bonez, you wrote: So you need to develop an identity for yourself, something that you can defend, an identity that you can show to others that is CONGRUENT with your routine.
This is actually it. The Golden Nugget of truth, the Pearl of Wisdom we are ALL (knowingly or not) looking for.
You have to find yourSELF first. then you must accept yourSELF. And change those things you do not like about your SELF.
then...LOVE You New SELF.
Everything you say or do or feel msut be done with CONGRUENCE. That is, this unwaivering INtegrity in the performance of your daily life.
Your Belife Sytem must be Strong. And your Internal COmpass and Guidance must be well developed.
That way, everythign you say or do, is at one with your desire. You don't need external Validation anymore.
You need for people to give you Permission, or to Accept you, or to Love you, or to tell you that "it's going to be alright."
You simply don't NEED those things.
Sure, recognition and acceptance, and love are very, very, nice. It makes life mush more softer and sweeter.
But we're Men. And we must accept our Role. We are Warriors, Hunters, Providers,Leaders, Creators, and Lovers.
We, as Men, should not be looking for the "easy"way out. Just the CORRECT Way to resolving conflict, and attaingin our Goals.
Be Congruent. Say only what you MEAN. And DO only what you know is the Correct thing to Do.
And don't look for Validation from anyone. You only need to do this for yourself, and this comes from wiothin you. Only YOU.
Accept that and you will be Free.
Do this while living your Life.
Self acceptance, self reliance, self assuredness, self sufficiency, self esteem, self worth.
These are for you to rediscover and enrich in your daily life.
Some days will be hard.
Some days will be joyous.
Some women will be cold.
Some women will be warm and loving.
But yourSELF is always with you.
You casn hide from it. You can try to run form it.
You can try to destroy it.
But all this is for naught.
You already possess the intelligence to cret ethe life, and the YOU , that YOU DESIRE.
When you have dine that.
There is no need for crutches, or techniques, or routines.
You are here to be the best seklf you can be. And to experience the Joy that your heart DESIRES.
You need to find this passion within you.
This must radiate from inside you, not from external sources.
You need to accept those things, and people that have created their own life and circumstances.
And live your life as YOU see fit.
Free yourSELF.
Let other BE them SELVES around you.
Your life will change.
And the more you stay inside that path, the more happiness will become apparent to you.
The more you make this your life style, the more you prepare yourself for a bright future.
this is real. This is not fantasy. Or an illusion.
The world outside your room IS the illusion.
The media. Your upbringing. Your environment. Negative Experiences. Advertising. Everything, even science. It's all an illusion. THAT is THE "Matrix."
The Matrix was designed to satisfy people externally. But it shuts off their own beliefs, happiness, spirituality, and their true..unique Creativity.
It is so important for all ofus here to accept that THIS is THE REALITY. Not what you SEE outside in the "world."
It's not.
You know the old saying "Life is what you make it."?
You see only what YOU WANT to SEE.
What if when you look in the mirror you see a Loser?
What if, now, armed with this knowledge that it is ALL SELF PERCEPTION, what would you do with this knowledge?
Apply it.
Now.
"Life is what YOU MAKE IT."
Live by those words. And women will never have the same importance that it used to.
Your Life, Happiness, Fulfillment, and Content and especially...your Peaceof Mind will manifest and manitain there. For you.
It WIL be there for you.
YOu CAN Live the Life you desire.
But you need to put in the work.
For those who are young here on the forum, realzie that the earlier your start to desitre happiness and joy themore likely the outcome later in life.
Frustration is Desire UNFULFILLED.
Frustration leads to Anger, and Depression. A miserable existence.
THAT is NOT "Life."
That shoudl not be your decision.
Decide the Correct course of Action. As Males, realize your Masculinity...and prepare yourself to be a Man.
That decision will one day hit you like a ton of bricks when you look around you andyou see the human wreckage and the carnage of misery, depression, loneliness, and self hatred all around you.
Don't CHOOSE THat "life',
It is Not for you.
Choose the Correct Course of Action.
You need to...
