Conversations with woman

[HappyHobo]

It seems like i no longer have a joy in conversing with women and i think it is due to the lack of sense of humor i used to have when talking to women. I used to talk to them smoothly with ease. For example, I would introduce myself and she would introduce herself and she would tell me her name and i would say something like... "Ooh thats a lovely name. I love the way it moves my tongue when i say it." I would say silly stuff like that and just be really playful and get them laughing and it would make me happy seeing them laugh.

But now i just dont have it anymore. I dont konw why i just want to revive my remarkable ability again. What can i do to cure me of my mental block. It has been going on for a while. It was long ago when i was so smooth. Its hard for me to get girls laughing and have good conversations. When i talk to girls now.. its just dull and dry and normal conversations. There's no spice and fun in it like how i used to put in.

What is wrong with me. What is causing my mental block? Why cant i think of good clever and witty things to say on the spot anymore? Why wont it all just pop into my head like it used? Why wont my mind flow with ease and resonate beautiful thoughts?

 

[Big Pappy]

You can't force yourself to be funny. You either make the connections in your environment and stretch the observations to a snappy demonstration of wit and banter, or you do not.

When you're not displaying a sense of humor, it's either because your audience has not helped you display such humor. Even Bud Abbott had Lou Costello, Ren has Stimpy, etc.

It takes two to make a joke or situation amusing. One to notice and stretch the observation, the other to appreciate it.

It could be that you are just wanting to stop playing the silly little game of trying to be Mr. Fungi (fun guy) and be yourself, less the desperate, clingy AFC ways.

Many things go into developing a mood for humor. What's your current mood? Why are you feeling the way you are feeling now? You should be able to control how you feel. Can you?

Remember, it is not solely upon you to entertain the ladies. They should be quite capable of entertaining you, as well.

 

[HappyHobo]

Big Pappy, thanks for yoru reply.

When i say i want to be playful and witty it's not for the women as much as it is for me.

It makes me actually feel happy when i see and make girls laugh in a cute and creative way.

But see, thoughts used to pop up in my mind constantly and quickly. These thoughts were relevant to the situation/conversation and were funny.

I was concentrated and focused on the conversation aand i would say things that coudl really get the girl to laugh but i never realize that i was doing that till afterwards.

I can't do that anymore and i dont know why. Does anybody know what the solultion is here for my problem

 

[InstantDJ]

Questions to increase interests

To be funny is another case, what about questions that help incrase her interests and get to know her better?

Any questions suggested?

 

[Eileen]

I don't want to sound rude but it sounds like a personal issue. Like you've fallen into a rut in your life. It happens. We all do from time to time.

If you want to have interesting conversation, you must first be an interesting person. Doing the same things day after day isn't interesting.

Find some new hobbies. Try some new things. Get back to some old things that you've enjoyed. That will help to kick the block out of the way.

 

[HappyHobo]

Eileen, your advice seems like it would divert me from the problem.

Its like your tellling me to go do something else to take my mind off it. That is SOoooOOOo rude; i cant believe that is the kind of advice you would give me.

What's next, are you going to tell me to go see a psychiatrist? Geez Eileen. Then you call my problem a "rut"... so you now are making fun of my problem.

Im going to not come to this board tomorrow so i wont be doing something day after day and so that i'll be interesting.

Here's my new hobby: Having creative conversations with girls and making them laugh. That's something "old" that i have enjoyed i think ill make that a hobby.

Signing out, for a while so i wont be doing the "same things day after day," all thanks to eileen.

Hope your happy now.

 

[WaterTiger]

Perhaps you need to try on a different kind of woman? Now I'm just guessing here, but do you always go to the same club? The same neigborhood? The same type of girl?

You've got to keep the edge sharp by honing it on different women. You know how to amuse the SAME girls at the SAME club. You've done this so often & so well...perhaps you are bored.

Try a new area, different club, different town. Approach older women, younger women, business types, Goth types...ANY type as long as it's NOT the ones you usually approach.

You don't have to date them, just talk to them, charm them like you KNOW you can. It just might put a edge back on your quick wit.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

"I was concentrated and focused on the conversation aand i would say things that coudl really get the girl to laugh but i never realize that i was doing that till afterwards."

Here may lie your solution in your own words - start to "focus and concentrate" on what is being said and on your surroundings and be comfortable doing this - maybe your too busy trying to focus on applying your DJ tips and losing track of your conversation when a joke may present itself you are lost in thought on something else (like maybe over analyzing what she said) . Be naturall and not contrived.

As the saying goes "You can't see the forest for the trees" -- your view imay be too narrow.

 

[HappyHobo]

Puertorican_lover, your advice is probably the best given so far.
I usually dont have too much focus in conversations anymore.

I am distracted by my surroundings a lot so i can never concentrate on what she is saying.

And Dj tips have been flooded in my mind so i dont know what is natural anymore.

Also, my emotions werent as enthused and radiant as they used to be.

I think i need to get my emotions together, be more comfortable in my surroundings, and concentrate on the conversation more.

 

[Eileen]

Originally posted by HappyHobo
Hope your happy now.

Jolly as a frog on a rock, actually.

 

[HappyHobo]

And you probably look just like a frog so why dont you make like one and hop right out of this forum.

This forum is for MEN not woman. I have no problem with a womans input or opinions but yours sucks.

 

[Eileen]

Well now, guess you told me.

Your attitude might explain why you have so many troubles talking with girls.

 

[HappyHobo]

If you were fully a girl that would explain it but in this case it wouldnt.

You are the third sex of society and that is the half male half woman gender.

I have seen many like you. Y'all are all over this board

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by HappyHobo
If you were fully a girl that would explain it but in this case it wouldnt.

You are the third sex of society and that is the half male half woman gender.

I have seen many like you. Y'all are all over this board

ooooooh! you tole us, girlfriend!