get angry blah blah", so I replied fine I'm stopping in seeya tomorrow at work...next thing I know I've got a missed call on the mobile phone - I was out of the room for 20 mins so didn't here it.
So I called her back only for her to tell me that she doesn't want a relationship and isn't ready for this and that bollox, bollox, bollox, and more bollox. To be honest I was quite taken aback by what she said and asked what on earth made her say this - it was because she had seen her ex in the morning, it had put her in a mood and made her realise that she wasn't ready for anything. At this point I kinda raised my voice as I realised that she had lied to me about why she didn't want to go out - it wasn't because of being tired etc! Plus I was racked off about her waiting till the last minute to tell me that the meet up was off too!!! I could have arrange a night in the pub with my best mate, instead I was left high and dry with the prospect of having a pot noodle and a wank!
During that conversation she put the phone down on me! I was so angry that I txt'd some home truths to her regarding the breakdown of her previous long term relationship. She didn't reply.
I went into work the next day and she was ignoring me, well I expected that. The next day she emails me asking how I have the "nerve" to sit at my desk after sending her that txt. I ignored her email and left it for the weekend. After that weekend I suddenly had the odd thought that something awful could happen to her and the last thing I said to her was nasty - don't ask why I thought this but a documentry on bbc2 got me thinking. So I emailed her personal email address apologising for what I said. She replied saying that she couldn't understand why I wanted to hurt her. I replied saying that I made a mistake and left it as that.
For the following week she just blanked me at work, obviously my apology was not enough. Then she started hanging out with a female friend of mine that I share a hobby/activity with and started tagging along but she would still blank me at work?? I thought bollox to this and withdrew myself from the hobby as my female friend was giving her the benefit of the doubt.
Anyway, 3 weeks later (today) this girl sends me an email basically having a pop at me for "putting my friend in a situation", "all beacuse I didn't go out for a drink with you", "you don't care how your actions affect others", and "you've achieved what you set out to do" etc...this email was totally out of the blue! So I replied thanking her for such a nice email...and that was that.
When I got back home I txt'd her that I didn't understand why she emailed that stuff to me, it was nothing to do with going out for a drink, and it was due to her ignoring me that I kept away - well that was hours ago and she hasn't replied ...sort of knew that was going to happen!
To be honest I didn't ask her out for a date - it was as a friend who interested in getting to know her better. I hardly know her so I don't know what gave her the idea that I fancy her. And I don't know why after nearly a month she decides to fan the flames again??
Sorry for the long story guys but what do you reckon? Sorry for the poor grammer as my eyes aren't so good - left my glasses on the lave at work!
Cheers
Anyway heres my problem/story/fvck up:
I asked a girl out for a drink and she said yeah. Now I work with this person (yes I know major screw up) and she is in her early 30s. The day comes for us to go out for a drink and I notice she's acting very odd, I didn't bother asking her cos she seemed to be ignoring me but happily chatting with others. After work I called her up and she said that she was too tired but will give me a ring later if she was up for going out. Ok, fine I thought - I wrote off the night and decided to get some beers and have a night in. She txt's me later to tell me what I already expected "I'm not coming out blah blah please can we re-arrange, please dn't get angry blah blah", so I replied fine I'm stopping in seeya tomorrow at work...next thing I know I've got a missed call on the mobile phone - I was out of the room for 20 mins so didn't here it.
So I called her back only for her to tell me that she doesn't want a relationship and isn't ready for this and that bollox, bollox, bollox, and more bollox. To be honest I was quite taken aback by what she said and asked what on earth made her say this - it was because she had seen her ex in the morning, it had put her in a mood and made her realise that she wasn't ready for anything. At this point I kinda raised my voice as I realised that she had lied to me about why she didn't want to go out - it wasn't because of being tired etc! Plus I was racked off about her waiting till the last minute to tell me that the meet up was off too!!! I could have arrange a night in the pub with my best mate, instead I was left high and dry with the prospect of having a pot noodle and a wank!
During that conversation she put the phone down on me! I was so angry that I txt'd some home truths to her regarding the breakdown of her previous long term relationship. She didn't reply.
I went into work the next day and she was ignoring me, well I expected that. The next day she emails me asking how I have the "nerve" to sit at my desk after sending her that txt. I ignored her email and left it for the weekend. After that weekend I suddenly had the odd thought that something awful could happen to her and the last thing I said to her was nasty - don't ask why I thought this but a documentry on bbc2 got me thinking. So I emailed her personal email address apologising for what I said. She replied saying that she couldn't understand why I wanted to hurt her. I replied saying that I made a mistake and left it as that.
For the following week she just blanked me at work, obviously my apology was not enough. Then she started hanging out with a female friend of mine that I share a hobby/activity with and started tagging along but she would still blank me at work?? I thought bollox to this and withdrew myself from the hobby as my female friend was giving her the benefit of the doubt.
Anyway, 3 weeks later (today) this girl sends me an email basically having a pop at me for "putting my friend in a situation", "all beacuse I didn't go out for a drink with you", "you don't care how your actions affect others", and "you've achieved what you set out to do" etc...this email was totally out of the blue! So I replied thanking her for such a nice email...and that was that.
When I got back home I txt'd her that I didn't understand why she emailed that stuff to me, it was nothing to do with going out for a drink, and it was due to her ignoring me that I kept away - well that was hours ago and she hasn't replied ...sort of knew that was going to happen!
To be honest I didn't ask her out for a date - it was as a friend who interested in getting to know her better. I hardly know her so I don't know what gave her the idea that I fancy her. And I don't know why after nearly a month she decides to fan the flames again??
Sorry for the long story guys but what do you reckon? Sorry for the poor grammer as my eyes aren't so good - left my glasses on the lave at work!
Cheers
Good ones, sure.
