this girl i've had a thing for but has insisted we stay friends said today that her dad thinks i like her, after laughing and askin why? (to hide my true feelings, as to play her dumb friendship game)
she replies that he just thinks thats why we hang out sometimes, i reponded with a few laughs and said "he's cute, tell him dont worry we're not even friends because once one of us starts dating someone our hang outs will diminish"
she then! started questioning this "why do you say that? why have you said it before?"
i didn't expect to give an explanaton for my manipulation intent to make her wonder why i wasnt interested more than a friend (again to suit her "justfriends" quo of us)
this is how the convo went: (M = me H = her)
M: i dont make a note to always say it
H: but you have said it more than twice
M: keeps the reality of us hangin out open i guess
H: what does that mean?
M: so when it does happen, its not like a big blow like **** howd i lose a friend?
H: ookay.
M: haha youre just makin me say this stuff now, i never even gave much thought to it
H: okay, YOU are the only one who has ever said anything like that but whatever
M: no i mean in depth
M: why do you ask?
H: because i dont know what your reason for saying it is
M: when i say it i mean, when either one of us starts dating someone that's a good conclusive possibilty
H: i know but again, its not something people normally say out loud more than once?
H: like you make it sound like it something specific you do when you get into a relationship. like let me look through my friends and decide which ones i can keep and which ones i cant
M: so there are rules now? haha
H: omg you are seriously so difficult
M: its just an obvious thing that'd happen
H: EXACTLY
H: so why talk about it so many times
M: why let it bother you so much?
H: omg
M: haha thats like when people say its nice out today, statin somethin thats been said plenty before heh
M: who cares!
H: no thats not really it
M: theres no like methodical plan behind why i say it so often
M: prob when somethin is brought up and the reality of it hits me, then i make the statement ha
M: its puttin things in perspective
H: whatever
M: maybe to not take it for granted or something on a subsconscious level
M: in other words, go ahead, try to find a replacement it's funny to me ;-)
M: but seriously, i need to vacuum now haha so i'll brb
H: a replacement of what?
she asked the last thing when i had left the computer, if this convo picks up again how should i handle it? was what happened there a good start on my part? sorry its so long guys, but thanks in advance.
she replies that he just thinks thats why we hang out sometimes, i reponded with a few laughs and said "he's cute, tell him dont worry we're not even friends because once one of us starts dating someone our hang outs will diminish"
she then! started questioning this "why do you say that? why have you said it before?"
i didn't expect to give an explanaton for my manipulation intent to make her wonder why i wasnt interested more than a friend (again to suit her "justfriends" quo of us)
this is how the convo went: (M = me H = her)
M: i dont make a note to always say it
H: but you have said it more than twice
M: keeps the reality of us hangin out open i guess
H: what does that mean?
M: so when it does happen, its not like a big blow like **** howd i lose a friend?
H: ookay.
M: haha youre just makin me say this stuff now, i never even gave much thought to it
H: okay, YOU are the only one who has ever said anything like that but whatever
M: no i mean in depth
M: why do you ask?
H: because i dont know what your reason for saying it is
M: when i say it i mean, when either one of us starts dating someone that's a good conclusive possibilty
H: i know but again, its not something people normally say out loud more than once?
H: like you make it sound like it something specific you do when you get into a relationship. like let me look through my friends and decide which ones i can keep and which ones i cant
M: so there are rules now? haha
H: omg you are seriously so difficult
M: its just an obvious thing that'd happen
H: EXACTLY
H: so why talk about it so many times
M: why let it bother you so much?
H: omg
M: haha thats like when people say its nice out today, statin somethin thats been said plenty before heh
M: who cares!
H: no thats not really it
M: theres no like methodical plan behind why i say it so often
M: prob when somethin is brought up and the reality of it hits me, then i make the statement ha
M: its puttin things in perspective
H: whatever
M: maybe to not take it for granted or something on a subsconscious level
M: in other words, go ahead, try to find a replacement it's funny to me ;-)
M: but seriously, i need to vacuum now haha so i'll brb
H: a replacement of what?
she asked the last thing when i had left the computer, if this convo picks up again how should i handle it? was what happened there a good start on my part? sorry its so long guys, but thanks in advance.
