Falcon25 said:
Met this girl a few weeks ago, met up and had drinks with her two weeks ago. Everything was fine, she kept calling and texting me first after our date.....I said to her (think it was a mistake) "I would like to see you again". She didn't give a hard date and I didn't press. All of a sudden, she stopped contacting and texting me.
Mistake #1. You followed bad advice from someone in not capturing and consolidating her HIGH interest level after the first date. IF a woman is texting and calling you, she wants ANOTHER date because she found you exciting/attractive. Why did you act so aloof ?
Was is it because you believed that it would amp up her IL even more ?
Mistake #2. You stopped leading. "SHe didn't give me a hard date and I didn't press." THat statement indicates that you were looking to her to set up the second meet - WRONG move. IT is YOUR job to initiate everything until she is exacty where you want her to be - that would be either under your spell, or 100% gone.
Mistake #3. When you sensed her putting distance between you ( she went silent) you tried to close the gap by contacting her (this is a panic move) but by then she has started making "other plans" ( perhaps seeing other guys)
SO now you have lost the frame ( not that you had one of any worth in the first place) and you are are in a situation wher she is possibly looking elsewhere.
Mistake #4, YOu have wrongly assumed that her high IL after the first date was enough to place you as "the prize" in her mind and that she would then chase you. THis is a common mistake make by the gullible who read PUA material.
Women have huge (and very fragile ) egos and unless they feel that you are returning their affections and actively pursuing them after they express interest in you, they will withdraw fairly quickly to protect their egos.
THis one might be salvageable BUT you have to step up and go GET her instead of sitting around waiting for 'signs' from her. She sent you plenty of those after the first date. That was the time to take charge. BE bold.