Couldnt get it up

[Dman101]

i want your opinions on this

I hung out with this hb 8.5 4 times , but never had isolation to make a move. I got a lot of kino at the movies touchin her leg and arm, so I felt that i could escalate this. My parents are gone for the week, so i had the house to myself, so I invited her over last night. After feeling on her all night, this morning she wanted to have sex, but I couldnt keep it hard enough. Then, after she took a shower, she was lookn real sexy, so she came at me again, so i was able to get it up, and after 3 minutes she said that she came, so that threw me off and i lost it, so we couldnt continue. her stuff got all ova me so that was crazy. SHe kept telln me that I'm dead over and over again, so that made it nearly impossible to get it up. Then after we ate , she wanted it again, and i got it in for a lil while doggy style, but after like 4 minutes, I was soo outta breath that i lost da erection again, so it was a wrap. I felt soo weird because i really wanted her, and i feel like i blew it. This girl is kinda like a guy in a way cuz i think she love sex, shes outspoken, but she shows me a lot of interest and is nice to me, and i enjoy having her into me. What do you guys thnk i should do about this. She told me its ok and it happens, but if/when i get anotha chance, I dont want to blow it again. i got a loooong ******* the day before from another chick so i dont know if that contributed.

what do you guys think?

 

[Social_disturbance]

Hahaha man don't even worry about that. I had almost the exact same experience not too long ago - don't even trip. For me, I was just kind of uncomfortable with the situation and that's why. Listen I dont know you but just make sure you don't masturbate for like 2 days and then see her and you'll have better blood flow. Try to like sit or lay down - its better for the blood flow for the area. As long as she likes you, BELIEVE ME when I say performance isn't that important. Most important thing though...Dont get down on yourself - I did for a day. You'll get her next time believe me.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Performace will be important if you continue to not be able to get the job done. A few isolated instances, not a big deal. If she likes sex just like a guy would, believe me, she will look for good sex.

Try working out more to get better blood circulation and an even stronger drive. No big deal. It was probably due to the fact that you were trying to hard.

 

[Kerpal]

Try exercising, you'll probably be able to last longer.

 

[Dman101]

i do exercise 5 times a week .. im hoping the fact that i came 2 nights in a row affected me. This chik makes me feel good wen im with her which is like once a week. this whole sex thing bothered me because i wanna keep her around, and i feel like i could have competition from other guys . she smokes, has a sexual history and neva wnts kids, but ive been able to ignore that and enjoy her company. What do you make of this

 

[Freeman]

the best thing for you is to not masterbate for a while and in the meantime-do cardio-get that blood flow flowing- that is the root to all erection problems...you have to workout- man-for the sake of ur manhood.

 

[Ravish]

Stress is also a big bone-breaker................****, if it can stop a ****in period and make u think your ho is pregnant, than it can damn sure shorten your eiffel tower, if ya know what im sayin......

Good luck tho bro....

 

[Alric]

Don't expect a woman to understand erectile disfunction. They do not have ****s. A girl just opens her legs and she can have sex. You, as a man,
have to fill up 6-8 inches of an organ on the outside of your body AND remained turned on the entire length of sexual intercourse. Sometimes things can go wrong with this many variables bro.

I would suggest stop jacking and all porn immediately. Do some cardio 30-45 4 times a week to get the heart used to pumping blood (if this the problem).

Do what turns YOU on in bed bro. You're the one who has to stay hard, not her. I've had girls start talking ridiculous (to me) first time sex fantansies which just turn me off. Just ignore whatever it is she is doing which turns her on but turns you off. Take control and lead her.

 

[DonDan]

Not everyone was born with a stick up their ass and happend to be 33 years old on a dating site, not actually referencing to someone real.

Anywho, this is most likely a psychological thing you're dealing with. Performance anxiety? Baby steps my friend, baby steps. When you go limp, have her suck your **** to get u hard again, repeat over and over until you can **** all the way without going limp.

Hope this helps,

Best regards,

DonDaniel.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Don't worry your mind set was just a little off at the moment. Next time you two have sex I bet you will get it up easier. For her wanting to have sex again. Nothing wrong with that, you must of done something right to make her come back for more. :yes:

 

[Dman101]

thanks guys .. what do you think though about handling her for the future. I normally dont deal with these types of chicks that have been promiscuous .. usually its a hassle to get sex from the good girls i deal with. I think she probably ****s other guys, and she openly talks about ****. She got a great personality and good Interest level along she looks really good, so after this whole ordeal, I've been thinkin about what to do with her. i told myself from the beginning not to develop feelings because she been around a lil, and smokes, but **** is hard sometime.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Keep her around for a friendship/sex partner unless you guys both want to be exclusive.

 

[Dman101]

would it make sense to tell her that I'm not that experienced because i feel kinda pressured. I dont want to lose my DJness tho by saying this, but i think it might help, and its the truth. Shes been around tho so i dont want her to just go for some other ****

 

[realsmoothie]

I have no idea how old you are, but this may be a factor too. I'm just recently 33, hadn't had sex in a long time until my recent girlfriend. It took me a good month or two to become consistently hard enough to screw... but it was totally fear-based as far as I can tell.

It's easier if you're open with your partner, no question. Helped me a LOT, though I was with her a few times before it finally happened.

ONE THING... I don't care how old you are, being up all night and trying to get it up at 4 something can be really difficult. Definitely get your sleep and don't drink too much alcohol.

I feel like a vet now... let us know how it does.

 

[J-Bone]

same here my mind was everywhere else. I was even thinking why in the **** am i thinking about this **** look at me i can **** right now thats supposed to reduce stress. try meditation to clear your mind and apply it when you get in this spot it usually helps and everyone is right about excersise and not masterbating. also a little ginseng extract can help sometimes as long as its not loaded with caffeine to take it all up.

 

[OregonDuckJuan]

shes just there to get YOU off, not the other way around!

Umm, actually, being a good "lover" involves getting women off. If you can do that word does get around. Being selfish in bed, while at times can be good, usually won't make the sex continue.

Most men I know that are sophisticated and do well with women, pride themselves on making a girl orgasm a few times over. :box:

I know people toss around the term "DJ" around here a lot, and it's overused, however, I would bet a pretty penny that "Don Juan" was a pretty good lover, and that women enjoyed their experiences with him almost more than he did.:cheer:

Food for thought. Learn how to turn yourself on first, then learn how to turn on women and each time you do it you will be better and better...that's the point--to improve. :woo:

 

[Dman101]

YEa i dont **** that much. I just get a lot of head from different chicks. im 22 and only ****ed 3 girls in the past 2 years... my ex, dis otha hoe and da girl i messed up with. Do you think being honest with a girl like this about not being experienced would be good since im not 100% sure about my sexual ability, because i dont want to appear less DJ

 

[PectoralisMajor]

Send her my way - I'l show her a good time....:moon:

 

[Leporello]

Go slow. Don't even try to put on the condom/put it in until you're good and ready.