DEEZEDBRAH
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Op, any updates?
This sounds amazing. I too dream to relocate to a different country and work remotely on my own terms. I'll be 30 next month. Still piecing an exact plan together at the moment.This is a good thread. I spent about 20 years in the corporate workforce, although in a sector that's more laid back and interesting (to me). Nevertheless, by about 40, I thought, I must be able to do better than this, for myself.
I had always thought if I worked long enough I'd retire in the sun on the Mediterranean. Well, I quit my job, moved to southern Europe, and set up something remote for myself. Now I live one block from the Mediterranean, I work (mostly) on my schedule, and I find time for more creative endeavors and exercise.
I'm not saying it's easy as 1,2,3, and it was a small gamble. But once I committed to the decision to try a different way, things started to fall into place. The thing is, I make half (sometimes less) what I was pulling in the corporate world in the US, but I don't need much to live the good life. My main concerns are eliminating what's left of a debt I had, and contributing more toward retirement, but that will sort itself out, too.
Of course, I still work for a "corporation," albeit a small one. I'll always have a boss. It's just a difference in balance and control over my own life.
I have an update for you. This youtube video embodies my mindset right now:Op, any updates?
Do it! That's going to expand your mind! And if you have anything here in the states "holding you back", or "stealing your attention" you will leave it in the dust.This sounds amazing. I too dream to relocate to a different country and work remotely on my own terms. I'll be 30 next month. Still piecing an exact plan together at the moment.
been doing this for some time. one of the slick ways to do it is to get the assignment from a company where you are from. not if, but when you do it make sure to take care of your entitlements and understand any tax treaty in the place you end up assuming you want to keep citizenship of the place you are from. make sure you have a viable way to go back in case it doesn't work like you plan. I have seen many a man living in some very unforgiving places that just went on faith and when they are out of money an embassy tells them that it is their own problem. homeless and poor in other places can be much worse than in America.This sounds amazing. I too dream to relocate to a different country and work remotely on my own terms. I'll be 30 next month. Still piecing an exact plan together at the moment.
Yes, I have considered Poland for the low cost of living.been doing this for some time. one of the slick ways to do it is to get the assignment from a company where you are from. not if, but when you do it make sure to take care of your entitlements and understand any tax treaty in the place you end up assuming you want to keep citizenship of the place you are from. make sure you have a viable way to go back in case it doesn't work like you plan. I have seen many a man living in some very unforgiving places that just went on faith and when they are out of money an embassy tells them that it is their own problem. homeless and poor in other places can be much worse than in America.
on the flip side, starting a business can be easier and with smaller capital in some places, and more difficult in others. just remember security might be of different quality.
life is short, make the change as soon as you can if you are going to do it.
@DEEZEDBRAHYes, I have considered Poland for the low cost of living.
Currently I am spending time with my family and saving money and investing in order to have the funds to safely relocated and start a business. In the meantime I've been exercising, and dabbling in creating online video content.
Putting a lot of energy into PUA prep by lifting weights and studying game. I discovery the effectiveness of Game a few months ago and have been hyper-focused on learning it to improve my success with women. I'd say my lack of game was the cause of +95% of my unhappiness. The progress has been super slow because many days I was too depressed, exhausted, and sick to do anything but lately my energy has been improving.I meant from your escape from corporate. What are you doing now?
Any particular ex-pat forum you recommend? Currently I'm not in any.you probably already; but there are forums for ex-pats for most countries including Poland. join one of those and get advice from others doing what you are thinking about. just find in google, try a couple of different ones to see what group(s) are helpful to you.
as a side note, I would never endorse NOT learning the language of a place living in for so many reasons.
Owe it your self, quality of work a good work ethic and attitude, but don't let them use you trying to "climb the ladder".I agree with this. Have a plan. Then when you can break away...do it. Use them as a tool. Flip it. You owe nobody anything.
It's interesting how people can feel shackled to their work, to lament that they have no passion for it, as if they are being held against their will. And yet we have the capacity to find richness in everything we do, you can find a lesson in every action. You can meditate and stare at a wall all day, and be the happiest man on the planet. You could be in prison, yet feel more free than any guard.View attachment 5130
A friend asked me to reflect on leaving corporate america a year ago: “How do you feel now that you've had some time?” My response:
I feel like corporate work is retarded. Especially after reading the book “Sapiens”, it seems history repeats itself in a cycle of humanity overall improving at the expense and suffering of the individual.
I was having health issues and could go to the gym because my job had me working late into the night. Dealt with dumb people and 'worked hard' for a limited salary which did not reward quality work.
Had to live like people who did not have the same values as me. Everyone was happy working up the 'corporate ladder' and it made me sick.
Attending fancy events, going to expensive dinners, clubbing with stuck up bitches, then getting my soup sucked out for 13-16 hours a day to get fat and depressed didn't appeal to me.
If I was getting laid as a result it would be another story but work was making me lose hair, get fat and depressed, and I had no time for dates so... it was making my life worse in every way.
The extra money I was making working that job instead of a regular 40 hour job was spent at strip clubs, on prostitutes, and overpriced drinks and club entry fees. It was a destructive lifestyle. The mental burnout was unbearable and all I ever wanted to do was sleep.
Sacrificed my personal life to put in extra effort at work just to get a bad review for 1 mistake on 1 project. Yeah **** that!
When I graduated in 2013 I thought if I focused on a career and earning money I would have a happy life and easily get women but realized in 2016 that was a lie
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Felt like I was wasting my time and not getting out what I put in. So I walked away.
Plus the culture was stupid and outdated. The showing up early, working late, wearing a tie “The client is always right” (years of experience> actual competence) was frustrating to operate in.
In hindsight I feel the exact same way now, as when I was working.
Thank you for the thoughtful post. It can be a challenge for men to know when to cut their losses, vs when to push through and overcome adversity. For years I was unhappy but I was determined in my head to work through and overcome and the unfavorable circumstances and not be a quitter. It took for me to literally be on the brink of life or death in order to walk about from my job. Used to be willing to make any sacrifice to achieve my goals and after thousands of unrewarded hours I now value my time and happiness more than anything.It's interesting how people can feel shackled to their work, to lament that they have no passion for it, as if they are being held against their will. And yet we have the capacity to find richness in everything we do, you can find a lesson in every action.
+1 almost every site or shop or factory I've worked in I've seen this too.I have observed this to be true. Too valuable to promote. Truly. A high producer is very tough to replace. They promote the mid range skilled guy with an inconsistent production record. Seen it many, many times
nope; never been to Poland. Just google and join a couple. Like always; read first then post.Any particular ex-pat forum you recommend? Currently I'm not in any.