Conversation?

[loner4shou]

how do u start a conversation that will make the women interested in u and how do u keep it going and keep her interested? everytime i get into a conversation the girl tends to get bored and give me a fake #. how do i solve this freaken problem.

 

[PathGoer]

Post a transcript of the last conversation.

 

[loner4shou]

alright.

me: whats up girl what's ur name?
her: (girls name). what about ur's?
me: (my name), u having fun tonight.
her: sort of. what about u?
me: same here. sort of.
then blah blah blah! yall get the deal right.
so can yall help me out!

 

[PathGoer]

What if I ask you: "What's up", right this moment, can you answer in three sentences? Avoid the words "nothing" and "just".

Wanna try right now? Go ahead! Three sentences.

 

[Captain Popular]

practice makes perfect man
over time you will become a better talker and words will flow easier..just practice...like if you have a number and scared you're gunna run out of things to talk about make a list b4 and that way if you get stuck bamm you got something to talk about...ask open ended questions and just listen to them, if you listen well you will be able to respond to what she was talking about...girls love to talk, give them something to talk about....so open-ended questions willl help you build some confidence when you talk to the opposite sex..hmm if i think of anything else ill let you know man.
Im Out
Mr. Larry aka Captain Popular

 

[loner4shou]

alright. what's up! what's ur name? how old are u? are these correct or am i miss understanding ur post. if i am then tell me what to do.


thanks 4 all ur advice guys, i really appreciate them but im still confused on the open ended question what do u mean by open ended?

 

[Captain Popular]

Thats my mutha frekin name so dont hate
open ended is like a non yes or no question like

"so whats your favorite season?"
"ohh it's the summer."
instead of saying why, say "well when the summer rolls around how does it make you feel? ohh blahh blahh blahh.
\that wasnt the best example but you kinda get the drift
i dunno go on the internet and do some searches you'll find something

again dont be hatin on the name
Im Out,
Mr. Larry

 

[j8snx1]

You can usually kick off your convo's based on the environment,

I would do something like:

"Hey there! Can I ask you a question?"
"Sure." (Question thing is almost fool-proof, unless she's running to catch up to the bus or something)
***usually i'd think of something really broad or really specific***
"What do you think about guys wearing pink?"
or
"How does this look on me?"
"Are you single?"
"Which would you say is better, chicken or beef?"

Bah..you get the drift.

If it's at a mall or something, I try to get a girl's opinion, since I have a rough time picking out clothes at times.

If it's at a restaurant or a BBQ I'd try to ask what the girl likes, and move the convo towards her cooking, etc etc.

 

[Eccentric]

Learn to be funny!

Me and a girl in the back of a car, my friend is driving, his girl is in the passenger seat. We started naming favorites.

Girl: Hey, what's your favorite color?
Me: Clear
Girl: Clear isn't a color you goof
Me: If you don't stop making fun of me, I'll turn this car around right now young lady.
Girl: *shocked expression* You aren't driving so I can say whatever I want. *sticks her tongue out*
Me: Oh no? Haven't you ever heard of a back seat driver *smerk on my face*
Girl: *Laughing* - gives me a kiss on the cheek "That's for being cute, AND making me laugh."

Theres more to that story, but thats an example.

If you're meeting a girl for the first time, she doesn't want to have a stupid conversation like she's in a classroom, or like shes talking to her older brother. She wants to laugh and have a good time. Show her one.

Avoid negative statments (self bashing included), religion, politics, and ANY relationships.

NEVER EVER ask if she's single or has a BF, EVER.

You aren't supposed to care about that. What you care about is making the sale, rather than the lame sales pitch. If she's seeing someone, she will let you know. Play it off for as long as you can! Girls lie you know. Show her that you wanted to talk to her because YOU wanted to, not because you think she's single.

 

[loner4shou]

thanks again guys but sometimes i run out of what to say and what am i supposed to do. i don't wanna stand there looking like a duma$$ and i dont want to say something that will make me look like a wuss either. what do i do in this situation?

 

[Magnatolia]

I'm the same way in a social situation. I have trouble conversing well.

But at work I'm a bit more comfortable and I'm pushing myself to have better conversations.

My best example was an attractive woman that started working with me for a week or so. We were away from the rest of the workers and I spent 5 days (7 hour days) with her talking about everything and anything. I was completely relaxed even though I was attracted to her (she had a partner). The best advice I can give is to ask the basic questions then try and expand on what they've said. Whatever you do don't simply go on to the next question. This is what makes the conversations break. Eventually you run out of questions to ask.

An example:

Me: How long have you been in Australia?
Her: several years now. I've been working in X company for most of that time.
Me: What areas have you worked in?
Her: X, Y and Z. I was handling all of the x documents. They're a pain.
Me: I know the feeling. I've had to process those documents before. I couldn't stand them.

You get the drift. That was similar to a convo I had with a fellow colleague. The letters I used are so I don't put specific info here.

Try and use empathy, sympathy and comparisons where possible and appropriate. In the above I used empathy when she was talking about the documents because I felt the same way. Plus I used comparison.

Also, when you answer try and give as much details as possible. This gives her the chance of replying to what you've said.

In regards to your example convo, here's two different ways of improving that:

1. This is if you're having a good time:

You: You having a good time tonight?
Her: yeah, sort of. What about you?
You: I'm having a great time. You've just met me so your night can only get better. Let's dance.

2. When you're having an okay time:

You: You having a good time tonight?
Her: yeah, sort of. What about you?
You: Yeah, same here. The band's not really doing it for me.

In the second example, notice that I've given a reason why I'm not having a great time. Generally, if she has any convo skills she'll either agree or give the reason why she's not having a great time. Her response could be used to your advantage (suggest the two of yotu go to another venue, etc)

Well, that's it from me.

 

[loner4shou]

thanks man that really helped me out. if yall have more answer to my ?'s then please post them so i can help improve my convo's. thanks again yall.