Controlling your smiling?

[arglebargle]

I have a hard time controlling my smiling when i'm in a nervous or ackward situation. I give a big f-cking grin which people don't understand. I've tried to control this wierd habit, but nothing has worked so far.

I also have aspergers syndrome, so that's a huge contributing factor. Anyone else out there have aspergers or know any techniques to control this problem?

 

[ApC23]

i have the same smiling problem...when im with my buddies. i try to control it..and i smile even more. its ****ing annoying.

 

[IsiMan84]

I had to look up the disease to see what it is. I wonder if my friend has the same thing. He will just sit there with a silly smile on his face and won't say anything sometimes. For most things these days people usually resort to medicine, but I don't see if there's any way you can really undo what your brain is programmed to do without some sort of mind-altering drugs.

 

[sheep-man]

yeh i smile heaps too... and i dont have a heaps good smile like i guess its ok but it could be alot better, but most the time whoeva i smile at the smile back so doesnt really matter that much.. u could get anti depressents guy down the rd use to use em, they get rid of all empotion while under the influence of one u are uncapable of any emotion so i meen this mite full not work and i wouldnt wanna take em to find out but if ure game u could try and game a girl with no emotion itd ether have a heaps crap response or an awesome one!

 

[chickenlegs03]

are you kidding me? and that's a problem, why?

a lot of guys have trouble smiling, and feel like they're forcing it. that's how i used to be. i couldn't smile naturally if my life depended on it. it took me lots of practice and trying to think of funny things, etc to make myself smile naturally at people. be thankful for this "problem" you have buddy.

i smile a ton too. who gives a sh*t what other people think. it makes me feel damn good. simply carry yourself higher than others because you are. most people are depressed sh*t heads who just exist doing the same thing everyday.

rarely do you meet people who live fun, spontaneous lives. get out of your head into the real world. you'll start to notice that almost everyone, all they do is complain, whine, b*tch, moan, etc...

most people are negative. if you don't believe me, just look at the pitiful replies you just got in this thread. you must be ON meds thinking this guy needs pills to control his smiling. wtf, that's just retarded. so what if you're friend smiles a lot and says nothing, mabye he actually enjoys life. maybe, like me, when he just thinks about all the things he is appreciative and thankful for in life, he can't help but to grin ear to ear. life is fvcking beautiful, maybe you should actually start living it.

you have been blessed with a gift. use it.

by the way, excuse my down-tone in the reply, i just couldn't help it.

 

[arglebargle]

Appreciate the advice..

I'm not going the medicated route, that will just create other problems which are even worse.

BTW, the reason I think it's a problem is from what i read in Senor Fingers - Weapons of mass seduction:

Don't go overboard on the smiles though, unless you enjoy looking like a damn fool. I
managed to scare my hazel-eyes away when we had coffee the next day. I totally made her
uncomfortable with my perma-smile. Man oh man how I reeked of desperation! Oh well, at
least I learned something: Think of your smiles like occasional bursts of sunlight to warm
her heart - but your game face is super chilled out, unfazed like a sea of clouds that make
her long for the warmth of your sun-smiles!

 

[Skweints]

Yeah, I have the same problem. However, smiling because you are nervous isn't such a bad thing. I smile like a retard sometimes when I'm talking to a chick for the first time. If they don't like it, tough **** for them. It's how I am. Usually though, as I start talking to them and get more comfortable, my smiles tend to wind down. And remember to, just like we have problems with smiling too much, there are girls with the same damn problem. Maybe that's why I'm attracted to girls with a cute smile that like to smile a LOT. *shrugs*

I wouldn't worry too much about what Senor Fingers has to say. Everybody has their own way of being a pimp. Unless you've got the social status of Brad Pitt or that dude that plays the elf in Lord of the Rings (I forget his name), you're NOT ever going to be able to get into -every- hot girl's pants. Oh, wait a minute... It's probable that Brad Pitt might have gotten shot down by one or two girls himself, I'm sure. I don't know about the elf dude, though.

As long as you have confidence to approach women, confidence to to sweep them off their feet, confidence to make the first kiss, confidence to show them to the bed and what it was REALLY made for, confidence to continually show them that you're a really interesting person, then you really don't need anything else.