Could it be that after many relationships we become BPD seekers ?

[ScottMustaine]

I'm watching everyday more and more guys being attracted to BPD's.

Now we had a thread about faithful girls, and seems most of guys search for those 'fun' one's. Then yap about BPD's and women being cruel and ****, and again falling into same trap. Could it be that we get used to this drama they create that in the end, we find it ORDINARY to deal with it ?


I for example almost fell in trap of one girl who I'm texting 3 weeks ( no, I don't want to call her out). She seemed cool asking me how I am etc. Couldn't believe my eyes. Then I talked about three crazy b1tches I had in school today and she said. " Well, I was like that as well, im today, and will be till the grave. "

She confirmed my response about them being " getting under your skin, trying to shape you, then if you dont succumb , they put all the blame ,and hate, and rebel about who knows what"

After that she said " well, you try to meet other people, did you meet yourself ?" and the sh1t to turn the cards and put ATTENTION and FOCUS on me.

and continued " thats what I was, we change, don't judge from past "


And my alarms are ringing. I will definetly meet her, but my eyes got opened not to fall in trap.

 

[ArcBound]

We can't have it all.

We want women to be fun and sexual but only for us.

I've met a LOT of girls that I am 99% sure are faithful. The problem is they are either ugly or most guys would find them too boring or bland.

 

[yuppaz]

I think if you don't get enough experience with different kinds of women to know what is healthy and good for you, and you never gain the ability to stand up and say f&%k that to girls that exhibit those kinds of traits you will. It has ALOT to do with having healthy and mature boundaries.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

And my alarms are ringing. I will definetly meet her, but my eyes got opened not to fall in trap.

Could I say, from experience in this area, that as an 18 year old man, you should stay the HELL away from any woman who might possibly be, could be (by red flags) or admits to being BPD.

I am not going to start a hate session here about women with this condition, however I CAN say that you simply have no idea about what you are getting into.
Have a search through the posts here under BPD and see what comes up.

I can seriously say that I would not wish that nightmare on my worst enemy. It's that bad.

If you want to PM me about this feel free to.

I would politely cancel that meeting with this female, praise the heavens if she doesn't start flaming you, and move on - eyes open - the the next.

Good luck.

 

[Burroughs]

Well to put it simply

The girls most likely to

blow us in a movie theatre
fvck in public
fvck all night
talk dirty
let us fvck her BFF
give BJs on command
and let us fvck em in the azz

and do it in a timely way, usually on the first 'date'

are most likely seriously fvcked in the head with MAJJOOORRRR issues.

So yes if we are in the market for high octane adventurous fvck-toys (and what dude isn't) 99.9999999% are BPD.

 

[ArcBound]

Well to put it simply

The girls most likely to

blow us in a movie theatre
fvck in public
fvck all night
talk dirty
let us fvck her BFF
give BJs on command
and let us fvck em in the azz

and do it in a timely way, usually on the first 'date'

are most likely seriously fvcked in the head with MAJJOOORRRR issues.

So yes if we are in the market for high octane adventurous fvck-toys (and what dude isn't) 99.9999999% are BPD.

^ This. Like I said you can easily go out and find a faithful girl, the problem is they are either ugly or bland.

Then guys look for the perfect level of excitability and relationship fidelity, which doesn't happen often.

I think to a lesser extent men, or at least myself, have a "Schedule of mating" as Rollo puts it. We all try to get ONS but the girls we ONS with we would never marry (usually). Similar to how a woman fvcks the alpha and marries the beta.

 

[ScottMustaine]

Could I say, from experience in this area, that as an 18 year old man, you should stay the HELL away from any woman who might possibly be, could be (by red flags) or admits to being BPD.

I am not going to start a hate session here about women with this condition, however I CAN say that you simply have no idea about what you are getting into.
Have a search through the posts here under BPD and see what comes up.

I can seriously say that I would not wish that nightmare on my worst enemy. It's that bad.

If you want to PM me about this feel free to.

I would politely cancel that meeting with this female, praise the heavens if she doesn't start flaming you, and move on - eyes open - the the next.

Good luck.

I'm sorry for moving myself offtopic. But my head is pretty confused with her actions. We would have a normal chat, then something would pop up, and she would say " I'm not in mood anymore, bye "

Or would try to point out how she is right because she is older than me 1 year.


Then on the other hand she would start speaking about spiritual stuff, ghosts, energy auras etc, telling me how I am gifted with light and the shyt. That there are rare people as me who have gift of empathy and little evil in themselves blah blah.


