Could "kindness game" really work?

[MatureDJ]

According to this article, it does:

What Women Actually Look For in a Guy, According to a Huge Study

If you think you need abs to impress us, think again.

psiloveyou.xyz

According to a study conducted on over 60,000 women from all over the world, the number one thing that almost 90% of them ranked as the most important trait they wanted in a partner was kindness.

In the same study, almost 45% of the women said they prefer men with average or “dad bods” over extremely muscular men. In fact, only 2.5% of the women surveyed said they favor very muscular partners.

my opinion: Sorry, I'm not buying it.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

hahahahahaha yeah no

 

[Josh Davidson]

If your goal is to end up in the friend zone.

 

[bat soup]

According to this article, it does:

What Women Actually Look For in a Guy, According to a Huge Study

If you think you need abs to impress us, think again.

psiloveyou.xyz

my opinion: Sorry, I'm not buying it.

This is another classic case of "watch what they do, not what they say".

Women will talk all day about how they like a guy that treats them well and buys them gifts, then they'll go and sleep with the pimp that treats them like crap and takes their money.

 

[TB24]

Most of you guys probably have your target group in mind: Hot women with lots of options. I guess that the majority of participants is like 45 years old and not good looking at all. A muscular pimp would surely not see them as an option and, of course, would not commit to them.

 

[NSX-R]

I have a theory . I don’t believe the article is wrong . The fact is it’s not complete. Cause women have different requirements about the man they choose depending in what phase they are . If they want a lifelong partner, it’s normal to say they want a guy with a dad bod or be kind cause that’s a partner they can easily trust in the long run . These kind if men don’t have high smv so the percentage of them actually cheating is very low . Men with higher aggression, good bodies etc , are better sexual partners but it’s logical to not be trustworthy.

 

[TheKid]

Yeah thats for the imaginary "Man" they have in their head. Their dream guy.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Kindness game works if you want to become a beta-provider, an easy to control cuck.
There are definately a lot women out there looking for that kind of guy as retirement provision for their days after riding the ****-carousel.

Most of you guys probably have your target group in mind: Hot women with lots of options. I guess that the majority of participants is like 45 years old and not good looking at all. A muscular pimp would surely not see them as an option and, of course, would not commit to them.

No man should care what 45 year old womans demands. If anything these women sould either be gratefull to be around you at that age or hit the road.

 

[bat soup]

If you're kind to women, they'll simply take advantage of you.

 

[Josh Davidson]

If you're kind to women, they'll simply take advantage of you.

That's right. If your kind to them, they'll think your too "nice".

 

[TB24]

In this case, AWALT doesn't apply, because not all women have enough options. Two of my ex girlfriends (long, long ago...) come to my mind. Wall flowers. Unassuming. Had been totally happy with me being out of shape. Because they had been out of shape, too. One of them literally said to me once: "Wow, look at you! But, well, I don't like how you become. You'll soon have access to a lot of girls and then you will dump me." Which, later, I did indeed...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

There is nothing wrong with being a good person. There is everything wrong with being a needy desperate person.

Why people equate the two I will never know, they are completely independent of each other.

 

[Grounded eagle]

According to this article, it does:

What Women Actually Look For in a Guy, According to a Huge Study

If you think you need abs to impress us, think again.

psiloveyou.xyz

my opinion: Sorry, I'm not buying it.

Lol I’m with you on that one

 

[TB24]

That's right. If your kind to them, they'll think your too "nice".

English is not my native language, but I think there is a difference between "being kind" and "being nice", isn't it? Like "doing good things" vs. "trying to please others".

 

[ThisIsSparta]

There is nothing wrong with being a good person. There is everything wrong with being a needy desperate person.

Why people equate the two I will never know, they are completely independent of each other.

There is really nothing wrong in being a kind man, as long as you are kind to grateful beings. That rules women outside your bloodline out.

 

[AttackFormation]

I honestly think these kinds of articles are written with the intent of generating outrage porn traffic from places like this, it just reads too much like satire otherwise.

Normally i feel a smoldering anger when i read these kinds of articles, as they are layered in both falsehoods and vain pretenses. But i had to step away and laugh against my wall when i got to this passage haha: "Even though I’ve dated guys who were good-looking, I didn’t date them for their looks — I dated them for what I saw on the inside: kindness, generosity, empathy, etc."

In a coincidental way she's not being entirely deceptive about this, funnily enough. Despite it being her vain pretense that she fvcks men because of their "good character", the halo effect means she really did attribute those characteristics to them.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Being kind and generous to animals and nature makes me feel good

Being kind to people who don't deserve it calls for being a doormat.

Make your choice.

 

[corrector]

There is nothing wrong with being a good person. There is everything wrong with being a needy desperate person.

Why people equate the two I will never know, they are completely independent of each other.

Maybe its the same thing but interpreted differently depending on whether the girl likes him. With some guys, they can do no wrong. Other guys they can do no right.

As @Xenom0rph point out in his posts, there is a difference between perceived value and actual value. The perceived value can be out of wack because of the halo effect and that high SMV guys that have looks are often perceived as good and trustworthy compared to uglier guys. Someone with good looks and perceived value that does something is a good person. Someone with average looks and lower perceived value does the same thing then he is a needy desperate person.

 

[Serenity]

It's as if almost everyone on this forum thinks being kind is the same as being a pathetic pushover. I guess that's why so few go for LTR and even fewer succeed at it, most guys here don't fully comprehend how it works while they think they do.

They're not wrong, they do want kind men, but the fewest of us seem to be able to handle the balance of maintaining dignity while not being an assh0le in general.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Kind =/= nice or weak. Women do prefer kind men.