Couldn't hold eye contact when I said goodbye! Damn!

[tsmith2334]

To make a long story short, an old friend from high school was waiting on me at a restaurant the other night. I remember her seeming interested at times in the past, though we never dated.

Anyway, running into her was quite cool. She was very sweet to my family and they really liked her.

She DEFINITELY seemed interested, or at least attracted. In fact, at times she seemed down right nervous to be in my presence. I played it well too, even though I didn't want to use all my Don Juan tricks in front of my family. I had a really good opportunity for a joke, but I tried to be relatively tame in front of my parents. I kind of wish I could have been a little more loose, but it's okay. I'd still say I definitely came across as desirable regardless.

Anyway, when it came time to leave I told her it was pleasure to see her. Yes, I made eye contact. The only thing was, it was pretty fleeting and submissive. I nearly turned around and started to walk away as she was saying goodbye.

If I did one thing wrong, it was a very weak "close". In fact, I might not have even seemed interested or particularly friendly. It was a stark contrast to how personable and likable I had been the whole night.

Now I feel like I ruined a perfectly good opportunity. Any advice?

 

[Alle_Gory]

If you did it 99% right, what's 1%?

What do you remember from that night? Do you remember some stupid little thing she did? Probably not.

 

[SharinganUser]

Man, you really screwed the boots on this one. You should write her an apology!

 

[tsmith2334]

If you did it 99% right, what's 1%?

What do you remember from that night? Do you remember some stupid little thing she did? Probably not.

Thanks! That is a great way to look at it.

I was about to make a joke at one point, but like I said, I didn't really want to be too C + F around my family. It would have felt kinda weird. So I'm kinda regretting that, wishing I could have been a little less tame.

Boy I am one hell of a Monday morning quarterback. I need to take your advice... what's 2%, right?

 

[Aragon034]

ohhh, dude, i can't say for sure, but usually it's the last impression of a person that stays imprinted until you see them the next time.

running 99% of a touchdown still doesn't score a point remember? just makes the next down easier.

what i'd do, is the next time you see her, start the conversation off about one of the highlights of the night (a joke or something along those lines that she really enjoyed) that way you sorta distract attention from your weak close.

Not ruined, and definately salvageable.

Is the way you act around family different from the way you act with girls? Maybe it's just me but i'm "always on", sorta like i don't have an off switch.

Did you get her number? Facebook? Carrier Pigeon with her scent?

 

[tsmith2334]

ohhh, dude, i can't say for sure, but usually it's the last impression of a person that stays imprinted until you see them the next time.

running 99% of a touchdown still doesn't score a point remember? just makes the next down easier.

what i'd do, is the next time you see her, start the conversation off about one of the highlights of the night (a joke or something along those lines that she really enjoyed) that way you sorta distract attention from your weak close.

Not ruined, and definately salvageable.

Is the way you act around family different from the way you act with girls? Maybe it's just me but i'm "always on", sorta like i don't have an off switch.

Did you get her number? Facebook? Carrier Pigeon with her scent?

Thanks! I appreciate your honest feedback as well. We are friends on a social networking site, but I don't have her number. I'm going to follow up and tell her my family liked her or something of that affect. My family and her seemed to hit it off, so reaffirming that will surely make her smile.

As for how I act in front of my family, it just feels kind of uncomfortable to be ****y and have women being attracted to me in front of them. I can tell you why too, it's because I'm the youngest.

My older brother kind of gives me the whole stamp of approval deal, and while I appreciate it, it usually makes me feel like the baby of the family. Thus attracting woman in front of them feels awkward and unnatural.

It's just something I have to get over I suppose. Girls usually love my parents and brother, I just tend not to be "on" like I might normally be otherwise if they are present.

As for leaving on a less than desirable note (it wasn't a huge mess up, I just wasn't at my most confident point), maybe it will make her feel a little challenged. The whole night I was exceedingly friendly and personable, so maybe leaving a little abruptly will make her do the old second guessing bit. You know, the type of thing that triggers even more attraction. I didn't intend to do that by leaving like I did, but maybe it made her wonder a bit and thus increased her interest.

I know I tend to instinctively become more interested in a woman if I feel a little doubt intially. Just that screwed up, "want what we can't have mentality". I know women work the same way. Again, not a strategic move on my part, but maybe it will work in my favor. Just a thought.

 

[slickaz]

dude calm down..its fixable..

coz a lot of girls find that respect for the family a good thing.

so dont worry about it and next time..take your A game..

give her a call/ text and see if she's keen to hang out minus your family.lol.

and be yourself..

 

[tsmith2334]

dude calm down..its fixable..

coz a lot of girls find that respect for the family a good thing.

so dont worry about it and next time..take your A game..

give her a call/ text and see if she's keen to hang out minus your family.lol.

and be yourself..

Thanks a lot. You have a really good attitude. I appreciate the advice, check your rep points.

My game today was like an A- or B+, but next time I will definitely bring my will be my "A" game. I am good at learning from my mistakes.

Thanks again man.

 

[Darth]

I can relate to this so well. Flirting in front of family members is always awkward no matter how you cut it.

Also, I can act wonderfully through a whole conversation, and then when it comes time to end it I blow it. Acting weak and submissive, or like you said, turning around and starting to walk away as I'm saying goodbye.

Unfortunately, like someone else said, oftentimes last impressions make the most difference. This is still the weakest part of my personality....

 

[Alle_Gory]

running 99% of a touchdown still doesn't score a point remember? just makes the next down easier.

nah man. you got it all wrong.

this is like getting the touchdown, then accidentally, spiked himself in the nuts with the ball celebrating.


you can't always do everything right. not with women, or anything else.
you can only do as much as possible and hope in the end its enough.

in the grand scheme of things, its insignificant.

this thread should be about how the interaction with the chick went.

 

[slickaz]

You're welcome bru. Thanks for the Rep..

Next thing you post up here about the girl should be, you scored..and how you did it..

good luck..get out there...girls aint that hard man..getting them is sooo easy! getting a good chic is the hardest thing!

good luck and thanks for the rep