Then she would get a mood swing and for no reason bytch (not in the same day ) around to throw me off and make me angry. I'd simply go offline or something. I fallen once in an argument with her about

Jim Morrison and his 'love' with his wife. I asked her how could that be true love when he was fcking millions of women along the road. She was like

"I wouldn't like that kind of love life, but it was special , and I want special love which isn't ordinary "


Oh yeah, she was talking about seeing ghosts few days ago.







ON TOPIC NOW



Well that's our problem. We want faithful pornstarts. I for one all girls who are faithful seemed way too ugly for me to make a move. Or way to masculine.

The one's who are feminime are devil in sheep's clothing...

I have no problem with 'boring' woman, as long as she can get in the boat with me and enjoy the fun I make... But if she is a statue. God...

 

[yuppaz]

That sounds more like schitzophrenia then bpd...

 

[5string]

Or, could it be that there are so many BPD's out there that a guy can't swing a dead cat around without hitting one?

 

[ScottMustaine]

That sounds more like schitzophrenia then bpd...

She's into the paranormal things. She could be making it up to feel special that only she can see it. Her cognitive power is really good.

I mean, she's quite intelligent using metaphores,symbols and allegory... Also in debates she's quite good as well... Don't think a schizo would go that crazy ?

I mean, people speak how they saw Jesus, yet they aren't sent to mental hospital. Why should she for seeing a man on road then disappearing ? :crackup:



She would once simply tell me 'pu$$y' for no reason. I went NC and she came asking me whats wrong. So I told her " Sorry, I don't think pu$$ies have brain. "


So she went ape**** with apologizing, telling how that's how she's joking . (It's actually quite common among my peers to call each other pu$$ies and gays. Crazy people. )

 

[5string]

She sees ghosts? Wow!

Hand her a broom, some toad boogers and ear of bat, step away and see what happens.

 

[yuppaz]

You're really young, so is she. You two are still looking to build your identities and learn about life. Maybe she has nothing wrong wl her but just wants some kind of identitu...? Have fun w/ the girl if you want but you still have tons of more experiences to look forward to so wait quite a while before getting serious with any woman.

 

[ScottMustaine]

You're really young, so is she. You two are still looking to build your identities and learn about life. Maybe she has nothing wrong wl her but just wants some kind of identitu...? Have fun w/ the girl if you want but you still have tons of more experiences to look forward to so wait quite a while before getting serious with any woman.

She said few times how she can't think of a day , without talking to me. And it's true. There wasn't a single day when she didn't text me first.

If I kiss her, you bet she's gonna moan for relationship. At least in my country , making out is supposed to get you in relationship. Not sex first, then relationship. It's kiss first, then relationship. Sex during it...


I guess I'll meet her and kiss etc. She came from other town in my city to study. Her flat is empty and few times she said how she is lonely. Guess I could pretty fast get it from her as well... I'm kind of scarred because of her mood swings.

But I'll try to justify it. We're studying for 7 hours straight. At least I do. And I pretty much get nervous after being tired. I don't explode that easily when I'm fresh.



That's my case. But what about us in general. Are we actually in the trash zone like BPD's ? Chasing the adrenaline and action like girls do for bad boys ?

 

[youngmack]

NPDs are much more dangerous than BPDs...be aware

 

[goundra]

if and when you are MAN enough, there will be plenty of lovely, smart, sexy women for you. If you aint, well, that's tough. It aint that hard to take some karate classes and learn to shoot really well. Get out there and DO something to make YOU more interesting/appealling, and you'll find women who appreciate what you have made of yourself, and what you can do for your family.

 

[Scars]

I think most men on this forum and in the PUA community in general are narcissists (which is what BPD women attract to). If you weren't already a narc, then the PUA community will teach you how to be one. C+F, neg hits, and being overly confident with yourself in order to attract women, are all traits of a narc.

PUA community teaches you how to get sex. This sex generally comes from troubled women who will bring drama into your lives, if you let them.

The DJ mentality is a little different, as it teaches you self-improvement and how women aren't that important. But every day, this forum becomes more and more PUA like. The focus is starting to become more on sex and less on self-improvement, which is what the DJ community was founded upon.

All-in-all, I think we've all encountered a BPD at some point, and if we haven't, we will eventually. We're all narcs here, whether want to admit it or not.

-Scars

 

[JohnnyStorm]

My BPD problem was down to me having no relationship experience. I didn't know what was "normal" and it took me years to accept that the relationship that I had was hideously unbalanced and controlling.

Slightly off topic, but you could make a case that girls who have had lots of relationships i.e. boyfriends are likely to be more disturbed than those who've had lots of ONS...

BPD's are typically so full on, you have to admire their all or nothing approach and passion tbh. It can draw you in, so that's why one always needs to maintain balance and ask oneself, "Is this how a confident, beautiful woman would be acting?" and look out for the red flags etc.