In honor of my 500th post, I though I would give you some words of wisdom.
One thing that stands between you and your perfect self are emotions. Emotions blind you from the truth, they mislead you, they trick you, and they scare you. One thing you must learn is to understand your emotions. And by doing this you take control of your life and you can take control of your destiny.
When attempting to understand one self, we go through many stages. When you understand yourself, you can being to change who you are. This is the same with understanding ones emotions. When you understand your emotions you can control who you are, who you want to be, and who you will become.
The first step in every recovery plan is acceptance. This is true with Control as well. When you accept that your emotions control you, other than visa versa, you can begin to change for the better. This can be hard to make, especially in this society where anger, fear, and sorrow guide almost every action we make. People have learned to take advantage of it, with advertising and similar things. Now you can too!
The next step in the Control process is identifying your emotions. This can be hard at times, especially when some are hidden under layers of denial. Plus at times, it feels good to let out your emotion, but this can lead to regret, and will allow your emotions to control you.
Situation A:
Today at work I was getting upset. It was very busy, I wasn’t handling the situation well, and I was starting to get very angry. I was yelling, hitting things, etc. I took a second to identify that I was getting angry. This is the first step.
Whenever you identify an emotion, you are halfway there to determining what you can do to change it. The next step in Control is to identify what is causing your emotion. This can be one of many things.
Situation A:
After I identified that I was angry. I took a second to think about what was causing it. I realized that I was allowing stress to control me. This is the second step.
The controlling factor, also referred to as the X factor gets easier and easier to identify as time progresses, and first it can be difficult, there might be many, but usually its another emotion attempting to control you.
Lets take for example a situation of Fear:
Situation B:
NonDon sees a HB, and is too afraid to go talk to her. He fears what will come. Its not that he fears her personally, but he fears the rejection that could POSSIBLY happen, he lets the situation pass.
Situation C:
Where as Don Juan sees a HB, and feels the fear. But he realizes that the fear is coming from the fear of rejection. When he understands this, he controls his fear by understand that the rejection will only hurt temporarily, but he will understand the pain, and begin to control it.
The final step in Control is guiding your actions to finally control who you are. This step is easy and hard at the same time. When you identify your X factor you need to figure out what you have to do to change it. In some situations you can find a solution very simply, whereas other situations involve something more complex. But in every situation you encounter, your control will guide your actions
Situation A:
After I identified that I was getting angry from the stress of my job. This anger was making me work sloppy and inefficiently. So I realized I needed to relax. If something was a little late, it wouldn’t matter, and that if I kept going my work would eventually be completed. I changed my actions to relax and I finished my work, and did so successfully with no errors, that would have happened had I let my anger control me.
Situation D:
One day I was driving along, and the person in front of me was going 5 below, and I could keep my speed at his easily. I was not getting upset, but apparently he was. He thought I was tailgating him, which I wasn't, there was a good cars length between us, so instead of controlling his anger, he let it control him. Instead of accelerating to find out I wasn’t tailgating, he decides to brake. I was still calm, but he was still angry, and slowed down to 15 under the speed limit. At this point there was an opening in the other lane, so I got in it, and passed him. I continued to where I was going, unbeknownst to me, he was still following me. I get to my final destination, and I see him pull up, still angry. Instead of letting myself get angry at this guy, I drove away, and let him stew in his own lack of control.
If he had just controlled his anger from the beginning, he would not have had any problems and would have enjoyed his ride. He even risked doing something he would have regretted later, and possibly getting arrested for. But he didn’t control his anger.
Every emotion attempts to control you. Whether it be anger, fear, pain, love, hatred, greed, lust, and so on. What you must do is to understand these emotions and control them. Also, don’t hide and restrict your emotions, but learn to understand them and contain them so they don’t control you.
Master your emotions and you can Control your destiny!
--Vincent
One thing that stands between you and your perfect self are emotions. Emotions blind you from the truth, they mislead you, they trick you, and they scare you. One thing you must learn is to understand your emotions. And by doing this you take control of your life and you can take control of your destiny.
When attempting to understand one self, we go through many stages. When you understand yourself, you can being to change who you are. This is the same with understanding ones emotions. When you understand your emotions you can control who you are, who you want to be, and who you will become.
The first step in every recovery plan is acceptance. This is true with Control as well. When you accept that your emotions control you, other than visa versa, you can begin to change for the better. This can be hard to make, especially in this society where anger, fear, and sorrow guide almost every action we make. People have learned to take advantage of it, with advertising and similar things. Now you can too!
The next step in the Control process is identifying your emotions. This can be hard at times, especially when some are hidden under layers of denial. Plus at times, it feels good to let out your emotion, but this can lead to regret, and will allow your emotions to control you.
Situation A:
Today at work I was getting upset. It was very busy, I wasn’t handling the situation well, and I was starting to get very angry. I was yelling, hitting things, etc. I took a second to identify that I was getting angry. This is the first step.
Whenever you identify an emotion, you are halfway there to determining what you can do to change it. The next step in Control is to identify what is causing your emotion. This can be one of many things.
Situation A:
After I identified that I was angry. I took a second to think about what was causing it. I realized that I was allowing stress to control me. This is the second step.
The controlling factor, also referred to as the X factor gets easier and easier to identify as time progresses, and first it can be difficult, there might be many, but usually its another emotion attempting to control you.
Lets take for example a situation of Fear:
Situation B:
NonDon sees a HB, and is too afraid to go talk to her. He fears what will come. Its not that he fears her personally, but he fears the rejection that could POSSIBLY happen, he lets the situation pass.
Situation C:
Where as Don Juan sees a HB, and feels the fear. But he realizes that the fear is coming from the fear of rejection. When he understands this, he controls his fear by understand that the rejection will only hurt temporarily, but he will understand the pain, and begin to control it.
The final step in Control is guiding your actions to finally control who you are. This step is easy and hard at the same time. When you identify your X factor you need to figure out what you have to do to change it. In some situations you can find a solution very simply, whereas other situations involve something more complex. But in every situation you encounter, your control will guide your actions
Situation A:
After I identified that I was getting angry from the stress of my job. This anger was making me work sloppy and inefficiently. So I realized I needed to relax. If something was a little late, it wouldn’t matter, and that if I kept going my work would eventually be completed. I changed my actions to relax and I finished my work, and did so successfully with no errors, that would have happened had I let my anger control me.
Situation D:
One day I was driving along, and the person in front of me was going 5 below, and I could keep my speed at his easily. I was not getting upset, but apparently he was. He thought I was tailgating him, which I wasn't, there was a good cars length between us, so instead of controlling his anger, he let it control him. Instead of accelerating to find out I wasn’t tailgating, he decides to brake. I was still calm, but he was still angry, and slowed down to 15 under the speed limit. At this point there was an opening in the other lane, so I got in it, and passed him. I continued to where I was going, unbeknownst to me, he was still following me. I get to my final destination, and I see him pull up, still angry. Instead of letting myself get angry at this guy, I drove away, and let him stew in his own lack of control.
If he had just controlled his anger from the beginning, he would not have had any problems and would have enjoyed his ride. He even risked doing something he would have regretted later, and possibly getting arrested for. But he didn’t control his anger.
Every emotion attempts to control you. Whether it be anger, fear, pain, love, hatred, greed, lust, and so on. What you must do is to understand these emotions and control them. Also, don’t hide and restrict your emotions, but learn to understand them and contain them so they don’t control you.
Master your emotions and you can Control your destiny!
--Vincent
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