Canadian Catnip said:
Please do reveal some of your tactics.
I am dealing with one of them now. Not the first one I've dealt with, I remember when I was in my Twenties and met my first AW. She ripped my heart out and played me like a violin.
Now that I am in my Forties I know a thing or two about these AW's and how to handle them. Mostly I ignore them, But I would love to get sadistic on this one AW.
The whole idea of the AW is sick and these women make me sick. They seem like the nicest sweetest women but inside they are rotten to the core.
Any pointers?
You gotta be on your toes. I learned the hard way.
There's a few ways of approaching it. If you know right off the bat that she's an AW, and she won't leave you alone, then there's a way to approach it. Usually these types will never follow through on date requests. So you act all AFC.....get her number. Tell her you go to a certain restaurant a lot, it's got great food, great atmosphere. Tell her dinner is on YOU. Arrange a day with her. Tell her you'll call her, pick her up, whatever.
Act AFCish because AFCs are her biggest PREY. You have to convince her you're the chump, the type that she's always taken advantage of.
Then do a NO SHOW.
Then Phone her the next day and tell her you had a problem with your ex, you're really sorry, and you'd like to make it up to her. Be really sincere.
I had a bartender that was doing this AW shyt on me, when I was a little less experienced. She wouldn't go out on a date with me. I did, however, end up out for drinks with her one night, but when I escalated, she initially was into it, then pulled back. Turned out, I found out she was still seeing her boyfriend, whom she told me she had broken up with.
So I got another date, showed up at her bar, and had a full on snog with this other girl right in front of her. She was apparently livid.
You really have to play it as you go with this stuff, no two situations are the same.
If she's the variety that will actually go out on a date with you, but then says, "I don't date" or "I'm not looking for a relationship" then just play it cool.
I had one that I took out to my fave restaurant that played it like this. She was used to getting a lot of guy attention, mostly from older dudes who flocked around her at this local pub I go to. She was pulling the, "I don't date" thing, "I'm not looking for a relationship", then proceed to start talking about other guys she's f*cked.
I just played along, aloof, like I didn't give a f(ck.
After the restaurant, I took her to that pub, and we sat right in the middle. Then I started asking mutual acquaintences, and other people to join us, including a couple of the old dudes that I knew would be all over her, kissing her attention hor arse.
Then I started a conversation with one of the other women there. Then I started mingling, whilst she basked in the attention of some 55 year old losers.
Then I drifted far away, to whole other crowds, out on the patio, socialising, until she was sitting there for awhile. I went outside, and just treated it like a night out at the pub.
I basically ignored her arse for the rest of the night. She continued to sit there all smug like - 'Look at all the men who are paying attention to me'..... Then when it was time to leave, I went up to her, shook her hand, said I had a great time, thank you for your company, and I split.
I've seen her three times at that pub since then and I get the most evil looks from her imaginable. I walk past her and make sure I smile, and say "Hi, how are you, it's good to see you". She just gives me a murderous look and says 'Hi'.
Never phoned her again, don't initiate contact beyond saying hello, and act all pleasant, but aloof. With a lot of them, it could get her to chase you. Sometimes it will only get her to hate you.
This may seem like a lot of effort but it's not - I have accomplished two things with this shyt - EXPERIENCE GAMING WOMEN, and I've gotten laid from it as well. Other times, no, but it's amazing practice, I'd recommend it to any AFC. It has really helped me understand the way their twisted little minds work.
EDIT:
Oh yeah, and I forgot to add, the one I took to the pub and abandoned - she pulled AW shyt on me for our first date - in essence, she went out shopping for the day, and got back really late, to the point that we were running really late to get down to where we were going, and she wasn't even ready to meet up with me yet. So I essentially said, hey, you sound rushed, let's do a rain check on it. I'll call you some other time. She was very upset that I wouldn't wait for her for another 40 minutes, even more upset when I got off the phone with her, having done my last minute cancellation. My next move was that I called her the next day to apologise for breaking the date, and then sincerely arranged the next date. So that was the leader up to the main snub which I did to her in the bar.
I know it sounds callous, but I have gotten laid off this type of behaviour in the past.
