marmel75
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I really could use some advice here as I am in a little bit of unfamiliar territory with my wife...we almost never get in arguments, we get along great. However, had an incident occur yesterday where she basically freaked out and I don't really see what the big deal was...
Scenario is I went out Saturday night, had some fun, etc...had some girls grabbing my ass after the one girl grabbed it and told her friends it was "the tightest butt she has ever felt"...so naturally they all wanted to grab it after that. So whatever I just played along, my friends were cracking up laughing, didn't really try to do anything with them or really even talk to them much. We were walking from one club to another a few blocks away and they were behind us walking...all of a sudden I feel someone grab my butt and the girl was like "I'm sorry, I had to do it, it just looked really nice!" They were all a little drunk, so I just played it off and was laughing, then her friends all came up and grabbed it after she said that to them.
So anyways, fast forward to Sunday...I get up and was texting my wife's brother about the fantasy footbal league we were in and when everything was...draft, etc...we texted a few times back and forth and then I jumped in the shower. My wife said I had another text, so I figured it was from him and told her to go ahead and see what he said. Of course, my luck being what it was, the text was from my buddy from last night asking me if my ass was still sore from all the girls grabbing it last night...well my wife flipped out and started going hysterical, crying, etc...
She was like "WTF are you doing letting girls grab your ass!!", etc etc...she was saying I don't love her anymore, I don't want to be married to her anymore, I want to f**k these young girls at the clubs and that's why I go hang out with my buddies at night, etc etc etc....just basically nonstop...
I was kind of in shock about the whole thing because I didn't really see it as that much of a big deal...I mean OK, I can see her point a little bit, but its not like I was running up to girls and telling them to rub my ass...the whole thing happened in like 15 seconds or so, its not like I had a lot of time to think and react to the situation. I didn't ask the girl to grab my ass, or even initiate any type of conversation with her, she just did it on her own...almost like a dare from the other girls in the group...
So anyways, I am still dead tired from last night because I only slept about 4 hours and now I am having to deal with this...she is telling me she doesn't trust me anymore and that "It can't work like this", crying hysterically on the couch...I am just sitting there really not doing or saying much of anything... a lot of silence from me really...I started to rub her back a little bit and pulle her into my shoulder and he is just sobbing and sobbing...I am like WTF is going on here...she tells me she doesn't want me going out anymore to the clubs, don't really say anything to that(not going to happen), and I ask her if she just expects me to sit in the house and do nothing...she then says she doesn't mind me going out to play pool or other things with the guys, she just doesn't want me to go to the clubs anymore because she is afraid I am going to do something there...
I tell her if I wanted to do something I would have already done it, I have had plenty of opportunities...I also tell her I did nothing to bring this on and that she is blowing this way out of proportion. She counters with she understands the first girl I couldn't have done anything about, but why did I let the other girls do it? I am basically like whatever...I comfort her a little more, but continue to maintain I did nothing wrong, that I am not apologizing about what happened last night, but that I would apologize for hurting her feelings, and that I never meant to do that.
Not sure what else I could have done here, as she was hysterical in a way I haven't seen since we almost broke up once while dating about 8 years ago. I tried to calm her down as best I could without getting emotionally involved and without admitting guilt. Everything seems back to normal, but I think her trust level is at an all time low right now...
Any advice on how I handled it and what I could have done better? It honestly really caught me off guard and I was already not thinking too clearly to begin with because I was so tired...
Scenario is I went out Saturday night, had some fun, etc...had some girls grabbing my ass after the one girl grabbed it and told her friends it was "the tightest butt she has ever felt"...so naturally they all wanted to grab it after that. So whatever I just played along, my friends were cracking up laughing, didn't really try to do anything with them or really even talk to them much. We were walking from one club to another a few blocks away and they were behind us walking...all of a sudden I feel someone grab my butt and the girl was like "I'm sorry, I had to do it, it just looked really nice!" They were all a little drunk, so I just played it off and was laughing, then her friends all came up and grabbed it after she said that to them.
So anyways, fast forward to Sunday...I get up and was texting my wife's brother about the fantasy footbal league we were in and when everything was...draft, etc...we texted a few times back and forth and then I jumped in the shower. My wife said I had another text, so I figured it was from him and told her to go ahead and see what he said. Of course, my luck being what it was, the text was from my buddy from last night asking me if my ass was still sore from all the girls grabbing it last night...well my wife flipped out and started going hysterical, crying, etc...
She was like "WTF are you doing letting girls grab your ass!!", etc etc...she was saying I don't love her anymore, I don't want to be married to her anymore, I want to f**k these young girls at the clubs and that's why I go hang out with my buddies at night, etc etc etc....just basically nonstop...
I was kind of in shock about the whole thing because I didn't really see it as that much of a big deal...I mean OK, I can see her point a little bit, but its not like I was running up to girls and telling them to rub my ass...the whole thing happened in like 15 seconds or so, its not like I had a lot of time to think and react to the situation. I didn't ask the girl to grab my ass, or even initiate any type of conversation with her, she just did it on her own...almost like a dare from the other girls in the group...
So anyways, I am still dead tired from last night because I only slept about 4 hours and now I am having to deal with this...she is telling me she doesn't trust me anymore and that "It can't work like this", crying hysterically on the couch...I am just sitting there really not doing or saying much of anything... a lot of silence from me really...I started to rub her back a little bit and pulle her into my shoulder and he is just sobbing and sobbing...I am like WTF is going on here...she tells me she doesn't want me going out anymore to the clubs, don't really say anything to that(not going to happen), and I ask her if she just expects me to sit in the house and do nothing...she then says she doesn't mind me going out to play pool or other things with the guys, she just doesn't want me to go to the clubs anymore because she is afraid I am going to do something there...
I tell her if I wanted to do something I would have already done it, I have had plenty of opportunities...I also tell her I did nothing to bring this on and that she is blowing this way out of proportion. She counters with she understands the first girl I couldn't have done anything about, but why did I let the other girls do it? I am basically like whatever...I comfort her a little more, but continue to maintain I did nothing wrong, that I am not apologizing about what happened last night, but that I would apologize for hurting her feelings, and that I never meant to do that.
Not sure what else I could have done here, as she was hysterical in a way I haven't seen since we almost broke up once while dating about 8 years ago. I tried to calm her down as best I could without getting emotionally involved and without admitting guilt. Everything seems back to normal, but I think her trust level is at an all time low right now...
Any advice on how I handled it and what I could have done better? It honestly really caught me off guard and I was already not thinking too clearly to begin with because I was so tired...
