cover's been blown, feel awkward

[monster squad]

****ing A!

There's this girl I'm into, but I was kinda keeping it all stealth like at first, cause that's how I roll. I told my roommate about it cause I was drunk, and she went and yapped to this girls friend, asked for her phone number for me, blah blah blah.... she already got a lecture about meddling in my affairs :nono:

Now I feel all weirded out about this. She knows I'm into her, and I know she's into me (when I showed up at the same bar as her, she took off to the bathroom and spent like a half hour further prettying her self up for me, according to my roommate, and stuck around after all her friends left to talk to me, plus my roommate showed me some of the text messages she was sending her). Apparently she thinks I'm "cute", and she can withstand hours of listening to my drunken ramblings. Everyone is pushing me to hook up with her. Her friends like me, my friends like her. Everything should be good and set, right, but I feel like the standard chain of events has been broken, and I'm off track. I'm not used to things going this way.

I don't know what to do next. I'm told I need to be more aggressive or something, but even that's not something I'm used to. I always play hard to get until they try and rape me.

Help a brotha' out.

 

[monster squad]

I don't mean to sound like a whiney ***** here either. I'm just really amused with myself right now. I think I may have finally found one of the mythical "good ones", and I'm stumbling SO horribly. She even knows I'm bugged out about this.

 

[blinkwatt]

I don't know what to do next. I'm told I need to be more aggressive or something, but even that's not something I'm used to. I always play hard to get until they try and rape me.

Help a brotha' out.

Just kiss her,then if your lying on a couch apply your hand gently over her leg. Just progress every minute or minute and half. If she doesnt like it she will let you know.

 

[Deadly_Assassin]

You seem a lot like me. I get out of my comfort zone as soon as I find out the chick I am interested in has also got the hots for me.

I have been in this situation before and I will tell you the mistakes I made and how it ended. So don't do what I did, and hopefully the outcome for you will be different.

1st mistake ) I did not take charge of the situation. I waited around way too long, fvcked around playing silly games and when the opportunities came I waved my panties at them. The girl gave me her number, I didnt call her even once ( I really liked her and she gave me all the IOIs. She even became close to my family and would sit with them at church). I didnt wanna appear desperate, I wanted to be Mr. Challenge!! LOL. I went overboard with it and she felt rejected by this and started getting a little distant. This made me play more games and end of the day we just ended playing games and with each others feelings...

2nd mistake ) I went and hooked up with other chicks just to see if my chick would get jealous. Big mistake, Why? Because she would think I am not interested and would move on, she probably got hurt as well. So there is not need to test the waters when you have a clear green light.

3rd mistake ) I got drunk and talked a load of crap. "Bla bla bla, I am a Mr. don juan, I am the prize, I can score anyone... The chick that likes me is too easy... " Imagine me saying these exact words to her best mate and the consequences. So beer and ur interest will not go well together. You will garunteed fvck it up especially if shes sober and your flying high.

So how did the story end? You guessed it, she waited for me, I broke her heart, she moved on with some other guy and I still remained engaged to my right hand.

So if you don't want it to happen to you, my advice, take charge of the situation but also go with the flow. The opportunites will come, dont push it, the chick will make sure they come, all you have to do is take charge.

 

[d9930380]

Playing hard to get doesn't work for guys. Men are the pursuers, not the women. Guys who say they play hard to get just say that because they have no rap. IF a girl does pursue you it says that "She sees you as a boy and wants to corrupt you" (Maybe that's the reason why you say they want to rape you) - It's not a healthy position to be in, she won't respect you and you will NEVER have any power over her even if she loves or likes you.

She's waiting for you to make a move - and now she knows you have to act fast otherwise she will think you are a WUSS.

Good Luck!

 

[DarkChaos]

Go for it. She likes you, you like her. End of story.

 

[hi2u]

Go for it. She likes you, you like her. End of story.

Yup. Don't sweat the details. She obviously likes you a hell of a lot and most girls will let guys get away with murder if they like them.

 

[TheFlyingMan]

Mate I have the same problem. Next time you're together, build up some kino and kiss her. Push and pull / playing hard to get IN ONE NIGHT. Not over too many weeks, as I found out to my dismay.

 

[monster squad]

Bloody hell.

My roommate convinced me to send her a text inviting her out to this party tonight. She never replied.

"She's so into you. Give her a chance. She's a great girl, and I just know she likes you a lot."

Last time I take advice from a woman.

On the bright side, my car's broke down in front of our house (I think the starter is dead), so I'm stuck home anyway. And the street sweeper is hitting this side of the street in the morning. Yippee. A fine. Things just keep getting better.

I don't even have enough alcohol left to get me throught the night.

 

[Jariel]

You have to man up in these situations and make a move. The reason your friends intervened is because they can see you doing nothing and this situation is going to pass you by.

All this "she likes me, I like her" talk is useless unless you're going to take it further, and if you don't hurry, she will lose respect for you...or maybe she already has. Being shy can be quite endearing, but being spineless is a turn off to women.