Conversation

[seroph]

I've searched the forum for similar posts..I've read the bible on conversations.. But I just can't seem to get it down. Almost every time I talk to a girl I run out of things to say within 5 minutes.

At that point I'm just smiling and looking like a fool. :nervous: lol.


I dunno.. any words would be much appreciated. thanks

 

[Scoiland]

You must listen to keep the conversation going

If you listen closely to what she is saying you will easily be able to pick up clues

 

[undesputable]

i guess you must have missed the other 1000 posts excatly like this.......just come up with the unexpected, make her do most of the talking ask her questions and bust on her every other chance you get.

 

[seroph]

that's true. what if she's "cold" or doesn't leave much room for expansion... i feel the need to like - totally start a new topic of convo. which sometimes works.. also doesnt.. .. for me at least..

thanks

 

[Siferalus]

Stories. Pay attention to your life and find a few good stories to tell. If you feel like it, embellish them a bit and make it hella interesting. Whenever the conversation's going down, pop in one of your stories. "You won't believe what happened to me the other day!"

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I like to act goofy. Start talking about stuff no one else would ever dare to mention.

Anyone can ask you how your summer is going, whats your favorite color, do you like your job, etc. But very few would ever ask a girl what her favorite smurf is!

Did you know that lightbulbs don't emit light, they actually suck in darkness? Yep, its true, forget all the propaganda in physics class, darkness is all around us and light sources are actually like vaccums and they suck it in, hence leaving light behind. That's why light bulbs break after a while. Not because they're burnt out but because they are just full of dark!



Yeah it sounds lame but you have no idea how many people find such a bizarre thing funny and start saying things that lead to further conversation. "Oh really, where did you learn this?" "oh, the internet told me, and the internet never lies. if there are two things you can trust in this world its the internet and TV." etc.

You get the idea.

Goofiness works. It makes you fun to be around and fun to talk to especially if you are good and making up **** like what I just wrote above on the spot and on demand. If you can't, memorize a few topics or rants that are funny and use them whenever there is a dull moment.

 

[izza]

AMEN! Just kidding, here's something you could say:

"What's your number"

*walks*



Izza

 

[NYC_AFC]

This is my problem too, but I run out material after 1 minute

 

[h2o]

yeah, if there's mutual interest, she will do most of the talking. haven't you ever heard that "girls love to talk"? or why is that it's drilled into our heads that girls want guys to listen to them?

Originally posted by undesputable
make her do most of the talking ask her questions

exactly...she will naturally do most of the talking if she opens up to you. but don't just ask questions like an interview, mix it up and just relax and make whatever comments you want...funny or not, just have fun with it.

Originally posted by Scoiland
You must listen to keep the conversation going

If you listen closely to what she is saying you will easily be able to pick up clues

yeah, this has been repeated in those "1000 threads" that undesputable said you missed. for example, you ask her plans for the summer, and she says "i'm going to europe" you could...
...say something unique/interesting about an experience (like joe dirt said, keep it interesting and creative, not just all boring fluff talk)
...ask where in europe? when? why? etc.

so, she says "italy" you could...

...make a joke about her being involved with mafia and laundering money (yeah, i don't know, most jokes are better in the spur of the moment)
...what's there to see? family? sights? won't she miss you while she's gone (j/k)?
...ask if she's italian

...this could carry on to italian foods, then to favorite foods, then if she cooks (what kind of a woman is she if she doesn't??), etc etc...

think of it like a tree. you start with the trunk. this is where you greet one another and start with some boring fluff talk like the weather, classes, summer plans, etc. then go to different branches, which are more specific aspects of these categories. each branch can lead to numerous possibilities of twigs which can lead to endless more possibilities of flowers/leaves...the flowers/leaves being topics/subjects/interests you have in common. i bet you get the idea. this is tougher on cold approaches when you don't know the girl at all, so it's tough to lead the conversation...i'm still working on that myself...but if you've met atleast once before, it should be pie.

if she is "cold" and gives you one-word answers to everything then asks you the same question, she isn't interested. for the ones who are interested, just be cool, and bounce off subject after subject.
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what part of MA are you from, btw?

 

[diablo]

There's no way that people can plan out your entire conversation for you sentence by sentence.

While I appreciate the effort you say you've made in searching, I do find it a bit hard to believe that you could have gone through 350+ threads related to conversation and not been able to find anything that would help you...

Conversation is like anything else, it takes practice. For some people it comes naturally, for others it's an acquired skill.

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